I am 24 with 3 children. Yes, I started young. Anyway, my oldest is 9 and my youngest is 6. I am married now but not with their father. My husband has one biological son that is 7 he dosent get to see that often. He is wanting us to have a child together. We both were very young when we had children. Can you blame him for wanting another child? I would be okay with the ones we have. I am also open to his feelings. What would you do?
2006-11-03 02:14:19 · 13 answers · asked by Sari 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Obviously there is a big part of you that doesn't want more children. Do you have the money for more children? Do you even have a home for them? If I were you I'd wait till your other children are older. Your 24 you and your husband still have pleanty of time to have kids. Perhaps you should consult your family about this. Don't let your husband talk you into doing something you don't want to do. Hope this helps. Good Luck.
2006-11-03 02:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ziggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're still young and can have children why not have another one with your husband? I think your older children may even enjoy at the fact they'll be expecting a little baby brother/sister and maybe so very helpful too. Your husband has a natural desire to be a father to another child...and plus children are really a blessing from God. I hope you guys do decide to have another.
2006-11-03 02:19:41 · answer #2 · answered by bornagain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adding a new baby always changes the family dynamics and as you probably know already, are expensive! If you are emotionally and biologically/physically comfortable with the ones you have now perhaps you can come to a compromise of sorts. I think ultimately it is your decision since you have to carry it around and do most of the work for the first 9 months :p But I do like how you take into account to what he wants to do too. Good luck with whatever decision you make.
2006-11-03 02:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by ktb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants a child that the two of you share. It's normal and almost expected that the two of you have a child together. He wants to have that bond that he and his wife created. He wants to have a child with you and that's perfectly normal. Who could blame him?
When you go to make your decision, ask yourselves a couple of questions: Can we physically handle another child? Emotionally? Could the children we already have handle being a big sister or big brother? Remember this is a decision for the two of you and the half siblings need to be considered in this decision.
2006-11-03 02:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you both are young, why don't you guys just wait a few years and enjoy your time with the children that you have. There is plenty of time and you both need to think of the future with saving money or maybe going back to school. Plus, in a few years, you will have live-in babysitters that will be a huge help and your little ones will be better prepared and happier.
2006-11-03 02:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by lynnguys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is very important to him, I would have his child...but only with the following agreement. That ALL children would be treated the same. He doesn't get to see his son often, and so you can't blame him for wanting another with the woman he loves. I just think it's real important to make sure all are treated the same. Make sure all of them know how much they are loved and appreciated and how special each one is individually. If he shows "his" child favoritism, there could be some resentment there.
2006-11-03 02:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 27 and have four children, ages 8 to 1 My boyfriend does not have any children and would like to have one. I belive if you are financialy stable enough and feel that you would have enough time and patience for another child then it's fine, but you both need to sit down and really talk this out and make sure it is something you both want.
2006-11-03 02:25:59 · answer #7 · answered by voidtillnow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are only 24 you can have another one. I could not take having another child the 2 I have is too much for me now.
2006-11-03 02:22:46 · answer #8 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a question of "wanting" that shoud be priority, but can you really effort to have another child? You are young and god you have done so much already, you have 3 kids! Woaw! If you have another little one, how is it going to affect you? And your 3 kids? Do you want a baby just to cement your relationship, are you thinking of doing it for him?Is he gonna stay? Do it for the right reasons, have a little baby if that is what you BOTH want.
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2016-10-15 08:14:39 · answer #10 · answered by liguori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋