I have become good friends with one of my bf's friends. We go out to dinner and have drinks from time to time. We have never done anything physically (not even a kiss). We talk on the phone everyday, and lately he's been telling me that he wished that he had met me before my bf did, because he would have never married his wife. My bf and his wife don't know that we go out and that we talk everyday, but they know that we are cool. they just doesn't know how cool. Are we cheating?
2006-11-03 02:12:53 · 33 answers · asked by arrizona 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cheating does not have to involve physical contact. If you're both emotionally involved and hiding it from your spouses, it's cheating.
2006-11-03 02:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, you are not physically cheating on your bf but you are emotionally cheating on him, which is just as bad. You NEED to tell him because if you end up marrying him, that is not a way to start a marriage. He would probably appreciate it more too if you were to tell him instead of him finding out on his own. Believe me, I know. Just tell him and figure out what you want. Don't tempt yourself. If you do't trust yourself around your bf friend then it would be in yours and his best interest to leave each other alone.
2006-11-03 02:17:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you married? Are you under some contract that says you cant have a quality relationship with whomever you wish? I think you have a good heart for asking such a question.....I don't believe your cheating at all. You keep on doing what is right and let things run their course. Cheating takes place in the heart, not on the bed.
2006-11-03 02:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by BudLt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok is it technically cheating, NO. But lets face it you would not have asked if you did not feel it was or need to be reassured that it wasn't. And because you asked, I am going to say STOP. Why do you need to have this extra reassurance? Is your boyfriend really the guy for you if he isn't enough all by himself and you need to get a little somethin somethin somewhere else. That is what you are doing. STOP. This will turn out badly if you don't.
2006-11-03 02:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by lilygateau 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. Try putting yourself in your boyfriends or his wife's shoes. How do you think his wife and your boyfriend would react to your closeness? Why haven't you told them about it? What you are doing is dating his friend. No, you haven't gotten physical, yet, but you're connecting on an emotional level. That can be more detrimental than a physical connection. If you want to stay with your boyfriend and he wants to honor his marriage vows (you don't mention if he has children or not - I hope not), you need to stop it now. Otherwise, you're going to have to hurt a whole bunch of people so you can be together.
2006-11-03 02:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not cheating, but its getting close. I'd say back off with the dinner and drinks all the time unless you guys go out with a group of people. I know man and woman can be good friends, but don't let that get in the way of your relationships.
2006-11-03 02:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
sorry but yes you are...and a part of you knows that you are cheating otherwise his wife and your boyfriend would know about the talking between you two and the going out for drinks...honey if you have a good man at home then leave his friend alone before you end up alone...the friend is married and i can bet you a barrel of 100 dollar bills if your man leaves you for doing this with his best friend the best friend WONT leave his wife for you...wake up before you loose everything you have...good luck
2006-11-03 02:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by kimbersweet 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you feel guilty about your relationship with this guy ? Sounds like more than friendship to me . BE very careful in what you say and do and always think about the other people you could hurt ,and not even know your hurting them . His wife probably wouldn't like it and he already regrets marrying her .GOOD LUCK .
2006-11-03 02:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by rhonda h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you having to ask then yes, you might not have gotten physical, but emotionally you must be getting something from him that you are not nfrom your husband, and that is wrong. Sounds like you to need to talk about the situation and possibly to you significant others.
2006-11-03 02:19:16 · answer #9 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sound like you are on the border of cheating an just looking for a good time to jump over!
2006-11-03 02:18:28 · answer #10 · answered by drakekse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i dont think you are yet but from the sounds of it it sounds like you are leading to it.... if you dont think it is wrong then why have you not told your bf or him why hasnt he told his wife if it wasnt wrong...just watch yourself think of what you really want and dont get caught up in the moment good luck
2006-11-03 02:23:08 · answer #11 · answered by Anita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋