This guy I went to prom in april with is driving me nuts. I tried for a long time not to like him and its not working. Over the summer we hung out a lot and things progressed slowly and we are going to snowball together next saturday but he told me he doesnt want a gf right now. I am over at his house a ton and his parents like me and all 7 siblings really like me but he is sending me mixed signals. I confronted him one day about dating and found out he went on a date with another girl. He said nothing happened and he didnt want me to be mad but dude!! He does all sorts of sweet stuff like keep me warm when I'm cold and when I dont feel good in class he will ask me whats wrong and he seems to want to be there for me but is it possible that he just doesnt want a gf now. Could it progress to that someday? We are really good friends and have known each other for a long time! Thanks!!
2006-11-03 02:09:04 · 10 answers · asked by osufan591 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the way you said snowballing so casually i am guessing that you mean playing in the snow ?
the rest i think you keep him as a good Friend and when he is ready thing could go farther just remind him that you like him every so often of he will think you are just friends ! ~¿Ô
2006-11-03 02:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems like a good guy. a very endangered species and in very high demand. or maybe he's a virgin and knows how to be charming but doesnt know how to escalate to something sexual.
you on the other hand need to be careful what you wish for, because you might anticipate becoming lovers, and then get something unexpected that changes the dynamics of the friendship forever
play the waiting game. stick to him and remain his good friends. everybody else will pretty much think youre a couple and will probably keep their distance. you might not have him, but at least you can keep him from being taken by somebody else
also, try to dress and do things that make yourself more attractive. i dont mean dress like a sIut, but push those little buttons that make him become attracted to you. flash him some leg by "accident" or ask him to unzip a dress that "got stuck". dont push anything sexual at him, keep it "friendly" but do things that will make the attraction grow, so that he will start to see you in a different way, with out you diving on him and being forward about your intentions. theres only so much he can take before he snaps. then openly talk to him about it. tell him you like him and is really glad he's there for you. leave a piece of clothing at his place by "accident", to make him think about you while youre not around
he'll come around eventually. he'll have no choice but to
2006-11-03 10:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by unkerpaulie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's truly a good chance of you two being together. Oh my why is he holding back? I'd really like to know too =P
I guess he's just not sure whether you are the right one. Nothing wrong with him dating another girl. Just meeting up nothing much. But sounds like he's commitment phobic, and that's really unfair to you though.
My take: Tell him straight that whether you are gonna wait for him, and how long. If he does not respond in kind, then sorry, you are moving on. I reckon this is best for both of you. Don't wait your youth on such a man, it's his loss.
Good luck!
2006-11-03 10:16:49 · answer #3 · answered by Zhanew 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do urself a favor and just be friends. its not very offten u find a guy that just wants to be friends. and sometimes thouse are the most valubal. Im this way with alot of girls i think they make better freinds then guys bc other guys are so imature that itt amases me that i am one of them even if i cant spell but what are u gonna do.
p.s. thx for reminding me about my own life. ive forgoten y i wanted to be freinds in the first place
thank you
2006-11-03 10:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like he wants his cake and eat it too. I mean if you two are having sex then thats what it is. He knows that you like him and you would do anything so he feels he can keep it at a friend level and still be satisfied, but thats unfair to you. Move on.. i mean being friends is not bad but if you feel uncomfortable follow your heart and move on
2006-11-03 10:18:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont mean to be rude but you need to make him decide because if he went out with another girl but tells you he doesnt want a girlfriend then he is lying. you dont want a man who will lie or play games with your heart, find out then you may need to move on.
2006-11-03 10:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by adnama_n_werd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it sounds like he just wants to remain friends with you. He sees you more like a buddy or a sister than he does a hot date.
2006-11-03 10:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Optimistic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it possibly could, but maybe he doesn't want g/f now like he said, give it some time.
2006-11-03 10:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by psychopathic bi*ch. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants his cake and eat it too. IF he can't commit you should bail out
2006-11-03 10:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just stay friends! friends dont break ur heart unless u let them!!
2006-11-03 10:15:04 · answer #10 · answered by shygirl33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋