Well i am 13 and this whole year has been shity, me and me mum have never really gotten along some days we have fun others we practically hate each other, one day she got really angry and said either i leave home or she will, and i don't wont her to go, or me, no matter wat the case is i can never hate my parents, i love them to much, if this is so then why the hell are me and mum always fighting, nad most da time its ova nufin. Sometimes i hate myself because i make her cry and then i cry and feel responcible for making her life hell, some days i jus hate myself. what is it please help me!
2006-11-03 02:07:22 · 12 answers · asked by Mintiez 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its normal you have jsut entered into your teens.
The realtionship whll get strong as you get older
2006-11-03 02:09:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter and I fight sometimes over the stupidest things we are alot alike. The issue for us seems to be that we both have an opinion and that opinion is strong enough for us to be passionate about. For me, and this is lame but, I pay the bills so my way goes all the time. The "You're leaving or I'm leaving" comes from an unwillingness to understand the other person, this phrase comes to mind, "first seek to understand before being understood" Someone, supposed to be the adult, has to take the lead in bringing about conversation. Then it ultimately comes down to respect, a huge word in today's society, not so much in mine, in mine any adult could discipline you, now no adult can. You live in your parents home because you are 13 and when you become 18 you have some choices to make can you live with the rules of your parents home, if you can great but it is still their house and they have the final say, if you can't then it's time for you to leave. Remember don't say anything you have to unsay, that means don;t say something that you don;t mean: like I hate you unless you do! I have not met a person yet, myself included, who as an adult hasn't gone back to their parents and said you know you were right most of the time growing up! Hope this helps!!
2006-11-03 10:28:00 · answer #2 · answered by claimusic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is because she loves you, and I suspect you are very much alike. At 13 it is understandable you will say bad things to your Mum, however she should know better than to tell you to leave.
Your problem is that you are now a teenager and probably think you are all grown up and know everything, whilst your Mum's problem is she does not know how to deal with you.
For starters, you need to try to be a little more mature, but remember you are still a minor dependent on your Mum for food, money, a roof over your head etc.
Secondly, it might be a good idea to ask your Mum for a no-shouting chat so you can both discuss what the problems are, work them out, agree certain behaviour on both parties and then STICK to what is agreed.
2006-11-03 10:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it a really big part of u growing up & mom getting older. yr hormones r kicking n & u have a lot of mixed feelings. & some days she may b just having a bad day & what happens then is she may tend 2 take it out on u but she does not mean 2 it just happens b cuz u r the closest & nearest person 2 her so she lashes out b she doesn't mean any harm she really, really loves u. try spending more time together doing fun things outside of home like window shopping @ the mall, walking n the park, dancing @ home, watching good movies together, playing trivia games, just 2 keep both of yr minds off of what the day had 2 bring. LOVE EACH!!!!
2006-11-03 10:14:28 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. San 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a difficult place chronologically. Difficult is not bad, but it can be confusing and more frustrating than you care to know. At your age, you are growing physically and emotionally and both can cause you to act and do things that are......off the charts. Your Mom is acting out because she is also confused and hurt. You were just a little girl not long ago.....now your not. Try to be respectful and kind about what you say and do to your Mom. Remember, this too shall pass. When you are in your late teens and twenties you will appreciate and love your folks more than you could possibly know. I hope crap gets better for you bug.
2006-11-03 10:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by BudLt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a teenager it isnormal for this to occur. I am a parent of a teenage girl but also went through the same myself as a teenager.
I look back now and see all the things I did to cause this barrier between myself and my parents, and don't hold any grudges we have go along well since. As much as people do not belive it you parents are acting upon their own childhood, so you become better than them. keep smiling :))
2006-11-03 23:51:57 · answer #6 · answered by Brad 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it perectly normal you area teen now and you change and u fight i was the same and still am some times i fell like doing sumthing i ant goign to sya but u get whant i mean all i do if u live in a city that has now u can do what i do int he winter and befor or during a fight u can just go otu side and build a fort and keep building till u have something to go and hide till every thing coold down see if eveyr oen mad you just get on each others nevres and then it get worse so if u leave or just stay calm and try nto to get mad then you should be fine just try going to place u like going when u get mad at your mother to cool down
2006-11-03 14:14:20 · answer #7 · answered by Tyler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. Every teenage person gets into fights with there parents. Just dont take everything that your momma says seriously. Yeah she only says these things out of anger and she doesnt mean any of it. Just try to listen to her more because she does know what she is talking about. Remember she has been there and she has done that... so listen to her. And respect her because she carried you for 9 months and gave birth to you.
2006-11-03 10:18:35 · answer #8 · answered by homie_j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was 13, I had a very similiar relationship with my mom. Now that I'm older, we're like best friends.
This is a phase of your age. It will get better. Just try to be nicer to her.
2006-11-03 10:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel so negative.. if you pursue, things could be great again.. she's your mom.. respect her.. show her your love.. be positive no matter what.. dont rebel.. just a sort of advice.. one time, you say to her 'mom i love you".. and "i'm sorry..'", these will help.. show her that there is really nothing to fight for.. talk to her in a civil manner and let all arguments be gone.. and start a new life with both of you showing love and care.. its never too late.. Good Luck and GOD Bless.. pray to God.. he knows what's best for you...
2006-11-03 10:14:38 · answer #10 · answered by ems 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think ur a little 2 young 2 b cussing and your in your teen years it will pass
2006-11-03 10:11:49 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋