much bothered me. I also worked in nursing home where I so many dear people pass away. But since my husband,I am being treated for depression, panic attacks, which have lessened but I still get pains and just feel nausious and lousy quite a lot. When I feel this way I think I'm going to have a heart attack also. Will this ever go away and can I ever feel like I used to? Please, its been three years!
2006-11-03 02:03:23 · 11 answers · asked by luckylindy0 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I know you feel depressed and overwhelmed with the loss of your husband. But it will get better with time. I am on the same boat you are on i was diagnosed with post traumatic stress syndrom and was getting panic attacks for a long time. The only way to battle this is to get out and enjoy life. I was like this for 7 years but because i let depression get to me and i didnt get out i let myself spend years of my life alone. dont let this happen to you because you will regret it in the end. I wish i could help you more but all i can offer is advice. goodluck
Think about what your husband would want.
Oh another thing i used to get nausea alot also what i would do is chew sugarless gum and it would take my mind off people around me or my stomach i hope i helped.
2006-11-03 02:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by GQsmooth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will go away when you are ready to work on letting your grief go...working in a nursing hoome is very tough ( I worked in a hospital on a small unit where pt. stayed for awhile and u get attached) this may sound silly but write your husband a letter tell him everyhting that you loved about him include some memories and then tell him why you need to let him go, tell him while you will always love him and never forget him you have to move foward in your life and try and put some of the grief behind you so that you can get out of the slump you are in. You will find in time that your depression, and panic attacks will subside, it will take a while and you have to want to work for it, get out and exercise, start running or even going for walks...go to a therpist and just pour everything out..friends are great but are not always the most objective....you have to want to REALLY help yourself. Take a deep breath and purge all of that old grief that you are holding on to-good luck and I wish oyu all the luck
2006-11-03 06:18:09 · answer #2 · answered by Dark Goddess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of hugs, Honey.
Continue the treatments, and get involved in something requiring a lot of physical activity: That will help you 'burn' off some of the emotion and energy. You may want to add time for a soothing cup of tea or something similar to your daily routine. And try planting a garden.
Another thing I've found helps *me* when I am seriously depressed or otherwise have a lot of nervous energy to deal with is clean: It's like when I'm organizing my house, I'm also organizing my life.
I'm not saying it's a sure cure. But the feeling of actually having control does seem to help.
Good luck!
2006-11-03 02:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You suffered a very deep shock. Take care of your emotional needs and talk to a friend or counselor about your feelings. Do not get dependent on medication as a sole relief for your symptoms. That will make things worse. You will gradually feel better as the shock and pain fade with time. It takes some people longer than others to recover.
2006-11-03 04:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by a_delphic_oracle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have some psychologically induced health problems. Fear of death and dying is very common. My husband fears death because his father died in a tragic manner. It is okay to have this fear, but when it starts interfering with your daily life, you have a problem.
Talking with someone may help. I'm just a therapist in training, and I'm probably far away from where you are. But you need to find a therapist you feel most comfortable with and can trust. With time, therapy, and support from family and friends, things will get better.
I hope you get better. Life has too many wonders to live in fear.
2006-11-03 02:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by nmtgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm soo sorry to hear that. Talking with someone like a professional helps much better than a few typed out words. If you see a professional every week or so they will gently guide you through the healing process.
A number of people passed away in my life too but for my experience I thought of the hope I will see them again in my next life, truly helped me cope.
2006-11-03 02:06:11 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had alot of tragedies in my life and I can tell you that you never get over them. You stop crying and you may now dwell on it anymore but it changes you forever. You just have to look forward and realize that people die. Unfortunately that is just a part of life that can't be escaped. I'm sorry for your loss, just keep taking your medication for depression and try to focus on the good things in life.
2006-11-03 02:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by truly_insightful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been delt a rather large blow, and for this I offer you my deepest sympathies. I strongly suggest you seek help from a mental health professional. You really do need to talk to someone about what is going on with your life right now. Good Luck.
2006-11-03 05:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are still in shock over the incident and you have not really come to grips with it.
It will go away, but you must work to right yourself mentally
2006-11-03 02:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
three years is long time to cope up. are u in u r pre menopausal stage?some times hormones also give these attacks check with u r doctor
2006-11-03 02:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by red rose 5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋