With so many marriages ending up in divorce are we looking for the wrong things? What really stabilises a relationship and makes it last? What is the key to a happy married life?
2006-11-03 01:55:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Honesty, trust, give and take, always being best friends. I have been married 26 years and it could not have happened if I or he did not have faith trust open and honest being direct. It is about the inner person not the outter shell.
2006-11-03 02:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perosnally I find that spending quality time together, a friendly smile to greet you when you wake, going to bed together (not on then the other 4 hrs later), and a kiss before i go to work on a morning.
Other than that a kind caring person who enjoys being there for you in times of need and visa versa.
2006-11-03 02:06:43 · answer #2 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to a marriage is the Lord. Without Jesus in our marriage we can do nothing. We must seek those who are of like faith. We both need to be serving the Lord with all our hearts,minds,and soul. That is what we need to look for in a mate rather they love the Lord. If they do we can be assure that they will not cheat on us,lie to us or treat us unkind. They will love us like Christ loves the church. You should date as God design us to so you learn you two likes and dislikes. That is where you will find out their habits and qualities. But a marriage should be base on Gods way of doing things instead of our own way. God bless you.
2006-11-03 06:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by tfjfiggers 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A caring and supportive person, honest and genuine.
Someone who's fun to be with, and enjoy spending time with.
Being able to comprimise is very important, because long lasting relationships are all about finding the path in between.
2006-11-04 00:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by jollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you are only hunting for a spouse you will end up unhappy. make friends and socialise and the romance will come later. Then if you want to marry them you can but you shouldn't set out to look for a spouse, that's just creepy.
2006-11-03 02:03:36 · answer #5 · answered by Carrie S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The willingness to work at it is very crucial.
I know this sounds strange to modern women, but men feel threatened by their women if they are too independent. men are still innatley protective and providing by nature and although the times have moved us forward, men biologically haven't and lack the kind of communication skills women are so expert on feelings. For men today, they try to keep up and try to understand the woman and support her whilst she is trying to better herself to become more than a house-wife. Society demands that a woman is more than a stay at home mum.
The one major thing that breaks marriages apart is the lack of 'vulnerability' us women show and this is essential if a man is to feel he is needed in a relationship. Vulnerability is so misunderstood by people and is not about being weak or placid, but about not always knowing the answers and sometimes often taking a back-seat so that the man feels that he is driving the relationship forward. This is man's most basic and essential functioning and this hasn't changed because society has changed.
Career orientated women for example, lose their vulnerability because they are forced to be in control and organized and to know what is expected of them and live up to standards most humans naturally cannot live up to but do and then become very stressed out because of the pressures and demands from all quarters. They are continually being taught fashion and how to look, how to get a career and this somehow divorces them from the attention they want to give to their husbands and home-life.
They become pulled in both directions. A man then feels the woman is not needing of him and he retorts to affairs or self-isolation. He feels rejected and not because his wife wants for him to feel like this, but because the more modern she becomes and independant, the more she loses her ability to let the man take the driving seat.
This is man's purpose in life and what comes natural to him and has done this for thousands of years and although he is modern, he hasn't changed otherwise. Women are innatley vulnerabile but they disguise it with so much focus on being the modern woman. Vulnerability is the key to a successful marriage if it is understood properly.
The art of being equal and vulnerable is a skill and successful marriages work because they understand and work with those abilities. It is about letting the man have control more often than not and to be independent at the same time. Not all women get this, but this is what they secrecy is.
2006-11-03 11:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Loyalty
2006-11-03 21:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by jammy dodger11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty and reliablity are the most important traits, in my opinion, combined with the ability to converse A LOT with the person.
2006-11-03 01:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone who is colpletely trust worthy and honest obviously on the same wavel lenght as me and defo they need to be able to make me laugh.
2006-11-03 02:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty, trust, dependability, a sense of humor, patience and compassion.
2006-11-03 02:04:29 · answer #10 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋