I met this guy two weeks ago. I gave him my number and we've been constantly texting each other. I initiated our first date as he wasn't forthcoming. It went brilliantly. However, although he still texts me numerous times every day, he hasn't mentioned a second date. I suggested it in a flirty way, but he didn't respond to it, although he continues to text me as before. I know I've been too forward so I won't suggest it again!He and his ex split fairly recently, so maybe that has something to do with it? We haven't slept together. I really like him but don't know where I stand.
2006-11-03 01:45:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been in that situation before. What's going on is he is still dealing with the ex, and he is unsure about persuing a relationship with you.
2006-11-03 01:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by stella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe him just breaking up with his ex does have something to do with it. He could just need some one to talk to right now, but doesn't feel comfortable dating yet. You stated you have been a little flirty about the way you asked the for the second date were you flirty about asking the first time? If not then ask the same way you did the first time. You need to also ask him, if he doesn't respond the second time, if there is something wrong/bothering him with going on another date with you! I know that it is un comfortable, but you need to know and the only way to get the answer is ask. If he is still texting you then there is some interest, but there is also something that he is afraid of.
2006-11-03 02:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by no.#1 Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are probably the only person he has been with since being with his ex. If that is the case I think he is just unsure about things. Just give him time and be their for him. Spliting up with someone is a very hard thing to overcome and maybe he just is not ready for a serious relationship with you yet.
If that is the case then all you can do for the time being is be their for him as a friend and when he is ready then you two could start dating again I am sure he likes you by what you said you just have to have the confidence to ask him your self.
2006-11-03 02:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a similar situation and in my experience it didn't get any easier!
He obviously likes you but he's probably just a bit shy and hasn't got much self confidence. Also, having just come out of a serious relationship, he might just be being cautious and not sure of what he wants.
The guy I was seeing was exactly the same. He wasn't very confident and had recently split from his ex who he was with for a year. I felt like I had to initiate everything from our first date to our first kiss! I'm quite used to guys taking the lead so it was a bit weird. He would always text though and tell me he missed me and even thought he was falling in love with me! But in the end it just fizzled out because it felt too one sided.
2006-11-03 02:01:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has 500 free texts with his mobile contract and needs to use them up every day. He is a text fiend. No seriously, who knows what goes on in their heads toots? If you get the opportunity, ask him directly. Either way you will know where you stand and he may appreciate the straight forwardness. If not, you've not wasted any more time. Just as well you didn't sleep with him, well done. It's so difficult, especially if you REALLY like them, you think they are pretty special and you are dying for a shag yourself. You just end up feeling like stir fried sh*te later...... Get on the blower and find out. Hope it works out for you.
2006-11-03 02:00:45 · answer #5 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think that he's attracted to u and perhaps with time a relationship.Cos like u said he split recently and probably don't want to be hurt again these things need time to heel.I think u did well asking him out and if he continues sending and messaging u he has interest.Time is your best friend just be yourself let him Know the great girl u are.Hope this helps.
2006-11-03 01:52:09 · answer #6 · answered by pimpinela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a rebound kind of thing right now. I would stay away until he is over the ex. And plus, he doesn't have the balls to do more than text? Find a dude that respects you and is interested enough to call, come by, or even ask YOU out!
2006-11-03 01:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just text again suggesting you meet up for an evening. You could say 'Howabout we meet at (location) at (time) o'clock?'
See what he says.
As you say, maybe the recent split is making it hard for him to suddenly be dating again, but I would take that as a good thing, as it shows that a relationship means a lot to him. So try not to rush it!
Good luck!
2006-11-03 01:52:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the very same situation. Was he with the ex long coz that was the problem with me, he just wasnt properly over her. All you can do is wait for him to make the move. Otherwise i'd move on. Plenty other fellas out there
2006-11-03 02:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by kit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in and still am in situation like this. If he has recently broke up with someone he is most likely still getting over her.
Carry on as friends dont try and push him in to anything cos you might just end up pushing him away.
You were flirty, he he hadnt liked that txt he would have stopped contact with you.
Dont do what i do and think/analyse it too much it will drive you crazy. just go with the flow things seem to be going ell and hopefully they will go from strength to strength...........and please dont rush in to sleeping with him.
2006-11-03 02:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by life_vamp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋