Im 20, my bf is 25... we have been together for a year now.
When we first got together, we had sex a week and a half after we started the relationship... and for the past year we make love like 3-4 times a day in the space of 1-2 hours.
We dont live together, and he goes to work and im at university, so we only see each other in the evenings for a short while.
I know he loves me and i love him but im starting to think that all he wants from me lately is sex, i mean if i say no he gets kinda frustrated, and he claims that im the one who always wants it and he can live without it but i cant.
What can i do to make him slow down??? i mean hes addicted, i think i have spoilt him too much.
2006-11-03 01:35:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i cant handle it sometimes, its just too much, im having sex everyday for the past year......... i mean he can do me 6 times somedays...!!
2006-11-03 01:43:27 · update #1
You ever think of telling him NO!!
2006-11-03 01:40:18 · answer #1 · answered by oldjr 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Never mind what the others say, 3-6 times a day are too much. Sex is something both of you must desire. You're not a sex machine, he should consider your feelings too. I'm afraid you'll have to decide if you can go on like this for years to come, because if he's not going to change and chances are that he'll cheat on you if you try stopping him. A serious talk may help a bit. He'll have to know that he is in fact addicted to sex, but there is help. He can go see a sex therapist. If he doesn't want to you must accept that he's not really in love with you. All that's going to happen if you stay in this relationship whithout him changing, is that you're going to end up hating sex. So, do something now! Good luck.
2006-11-03 19:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by ina W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's called Fore Play. If he is cumming 4 times in two hours, there isn't enough Fore Play. Have him give you erotic massages, oral sex, and just play and gently rub you in your hot spots. And you do the same to him. Try new positions, don't get stuck doing it the same way all the time. Also learn the tell tale sign of when he is about to nut, then stop and change positions. One sex scene that takes one hour to nut is a whole lot better than four nuts in two hours.
If you do it right when he get that one nut he will probably pass out fast asleep, with a big smile on his face (and yours too).
P.S: Only do things you are both comfortable with, and do them only with your boyfriend. Some of the things I named is not safe if you (or he) have more than one sex partner.
2006-11-03 01:53:50 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like a sexual relationship. How you start off with a person is usually how it ends up. Oh well if he gets frustrated. He'll get over it. Are you scared that if you say no; he'll go and have sex with someone else?
2006-11-03 01:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by stella 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You lucky girl! If I don't get it like that, I start going into withdrawal. Lucky my boyfriend has the same sex drive as me.
No really, I know it can get too much sometimes. Talk to him sugar. Tell him your sex drive is not as big as his and you are feeling overwhelmed. If he loves you he will understand. Tell him you want to go places, and not just have sex all the time.
2006-11-03 01:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is he feeling insecure?, many men see sex as the only way they feel loved and proof that you love them. You must speak to him about this as soon you will dread sex and he will then see this as you don't love him and he will demand it even more it's a vicious circle that can result in a broken relationship.
2006-11-03 01:44:18 · answer #6 · answered by XhappytalkX 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
spoiled aint the word chicky if you really dont want it that often then tell him if he truly loves you than hell understand otherwise you could try getting him to do otherstuff to take his mind off it a bit just dont tell him that ya doin otherthings to take his mind off it hope it works out for ya n i hope he understands ya feelings good luck
2006-11-03 01:39:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i do it every day with my bf but i know he care by pulling me close and tells me he care a whole lot.. Well for you maby your bf just wants sex but thats something you might want to talk about it with him ok JUST LET HIM KNOW!!!!!!!
2006-11-03 01:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by ManImSadINeedAHug 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy whilst it lasts hunny . If you dont want all that sex he will find somebody who does .In time he will slow down himself
2006-11-03 01:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
the reason to why he wants sex every day it's because he feels very unsecure of himself toward you and every other woman he copares you with
2006-11-03 01:42:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lucky girl. It will possibly slow down as you get older but dont complain as he will seek it elsewhere.
2006-11-03 01:42:43 · answer #11 · answered by mistress_cat_in_boots 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋