Best way to meet and talk to girls in everyday situations?

Question

When out at a bar or club the girls are expecting guys to walk up and chat to them so their more open to it.
But I'm getting over the clubbing scene and most of the girls in clubs are not the type I would want to be dating since their either too young / already have a boyfriend and just want someone for a one night stand / too drunk and will give thier number to any guy / or just wants to go out every weekend and party...

I want to meet some decent girls but find it hard opening a conversation in everyday situations such as at the train station or on the tube, or supermarket or just walking down the street. Dose anybody have any tips on how to do this without looking like a crazy person since everyone seems to just go about their own business these days without chatting to people they dont already know.

Answer 1

Yea this can be tricky, depends on if you cute or not too, I use eye contact very well , I don't do the fake smile thing,It depends man the girl can think you hot or not . I have walk up to a girl and just said damnnnnnnnn., girl u is to fine. can I get a minute of your time. she will respond who is you or no i don't know you , you then be like oh I'm sorry, I'm lalala, lalalalalal, and i notice you from a distance and you really look interesting and notice you didn't have a ring on your finger, hopefully she bites on the whole ring thingy and then you got a conversation and you just work from there, i improvise and all they can say is no , first impressions don't mean sht if you waiting for the train loll

Answer 2

Can I ask you this... Are you just wanting to do this at "random?" Or is there a certian woman who has caught your attention that you would do just about anything to be able to converse with her? Did you see her in the supermarket, on the tube, or both, and now you are just dying to find out more about her? If this is the case then people could advise you on your approach. But if you are just looking around and not really serious about who it is you are looking for to meet, then you will wear this on your shirt (sort to speak). Women see men as "Vultures" looking for prey. When we see a certain guy trying to impress us or that seems really interested, then we are more open to communication & getting to know him. Just my Honest Opinion!

Answer 3

I keep telling people to try to find an interest and start becoming involved in groups were you can meet people who share your same interest. For instance, say you like a certain type of music; become involved in that social scene and you might be able to find someone who you are intersted in.
If you want to do thing under a more casual circumstance, you can try dating online. Research the different sites available to you and post up a profile; you are able to talk to women before even meeting them, so it can help you pick who you want to meet, etc.

Answer 4

I was approached at Wal-mart yesterday and was told I was beautiful. I thought that was the end of it but he came back and ask what I was doing after I left Wal-mart and wanted my phone number. I was alittle freaked out by it. Best way to meet women is to make direct eye contact with someone and you will get a response if they are interested. As they say, The Eyes Have It!!!

Answer 5

Ur are pointing to a real social problem here, u are not alone with this issue. Think what u have to do is start trying...first look, then smile and first speak about u (so they dont find u agressive) u might say "I come here everyday but never seen u before" or say the opposite ...whatever...but start trying...u might not succeed right away ...but practice makes the master.

Answer 6

Important !!, You need a female friend to back you! ur right most women will consider u a perverted predator if ur by yourself or with other guys.

Kinda sidle up to them and socialise/talk with ur female friend, she will know u are not a weirdo b/c she can tell from your conversation, and she sees u have a female friend so it's like a backing that your not a pervert.
Then u throw to the conversation to the stranger, or your friend can, (3 way conversations are easier as well), if she doesn't like u , she may like your female friend (like as in friend),
Then u can always say, "hey me and my friend are going for coffee would u like to join us", or "we're gonna do this, would u like to come etcc.."

So it's not competely upfront, u don't want to be so upfront so soon anyway.

Answer 7

on-line dating with those in your local area. Some people are in the same situation as you, not wanting to go to clubs etc...Some church's have meet singles. In this day and age it shouldn't be that difficult to meet someone but it is. Good luck

Answer 8

Dude.

I knew this bloke, all he did all day was stand outside his shop and say to women (the ones he profiled right) 'wana fu*k' he said, 'ask 50 times, one will say yes' - not recommending this!!!! just an example!!!!

So the next nice girl you see, just say. 'I've see you about, can i meet you for a drink sometime? he's my number, give us a call'

Whats the worst that can happen?

I've always know the girls I've gone out with through friend, but it might just work in some random way.

Answer 9

I like your attitude! I say...go with something ...find a subject based on a book she is holding...the color of her hair....the weather..."isn't it nice that public transportation is always on time..etc....hey, did you happen to get that coffee at Dino's Cafe?"...whatever...sometimes it's nice to have someone initiate the conversation. If she responds ...great..if not..oh well..you don't know her anyway.

Answer 10

Yep. Go to church. The girls outnumber the guys 10 to 1. They all have to be nice to you - hey its part of their religion.