whats up with my dad?

Question

im 14 and my dad is overprotecting me. im not allowed to love someone too deep, im not allowed to go out with my boyfriend, im not allowed to smoke, my curfew is 8 pm, they even arent allow me to wear tank tops. what should i do? do you think its usual or he's exagerrating?

Answer 1

Tell them that you need to learn more about people and the outside world. It is usual that parents are overprotecting their children. I guess they're gonna relax some rules as you grow older. You are only 14, and it is too young to make your own decision and live by yourself. They just want you to be a good girl.

Answer 2

there is nothing wrong with your dad. he was a teenager once. Your problem is that you have a boyfriend. Your dad isn't stupid, he remembers very well. 14 year old girls shouldn't be out dating or smoking. 8 pm curfew is good. Your not 16 yet, and that is when a young lady should be allowed to start dating. The tank top thing is a little stupid, but it depends on who developed you are also. Your dad is also a point where his little girl is turning into a woman and it can be very hard for a dad to let you grow up at this stage. Behave your self and do as your parents say and the ride to 18 will be much smother. trust me I took the hard way, and it wasn't fun.

Answer 3

I think your Dad loves you a lot. You don't get it now, but when you get older you'll understand why he's doing what he's doing.

1. Of course you can't love someone too deep; you don't know what love is, and may become pregnant or get an STD trying to find out.

2. You're too young to have a boyfriend. See #1 above.

3. Smoking is a filthy, disgusting nasty habit that can also kill you. My dad starting smoking as a teen and died of lung cancer.

4. Why do you need to be out after 8:00? To hang out with friends? Doing what? Not a dang thing.

5. No, you don't need to wear tank tops. You should hear what people say about young women who walk around in low, tight-fitting clothes. You may not be a skank, but that's how you look- and that's how people will treat you.

What should you do? Listen to your Dad; run and give him a hug and thank him for loving you so much. In fact, tell him I think he's fabulous.

Answer 4

sweetie, at 14, your dad is doing exactly what he should be doing and that is protecting you...and no honey, you shouldn't be smoking at 14 anyway...if your tank tops are way too revealing, that's one reason for not letting you wear them , and he doesn't want guys staring at his little girls' boobies!! Remember, your dad was 14 once too, and he knows how guys can be. He doesn't want you to love too deeply? Well, alot of young girls and big girls wind up in situations because they loved too deep. Hon, he loves you and doesn't want anything to happen to you. I used to always tell my mom that when I had kids, I'd let them do everything they wanted to do...till I had them. If you can't go out with your boyfriend, ask your dad if it is alright that he comes to your house. Be patient, someday you will be all grown up, and think back on how much your dad loved you by watching out for you...then you can do the same for your kids when you have them.

Answer 5

At 14 you are a child yet, no matter what your friends say or what the TV seems to let you beleive. At your age , you can not know what love really is, it is not a feeling, it is a deed and your dad is protecting you from alot of problems, smoking, preganancy,drugs, etc. remember he knows more then you and if you get into any of these, your life can be ruined. .. remember us adults whent through this and we are paying the price for stupidity , that is why he is being this way.

Answer 6

Maybe , but in this day and age , its not wrong to be overprotective of your daughter. There are too many idiots out there who want too take advantage of young girls like yourself, and you end up throwing away your teenage years. Be patient , you are only 14 and have years ahead of you to find things out. Dont get angry with your dad , hes doing what he thinks is right , and wants the best for you . Try to see it from his point of view.

Answer 7

its just that it shows as like that you are not allowed to love someone actually it would mean your dad spare you from hurting and possible not having a bright future for you, at your age nowadays girl boy relationship common that it end in premarital sex and so your future is not that bright. naturally smoking is really bad and we all know that. tank tops ,well you must be pretty, and that many boys might lure or trick you in order to get your body got what i mean? what you should do? i suggest you concentrate on your study, have lots of activities, healthy relatioships with your girlfriends, and someday you will be what you want to be including a boy who would respect you and love you and will have a home with you, you as a nice girl who deserves good things and respect. just be patient, you will have your own time someday...

Answer 8

dont worry sweetie it totally normal its called being a parent.

dads dont like to see their little girls growing up and becoming women.

my dad was the same when i was your age.

infact i hate to say it but im 30 now married with 4 kids and he still tells me of for wearing make-up or short skirts.

i dont think they ever stop they just get easier to deal with.

talk to your dad about it if you can tell him that although you are growing up that you still love him and that you will always be his little girl. tell him and most importantly show him that he can trust you. he will release your leash a litle bit then and wont be so over protective.

just dont give him any reason to distrust you or youll find the leash being pulled right in and all privileges being lost.

also 14 is to young to be smoking live your life abit before you think about killing yourself by smoking.

Answer 9

I'm a father who brought up four girls. Three are mine and the fourth is my stepdaughter. They're ages are 12, 14 16 & 23.

While you may think he's being over protected you have to consider why he's establishing rules.
1) He was 14 once too. He was also 15, 16, 17... Years old. He knows not what's going on in your mind, but what's going on in young boy's minds. You aren't his concern (to a degree), they are.

He knows far too well what lengths young guys will go through to pressure you into loving them, giving yourself up for them, and he's not wanting you to get hurt. You will and he knows this, but at your age you're too young to know specifically what love is.

2) Younger people think they know what love is but they don't. At 14-yrs-old, younger people at that age are still capable of saying how they hate their brother, sister, mother or father, friends, (etc.), but if they got hit by a truck it would really change your attitude on having any negative feelings for them without fully even knowing who you really are or what emotional level you're on.

My youngest two daughters are still in the emotional 'level' of not really knowing how they feel. My 16-yr-old doesn't even date, doesn't want to at this point, but she's nearing that 'level.' She's model material and boys hit on her like mad, but she doesn't waste her time with them because (she trusts my opinion and judgement) more than her mothers. The same for my 23-yr-old, who by the way was going to marry a guy when she was 20, set a wedding date and instead threw him out because she finally figured out he was worthless. I never even met the guy, was never asked my opinion of him and she figured it out on her own.

There's not many guys worth a crud at 20 years old let alone any that are younger.

Answer 10

my dad did the same thing ...is har for them to realze that you are not a baby anymore ...you have to prove him that you can be responsible and that you can take of yourself that let him know that you are gonna go to him if you need help someday and about the curfew tell him that you are going to do your hw and clean blabla for if he changes your curfew til 9 adn dont worry abou the cloth ...is getting cold so you are not gonna be wearing tank tops for a while good luck with your daddy