What is the best way to explain to my 7 year old daughter that the kids she is playing with at school are not the best kids to be with?
Let me explain the story.
She came home yesterday saying she got into trouble on the play ground. I spoke with the teacher this morning and found out that the kids she plays with every day that she thinks are her best friends are some of the biggest trouble makers in the school. My daughter has lost some of the play ground priviledges because of these kids. She thinks that it was all right to be with them and doing what they were doing. I need some ideas on how to talk to her about these kids not being the friends that she thinks they are.
Some one please help, I don't know how to talk to her about it without breaking her heart and also I don't want her to take what I say back to these children.
2006-11-03 00:35:53 · 5 answers · asked by M.S. Mom 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
As long as you instill good values into your children. They will quickly learn who are good friends and who are not. We all try so hard to protect our children. But sometimes you have to let them figure out things for themselves. She will figure it out. I know that you don't want to hear that one of these children will be unkind to your daughter BUT she will realize that they are not good friends because she will not like to be treated badly. Now I'm not saying this will happen overnight but. it will. When most children act out its because they are not receiving something at home. No matter how old your children are. Its a give and give relationship.
2006-11-03 00:44:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you don't approve based on the behavior of those children and leave it at that. Explain that those children get into too much trouble and she should think about if those are the kinds of kids she really wants to be friends with. Let her make the choice at that point. As long as she herself is not getting into serious trouble, maybe she will learn that doing certain things are not acceptable and she will move on to nicer friends.
2006-11-03 09:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks it was all right to do what her 'friends' were doing AND she got into trouble at school? Remind her that the privileges she lost were lost due to WHAT she and her 'friends' did, and that as long as they are doing things like that she will continue to lose privileges. You might also take some privileges at home away from her every time she loses privileges at school. But also, be supportive. If those kids are as bad as the teacher says, they will probably tease & try to make your daughter's life miserable at school.
If you have to explain why you take privileges away from her, tell her that bad actions have consequences in more places than where they occur. Stay in touch with the teacher, it will also reinforce the 'all-knowing parent' mystique.
2006-11-03 08:51:44 · answer #3 · answered by eilishaa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is 7 if if the kids she is hanging out with get in trouble doesn't reallly mean anything they are 7. she is just experimenting with different people and at that age the whole class is friends one day and then they hate each other the next....she probally was just as quilty as the other kids and she got in trouble for it just reinstate the rules to her......
2006-11-03 09:12:34 · answer #4 · answered by christina c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to not be in trouble, she needs to find new friends.
ask her to relate to you what a friend is. ask her if these kids posses these traits. she might be thinking that they are kids and all kids are friends because they're the same age.
2006-11-03 08:49:46 · answer #5 · answered by craina c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋