Last night a friend of mine told me that she heard from one of her friends that my new boyfriend has been showing around my text messages to his friends and saying things about me and making jokes... My friend thinks I should let him go.
But I kept a cool head because the previous night he was stoned and last night he was stoned. So I didn't hold it against him, but I did ask him if he did it, and he said no, that he didn't and why would I ask a question like that. He kept a cool head too and quickly changed the subject.
My friend told me that he's not who I think he is... but when we made love, it wasn't like anything I've ever experienced, it was full of emotion on his part and on mine... I felt it. And he's told me early that he has fallen in love with me... I believe him cause I can feel it. But I think I should let him off the hook! I figured I'd ask him about it to let the thought linger in the back of his mind, just in case he really did do it.
What do you guys think?
2006-11-03 00:33:16 · 20 answers · asked by Salemn Hernandez 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, that's kind of a tough one. On the one hand, if he did do it, it was probably just a "male lapse of judgement!" It could be that he does actually feel a very close attraction to you, as you do him. If so, he was maybe so excited about it that he wanted, no needed to share it with someone! I mean if it was that good between you, he would want to shout it to the world! Isn't that what we do when we're in love? So maybe it's understandable that he would do that, and I personally could forgive that first offense. However, if you talked to him about it, then he now knows you disapprove. If it was to ever happen again, I'm not so sure I could let it slide! It would be an invasion of privacy and make you feel somewhat cheap as a result. So where do you go from here? Just keep your eyes wide open, and I hope he's all you think he is! Good luck!
2006-11-03 00:43:04 · answer #1 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2014-08-12 14:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From this perspective you seem to be looking at the situation through a romantic veil. Your Bf is giving you a glimpse into your future. "The previous night he was stoned, & last night he was stoned". What kind of fun can a guy who is stoned every night be? He's right though, the sober Bf would NEVER betray your trust by showing your private messages around to everybody. But the STONED Bf would!
It takes more that being great in bed to make a good relationship work.
Give it a couple of more years & you won't be so willing to trade your happiness in for some cheap romantic whispers, & a good lay.
2006-11-03 08:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could be wrong by saying to let him go,but ask him again,and see what happens,if itis true you dont need him,trust me you definetly don't. As obviously,he dose not respect you enough,and so it be wise to let him go,surely you dont want to be laugh at by people who you haven't even met on the street.
And as a man my self i would never do that,as that is private matter(only if i was cocky to a (naive) hotty) . something you should know,whenever a man dose this it can either be showing you off to his personal best friend,or just making you look ridiculous,to his friends.
Which would not be good either way,men can also say or do any thing to make you feel good,or convince you with.
2006-11-03 08:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by joe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, you should let him go. For two reasons.
1) Gf's don't lie to each other unless they want what you have, you said more than one friend told you that, so he is a liar.
2) He is stoned two nights in a row, shows he has a drug problem.
Lose the creep and find someone that deserves your concern hun!
2006-11-03 08:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a boyfriend who makes use of drugs and is a compulsive liar.
More than one person told you that he showed around text messages you sent him and he made nasty comments on you. Of course you have to let him go this guy is a total looser.
2006-11-03 09:22:18 · answer #6 · answered by ale_limp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, let him go! He is a pot head 1st off so that makes him a loser and then if he does stupid stuff while high (like shows your text) then he is not to be trusted when he is high when you are not around. Do you really want that type of man?
2006-11-03 08:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just about every guy does that so dont hold anything personally. When I was working in the summer camp every letter that was sent in my cabin from a girl to a guy was read outloud by the guy who got it. So dont worry u aint alone.
2006-11-03 08:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am most saddened by the fact that you think being stoned is an acceptable excuse. That should be enough of a reason to ditch him.
"He was an inconsiderate jerk, but he was stoned again, so it was not his fault"
That is just pathetic.
2006-11-03 08:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by tigweldkat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's making fun of you to his friends???? That's not good. Why don't you give him a taste of his own medicine.
Guys use mindblowing sex as a way of tying a girl down. Think with your head and not your p***y.
2006-11-03 08:52:22 · answer #10 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋