My 2 yr old hits?

Question

My son hits and it's play hitting, but I have a 7 month old who is getting the raw end of the stick even when she is in her playpen. When he hits I put him in time out, I refuses to hit, because I was abused when I was growing up and I know I would let my anger control me. I keep on putting him in time out and he keeps on hitting and taking her toys, what do I do? I told him that she has baby toys and that he has big boy toys. It still doesn't work. I pulling my hair out from all of the crying my daughter does, what should I do?

Answer 1

hold his hands back, keep putting him in time out, reassure him with your love that he has not been replaced, i am sure he is feeling jealous, but he needs to know that this action will not be tolerated. do not give in, there is no such thing as "play hitting".
good luck

Answer 2

I was abused also when I was a child. I swore that I would never spank my child because of it. WRONG!! My daughter starting hitting when she was younger. She is 7 now. The way I handled it I had another mom tell she did this and it worked so I tried it and it worked.

Whenever my daughter hit someone I would slap her hand. Not hard enough to do any damage just hard enough to make her realize that it hurt. After about 5 times of doing that she quit hitting. She started to bite my husband and I. We did the same thing, when she would bite we bit her back. Once again not hard enough to really hurt her, just enough to make her realize that it doesn't feel good.

The hardest part of the whole thing was remembering what I went through as a child. At first I was scared that I would end up like my parents and start abusing her. But then I realized that I am not like them. I can spank her when she needs it and not go too far with it. Time Outs don't really work. Been there, done that.

Good luck to you. Just remember that you are not the person that abused you. You are your children's parent.

Answer 3

I believe that "time out" works for some children, but not for all. Every child is different. Personally, I believe in spanking although there are very many people against that these days. I was spanked, and I turned out fine. My mom put the fear of God in me, and I am not scarred. Nor do I resent her in any way. You have to know where the line is between abuse and just a but whooping. My husband and I spanked my son when he was naughty. I have a 2 1/2 month old now. He is gentle and loving with her, so we must be doing something right. My cousin stuck with the "time out" route. Her son actually got kicked out of kindergarden for being so bad. It didn't bother him a bit to do bad things since the consequence was minor. No 2 kids are the same and there is no "right" answer. Find creative ways that seem effective and be consistent when you find something that works. I believe hitting a younger sibling like that shouldn't be tolerated. I'm not a professional. I'm just a mother of 2, but my son is well behaved, polite, loving and caring, and yes he is afraid to be a bad boy since he knows he will get a spanking.

Answer 4

Oh! i'm JEALOUS!! My 2 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous son is a hitter, a spitter, a biter AND a yeller!! definite, he's somewhat rotten (yet they tell me on the day care that he's the main nicely-behaved and well mannered, and candy toddler in his classification (LIARS)) in any case, while the hitting began, we did the ignoring and it labored, we exceeded over him and then he'd have this undesirable tantrum and as quickly as he replaced into achieved, he'd arise and say he mandatory a hug along with his little hands up. THe hitting isn't as undesirable because it was once because of the fact he's familiar with he won't be in a position to get an improve out persons via doing it. along with his biting, after he bit me so complicated on my boob that he broke the exterior, I bit him back. do no longer difficulty, i did no longer even leave a purple mark, and he hasn't bit because of the fact. Now.... If i will basically get him previous the spiting, he can spit with percision from 5 ft, we would be all golden. i've got additionally observed, the greater time I make for him, the greater suitable... And its continually undesirable while he's drained. sturdy success.

Answer 5

I am in the same situation now I have a 21 month old son who sometimes hits my 6 month old son and he is only PLAYING sometimes he just gets excited! I always give him one warning because he is little and I know he may not remember, but if he does it again he has to sit in the corner he doesn't understand to stay there so I sit with him and when he gets upset I just keep saying "you have sit because you hit, keep your hand to yourself" then after about 1-2 minutes I always make sure to give him a kiss and a hug and tell him I love him then he goes and plays. When he started he was in time out at lest 4X a week now he's down to about 1X sometimes not at all and I just started this about 2 months ago. Just remember keep your cool if he sees you getting upset it will make him upset. BE CONSISTENT!!!

How are you going to say DON"T HIT and them give them a spanking or smack there hand that's just saying it okay from mommy to do it. You need to be a role model for your kids.

Answer 6

i hate to say this but is he wearing a diaper ? if so spank him on the diaper it makes a noise and you do not have to hit that hard . There is a difference betewn spanking and abuse you do know that dont you? I believe in spanking . Unspanked children become ruly undisiplined children and then awfull disrespectfull teens . You have better get the upper hand on him before this happens . I do not think time out is working for him or you. Believe me when i say some children need a spanking cause that is the only thing they understand. Good luck and god bless.

Answer 7

If I were you I would spank but only if you are not mad. The first time that he does it I would take him by the hand and get down on his level and say to him "Mommy told you that you are not supposed to hit so mommy is going to spank you for disobeying." Make sure that you do not raise your voice and don't use your hand to spank. After you give him one spanking then let him know that you love him(give him hugs or kisses....)
You can't reason with a 2yr old. But if you are angry then DO NOT SPANK!!!
Make sure that you discipline quickly and consistently. He needs to know that disobedience will give him instant discipline.
If your son will not follow your "law" what makes you think that when he gets older he will suddenly become law-abiding. Do something before it is to late.

Answer 8

First, I don't think there is such a thing as "play hitting".

Second, there is a difference between "hitting" and "spanking".

I believe in spanking or smacking the back of his hand....certainly not hitting or anything even close to abuse.

It seems that children who are not spanked are not disciplined very well and are pretty much uncontrollable. IT IS ONLY GOING TO GET WORSE...you need to nip this behavior in the bud.

Answer 9

You are right. Babies and children should not be hit.
What you could do is every time your 2 year old hits, squeeze his hand firmly but not enough to hurt him and say NO. Don't hit.
Then put him to 2 minutes time out.
To let him know you are displeased, don't console him at the expiry of 2 minutes.

Answer 10

i know you do not like to hit, but to teach him not to, give him a few hard spanks on the rear end. i was spanked as a child, i spank my 8 year old, and it did me, and it does him a world of good. only use an open palm, lie him across your knee, tell him why you are doing it, say how many he will recieve, and go for it!
he will stop in a few days, see if he doesnt.