My boyfriend still keeps in touch with his ex...?

Question

My current boyfriend and I are totally into one another. We recently moved in together and he has really stuck by me through some rough emotional and financial times. He tells me he loves me every day and we rarely argue. However... he is still constantly in contact with his first love (who lives several states away). They were together for two years and he almost proposed to her. He says since they broke up they have remained very close friends. Fine, I can accept that. But they text/email/talk on the phone to each other EVERY DAY. She calls him any time she has a question (something as small as "My back hurts, what should I do?") I think she might be jealous and though he assures me they would never get back together, I still worry and get really jealous when they talk. This is the only thing that we disagree about. If he were as into me as he says he is, why can't he tell her to just back off some? Help...

In response to the first answer...I HAVE talked to him. He knows it bothers me but just brushes it off and repeatedly assures me I have nothing to worry about.

Answer 1

sweetie.. when we love someone ,we dont stop..

if he were to block her out of his life because u entered that would be shallow.. u believe he loves u dont u.. that will do.. u can not be the only person in his life..

let me tell u a story.. there was this guy whose girlfriend had a problem when he got in touch with his ex-gfs.. she doubted him n spied on his scrapbooks etc, though she did not want to.. she later learnt that though he may have sounded flirtatious with one of the girls , that was their way of talking and they were both friends with their own chemistry.. and they needed each other like normal frenz do..
by the time she realised this, she had lost him..
i was the dumbass girl sweetie.. if u love him, learn to accept his frenz even if u dont like them..

there are a lot of relationships we all share.. we cant shut the others out for any special person.. what if they need him.. n would be depressed without him, ir count him as their support system..

think a little .. he sounds amazing.. n im sure he loves u..

Answer 2

Do what I do in situations like that. I call up an ex and make a "friendship" date. Well hell if it's ok for him it's ok for you right? I get my points across real fast. Relationships are not 50:50. They are 100:100 so if he's devoting some of his time to another woman that should be in the past, then you're being neglected. You're already living together so you're obviously serious enough to be past the point of this nonsense. If he won't change then he's not taking into consideration your feelings and that tells you right there how he truely feels for you. There are MANY other out there who just "get it". Many others who understand that when they are in a relationship, thier actions no longer affects just themselves but the other person involved as well. I mean what if you get married? I sure as hell wouldn't want to answer the phone and always have some guy my wife use to date calling her up all the time. You are right in how you feel about it. He doesn't care enough for you to make that small sacrifice. If he don't have kids with her, he needs to dump her. If he won't you need to dump him.

Answer 3

My boyfriend still talks to his ex. I keep in contact with many of my exes. If you're jealous, it is because you are not sure of yourself enough to trust him. I can guarantee without a second thought that my man only wants me. I can also honestly say that I only want him.

I want to end up with a man who is not only my lover, but also my best friend. That's why I still like (as friends) many of my exes. When I share my bed, it's with men that I that I enjoy as friends. It seems reasonable to me to maintain that friendship once I realize that I am no longer interested in that person as my partner.

I guess what I'm trying to get at here, is that the kind of relationships where you break up and then never talk again are usually immature. If you are comfortable and confident and in control of your hyperactive hormones, you can maintain a platonic and gratifying relationship. PLATONIC being the operative word in that statement.

Maybe, and please don't take offense, what you need to be asking yourself is are you ready to be living with him. You are not sure enough of yourself to trust his love for you, which means one of two things: One, he is actually not trustworthy. In which case, what the hell are you doing with him? Or, two, you don't believe that you deserve his love/attention, and therefor are terrified to jeopardize it by allowing him to choose his own friends. In which case, you need you reevaluate your self-love. Until you love, trust and believe in yourself, you won't be able to understand unconditional love for another.

Good luck. I wish you the best.

Answer 4

Guys naturally has a harder time saying 'NO' to a girl.perhaps your bf is really honest when he says they are just close friends now.Meanwhile, his ex gf might just want to be 'in the picture'. what matters is that you are with your guy now.you would want to show your bf that you are understanding enough to accept his friendship but you wont tolerate too much of it either.talk it over with him nicely,dont get defensive over it.if he still choose to do it his way...then say no more.guys dont respond to words.they respond to no contact.

Answer 5

while they are on the phone together,,play kissy face and make noise's so she can hear,,mmm oh baby..then go down on him

Answer 6

Tell him how you feel. It sounds like he hasn't given up on her yet!

Answer 7

Suggest a 3way...

Answer 8

enD IT. hE IS NOT FOR YOU. hE SHOULD NOT BE TALKING TO HER PERIOD. yOU ALSO NEED TO BE ALONE UNTIL YOU LOVE YOURSELF. BECAUSE UNTIL YOU DO nobody WILL WANT YOU THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE WANTED. jEALOUSY IS IMMATURITY.

Answer 9

oh yeah, he's still bangin er.