i was with a guy for 8 months and we talked about gettin married and i lived with him he then changed his mind and continued to mess with me after the breakup. i asked him if we could date ever again and to ans. with a yes or no. he didnt. now he is with a girl and i hear she is the one....like i was the one...how in the heck do i move on and start living for me?
2006-11-03 00:13:22 · 19 answers · asked by cert_pharm_tech21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just do it. He probably never really loved you anyway. He moved on so you need to move on. There is no easy way to do it. If there was then nobody would be asking the question.>
2006-11-03 00:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to be honest you allowed this to happen. You continue to see him and maybe give him a few booty calls. So he figure hell he can get it when he wants . You should have just left him and let things fall into play. I would let him go and move on if I was you . He pretty much used you and you are better than that. Its not the end of the world it can be a new beginning for u .
2006-11-03 08:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by streetkritic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be so glad you didn't marry him. You can't know someone in just 8 mo. in my opinion. Just put it in the past, and live today, and look forward to the future. Good book to read, is "Easier Than You Think" by Richard Carlson, Ph.D. You can use your time to learn about the world around you, and others, which helps you learn about yourself. Your life can't revolve around a man. The more you have, (in yourself), the more you have to give to others. Women are not taught to develop themselves, and our own interest. Use curiosity. That's what drives me. I never get bored. I'm content alone. I go out when I want to be with others. Just my opinion, Dear. Please go slowly, and cautiosly. You can drown if you go into waters too deep, too fast. Good Luck, I know it hurts. But learn from it. Pain can make us stronger people, if we allow it.
2006-11-03 08:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by noface 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand, it is difficult to let go of the dreams and promises that never came to be. I can recommend a good short book that really cuts through the bull and makes a good point in a simple way. The title is Who moved my cheese? by Dr. Spence Johnson
2006-11-03 08:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just forget about him... go out w/ your friends and enjoy your life.
Pamper yourself, go to a spa... and feel good about yourself and sorry for him because he lost such a great girl like yourself.
but dont use another guy as your way of moving on... one day along the path he'll be hurt like you are now. And i don't think you like how you feel right now. So why make someone else go through that? And have you be the one to blame?
HAVE FUN HAVE FUN HAVE FUN !!!
2006-11-03 08:18:22 · answer #5 · answered by pumpkin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes yes yes life goes on..blah blah blah...but there are things that can be done to HELP life go on..Try going and getting your hair done...or a pedicure..or something that is..JUST for you..to start with...b4 life goes on, you have to start WANTING it to, and doing something just for you, is always a start..Have lunch with some g/f's..Honey, and think of it this way..If he could have found someone that fast after ya'll were not together, he was not the right one for you anyway..
After a while, the pain of him will fade, and there will be another man in your life..One that is JUST for you
2006-11-03 08:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by chantillynlace2000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. Get some new hobbies, go clubbing, do the singles bars, get some friends, but whatever you do just do it because it's better for you. And yes, eventually the hurt and pain does go away.
2006-11-03 08:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
realize he has moved on so dont go theretrat yourself wit enough repsect to go for what you want now ya have to move on or it is n ot good health wise it sint eady but u have to ultimately decide wher you want to be in next little while adn you can't steer a parked car
2006-11-03 08:17:20 · answer #8 · answered by Bud 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on. Ignore him, have nothing to do with him, go out with friends, etc. It was only 8 months for pete sake and he has already moved on--use your anger to get you through it. "what doesn't kill us makes us stronger!'
2006-11-03 08:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by blonde_bitch_norris 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date his bestfriend
2006-11-03 08:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋