Please help me solve my family's Xmas nightmare. I'm the youngest of 3 girls, and we're all married, and my eldest two sisters both have kids and they all live near my parents. We usually all go to sister 2 house for Xmas. Problem: sister 1 no longer wants to spend Xmas day at sister 2 house, as sister 2 husband is an unreasonable pig. Parents always go to sister 2 house as their house is too small. Sister 1 has suggested that as the sisters don't get on, maybe the parents should alternate venues and spend one Xmas with sister 1, then the following year with sister 2, etc. Parents would still see grandchildren at some point on Xmas day as all live locally, but would just not stop for Xmas lunch. Sister 2 has gone balistic. She claims sister 1 has "stolen" her kids' grandparents from her. Everyone fallen out. No one speaking. Parents now having Xmas on own rather than have to choose. I'm trying to keep out of it. Solutions anyone????
2006-11-03 00:08:32 · 11 answers · asked by youngest sister 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go to your husband's parents!
Failing that, go to your own, so they will not be by themselves.
2006-11-03 00:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well families can be fun especially at christmas!
You should do whatever you want to do. Have you suggested that you all go out to eat? Or all of you meet up in the morning for a while then everyone can go their separate ways when they are ready to?
Sister 2 sounds like she want the attention all on her, I dont know this for sure so dont take this the wrong way but she seems to want everything done as it always is with her playing the hostess.
I feel really bad for your parents, and I completely understand why they do not want to choose but make sure that you and the rest of the family go to visit them at some point of the day. I think this will be hurting your parents alot more than it is hurting yourself or your sisters and sister 2 needs to realise that she can't have everything her own way and people will want to do their own thing once in a while x
Hope you enjoy your christmas, hope things get sorted so it goes smoothly x
2006-11-06 01:12:08 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sister 1 has come up with a sound solution to the xmas problem but sister 2 is stuck in a rut and thinks she should monopolise xmas. I think your parents have made a good decision to stay on their own and leave the others squabbling,a lot of arguments are caused by xmas but it is a time for the children so I think sister 2 is being selfish.
2006-11-03 00:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you all meet at a "neutral" place. Either at a venue, where every family agrees to pay there own, or at a nice picnic spot or park. How much more fun for the children to have PLENTY of space for running around, and having a "picnic" Christmas lunch too boot. I realise if you are in the UK, this plan may not work because of the whether but surely there must be some kinda indoor place you guys can all agree on. Or you all agree to pop into your Mom and Dads at different times, just to say Merry and all that, and eat Xmas lunch in your own homes.
2006-11-06 22:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hiya i think you should remind them all that xmas is all about children. If every year is spent at sis2s its only fair that sis1 has a chance as theres got to be some give and take. Sis2 can still get involed like bringing a starter and dessert? or planning after dinner games?. Also they should think about your parents and feel lucky that they are still around to spend xmas with you all, also they should think about the stress they are putting your parents under.
At the end of the day lifes to short for petty arguments. I hope ive helped alittle.
Merry Christmas xx
2006-11-03 07:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for god sake.. The sisters could desire to truly advance up.. Plan a christmas at sister a million place on Christmas eve and on sister 2 place on Christmas day.. Then they could circulate to the spouses mom and dad on the replace days.. all and sundry else interior the international can determine this out.. do no longer know why you babies can no longer.. they are ruining the mum and dad trip journeys using battling.. To be with the two one in each and every of your sisters considering the fact that i'm assuming which you reside farther away you will ought to take a 2 days to be sure the two familys. And schedule your christmas which incorporate your husbands kinfolk thus..Familys can be extremely complicated each and every from time to time.. yet do what you are able to to be with all of them extraordinarily your mom and dad.. you on no account know how long that they are going to be around.. at some point around the unreasonable pig husband of sister 2 could desire to be waiting to be missed for at some point in any case.. each and every possible desire to recover from there petty battling for during the year.. terrific of trip journeys for you adult men what ever you artwork out yet do no longer go away your mom and dad on my own.. Merry Christmas and happy New Years..
2016-10-21 04:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by shine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go away somewhere and stay out of it. CHristmas is supposed to be an enjoyable day so don't let it be ruined by petty minded family members
2006-11-03 01:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by Tez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
christmas is supposed to be fun hunni, ditch this lot and go have fun with ur own little lot and forget about all the grief xx let them fight it out amonst themselfs.
2006-11-04 02:31:18 · answer #8 · answered by julie m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont your parents just visit the grandchildren with their prezzies, then have the day to theirselves
2006-11-05 00:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Weed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be a mediater....... what you can do , try to bring both closer .....
xmas day is for love......
2006-11-03 01:41:37 · answer #10 · answered by greatmangentletrue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋