My boyfriend cheated on my about 3 weeks ago, and it absolutely broke my heart. I was so in love w/ him, and he said he was in love w/ me to, and still is. He has been saying sorry to me and telling me how stupid he was and how he still loves me and wants me back everyday since then. He has promised not to talk to the girl and that he would never do it again because it made him feel so horrible to hurt me like that. I really want us to be together, but then I'll have other thoughts or see the girl he cheated on me with in the hallway and i quickly change my mind. Also, my parents told me that they do NOT want me around, talking, or with him. I am so confused, I don't know what to do! Please Help!!!
2006-11-03 00:01:03 · 4 answers · asked by crzyhottie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of the reasons people date before getting married is to get to know each other not to see if you have good chemistry. You've gotten to know he's a cheater! If it pleases you to feel sorry for yourself and to whine about being wit a jerk, stay with him. If you like to learn from your mistakes, realize that you had blinders on till he cheated and accidently knocked them off and don't let him blind you again.
If you were married, my answer would be different. I think once people get married they should work on their relationship.
2006-11-03 00:10:03 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet you are still in high school huh?
If you are then you are still so young, and have your whole life ahead of you. Don't settle for this. He chose to CHEAT ON YOU ALL ON HIS OWN..NO ONE TIED HIS ARM AND MADE HIM. IT TAKES TWO PEOPLE TO CHEAT.
Unfortunately, your parents are correct in what they tell you. I know you care for him but if he truely cared for you then he wouldn't have betrayed you in the way he did. Their is obviously somehting in your relationship that wasn't working for him and he had to go somewhere else. IT IS NOT YOUR FALUT!!!!!
I was married for 10 years, and My EX husband was my high school sweetheart, and he cheated on me so many times. He would always say..." please forgive me, I won't hurt you again, I'm sorry, please take me back, " and HE NEVER CHANGED. NEVER!!!!!
Your parents are not trying to be mean. If he can hurt you once, he will again..and you will learn that one day.....What better judge of character for a guy than another guy. YOUR DAD.............MEN KNOW HOW MEN ARE. You may not understand now, but when you are much older you will look back on this and laugh, because he is truely no good for you.
YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED WITH LOVE RESPECT AND HONESTY....... He had none of that for you or he would have never done to you what he did.
Please don't settle for him. I wish I would have listened to my dad when he told me to forget him. You cannot change how you feel for someone that does take time....but you can move on and show him that HE DID NOT BREAK YOU AND YOU ARE MUCH BETTER THAT THAT!!!!!
you hold your head up high, and look at it like it is his LOSS!!!!
you are having those thoughts of changing your mind for a reason.You know in your heart that it isn't right, and that is why it is hard for you to just say,,,,,,"ok I will forgive you",,,,,,Sometimes our minds play tricks on us and only let us make our decisions with our heart and not our head....
USE YOUR HEAD AND MOVE ON
I'm sure you are a beautiful girl, and when it is for real (LOVE) you will never be hurt, and he will put you on a pedastool, and never take you OFF!!!!!!! That unfortunately comes with years of kinowledge, and experience, and learning to weed out all the crap from the real stuff..........
GOOD LUCK TO YOU AND DON'T SETTLE.
USE YOUR HEAD AND LISTEN TO YOUR MOM AND DAD
THEY LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY.....
WOULD THEY EVER HURT YOU...........BUT HE DID.
NOW WHAT IS LOVE??????NOT HURT, AND NOT CRYING!!
GOOD LUCK.........DAPHNE
2006-11-03 01:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Daphne F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He willingly broke trust with you and he should be dumped. He is more likely to do it again and taking him back is letting him know its okay to cheat and break trust. I know it hurts but if we dump cheaters the FIRST time...I think there would be less cheating in the world.
2006-11-03 00:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should've dropped him when he first did it because he's more then likely to do it again. but if you don't want to let a great guy like him go then tell your parents that they need to let you live your own life and make your own decisions and they need to support the descicions you make
2006-11-03 00:06:02 · answer #4 · answered by lbg l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋