he is a customer in our shop but as i leave work he follows me to my car and stands there watchin me until i drive off. can i get a restraining order against him - he freaks me out
2006-11-02 23:55:33 · 34 answers · asked by wwekerri_gunn 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
the hell u can! shi..... i would
2006-11-03 01:58:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
'Alto-Ego' is right, you 'll have to go to the Police/Court to get a restraining order.
The police will probably have a quiet word with him and that should be enough to stop him. If not report him again and he will be arrested.
As you need evidence of at least two instances, leave work with a friend/co-worker who can back up any claim. Get as much evidence as possible. Write down times and dates.
Take it seriously though. Give him and inch and he may well take a mile. By getting the Police involved you are showing him you are serious!
Check out the links too for advice on your own personal safety. Get an alarm!
DONT APPROACH HIM YOURSELF!
2006-11-04 09:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ah! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends.Its not that easy!
In the UK you cant just get a restraining order unless you have had Police action taken against him.It will be the courts that decide if he gets one.
The best thing you can do AND SHOULD DO is got to the Police and get him charged with Harassment.
If he breaks his harassment order he will then be taken to court and given a restraining order.
Hope this helps!!
2006-11-03 07:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you asked him not to follow you anymore? Maybe he does not know it bothers you. Or maybe he is watching to see that you make it safely to your car each day. Or maybe he is stalking you. I don't think you do either,maybe you should confront him inside of the workplace with a boss or someone else present, so they can see him and hear his response to you questions, then If he is not just an admirer looking out for you defiantly call your local law enforcement and ask them to try to drive thru your parking about the time you get off work for a couple of days and see if that does not make him go away. Either way I would make sure another employee leaves with you each day for a while. Until you feel safe again.
2006-11-03 00:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by sosueme534 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is what is commonly referred to as stalking. You need to report this matter to the police but before doing so ensure you have documented exactly what this man is doing eg) write down times, days and dates of exactly what he does and how it affects you.
I presume that you are not comfortable enough to tell this man he makes you feel uncomfortable in the first instance - he may be a genuine admirer but just a little misguided.
2006-11-04 10:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Poppy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would get a restraining order asap im serious this could turn into a really bad situation i was watching
"what should you do and this guy was doing the exact same thing and she didnt tell any one but her friends and she didnt do any thing about it and then the guy like jumped into her car and rapped her and dumped her in the trunk of her car and drove her into a lake she almost died cause she was in the trunk so then she just started pulling cords and everything and thankfully she pulled the trunk release and swam to shore and ran for help even though she was terrified he was standing there arounf the corner waiting 4 her and the guy was arrested and gave 45 yrs in prison
so yeah i would immediately get the police involved kk c ya buh bye
2006-11-04 12:52:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
That is scary!!! Do you know this guy's name? If not, find out what it is. Go on line and find out if he's on the sex offenders list. Either way, report him to the police. This happened to me once many years ago. I thought it was creepy but I was naive and did not take it seriously. The situation got out of hand and I found myself in a very dangerous and scary situation with the man. I honestly thought he was going to kill me. Make sure someone walks to your car with you and whatever you do, don't be naive.
2006-11-03 00:22:40 · answer #7 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can. If you feel this man is a threat to you, then don't hesitate to get it.
Also start having some one from work walk you to your car all the time, just to be safe and they can also act as a witness to the fact that this person is stalking you, which is also against the law.
2006-11-03 00:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do something now!!!!! i had that when i was younger really creepy he used to put flowers on the end of my conveyor belt, sit outside the window and watch me work, sit outside college all day and wait for me to leave , sit at the end of my drive and just watch. i the end the guys from the butchery dept chased him with knives!!!!not good i know but he never came back again i wish i had dealt with it better looking back now buti was scared
2006-11-04 09:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by sam y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get n touch with the police, and they will give you crap advice about keeping a diary of what he does, blah blah blah. They need evidence before they can do anything. Ring around solicitors in the yellow pages and see if anyone can give you either a free consultation or advice over the phone or contact your local CAB to see what all your options are.
2006-11-03 00:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by PRINCESSKK 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe or maybe not because he doesnt try to follow you home. The judge may say you dont have enough proof of stalking. Why dont you just tell him to cut it out.? Just say please dont do that as it really bothers me. Then if he continues you could have your boss say something maybe that would work. Unfortunately just watching you drive away is probably not enough.
2006-11-03 00:00:26 · answer #11 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋