My partner of three and a half years has just finished with me, he still wants to see me sometimes for just sex, I am broken hearted at 37 I thought I had met the one. I have never been rejected like this and I don't know how to handle it. Hes now away in Amsterdam for a boys weekend, do I just walk away or do I try to get revenge and if so what is the best way to get revenge.
2006-11-02 23:52:19 · 33 answers · asked by Judie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop him cold and find someone else who will want you for who you are.
2006-11-02 23:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Texan 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have been there. I feel so sad when I see posting like yours. Men are just impossible sometimes. I had the same thing, I was 33 and found the best man ever and I really wanted to get married and settle down as they say, and then one day I come home and he is outside my house with a truck loading his stuff in. He told me he wants to try again with his ex. I was really sad for weeks. But then I started reading books about relationships. I think I read like 20 books. Everything I can put my hands on about relationships with men. I was trying to find out what am I doing wrong. Why does it never work?
So bottom line is, after I read for a few months, I decided on a "new me" kind of an approach. And let me tell you, about 5 weeks ago or so I got married. And with a really really amazing loving man. Its too short here to give all the theory and the change I went through, but in short, I started taking care of my self first. I know everyone says that, but I learn from my reading what that means. I'll write some more later today because I really need to run to work.
You know, the best thing that I used to do for myself when a relationship was over. I always had an 'improvement' as a cheer up gift for myself. For example, I decided to loose weight and registered to a gym one timed. Another time I took a makeup course. It was very helpful short term.
2006-11-03 00:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Ladybug NH 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor you!
If he still wants to keep you for sex then he can't have any respect for you and you should make it clear that the relationship is over.
It takes time to recover, so meanwhile fill up your time. Arrange to meet friends, visit people you've not seen for a while, join the gym and sweat it out, do all the things he never enjoyed doing, surround yourself with positive people, go shopping! Don't whatever you do rent any chick flicks and stop in the house overeating and crying. I wouldn't recommend revenge - you can't punish someone just because they don't love you. Rise above his behaviour and show that you are a better person than he is.
You will get through this. The only way to get over someone is to meet someone better.
Good Luck!
2006-11-03 00:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by youngest sister 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh angel.
I don't know you, but why would you want to dwell over a tw@t that would rather miss out than spend time loving and treating you how you deserve?
Life has so much more to offer than just boys! Use the time to get a wish list going, think of everything you ever wanted to do and do it. No man hanging round your neck, youre a free spirit.
Chances are, if you start to act on your wish list, you will find someone better, appreciating what you ejnoy too.
2006-11-02 23:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cairn Raider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hiya judie, don`t go down the revenge route it really isn`t worth it and u`ll be no better than him plus i always say that sometimes innocent people get caught up in revenge. stop having sex wiv him. all it`s doing is keeping u dangling on a piece of string and that will make u even more unhappy. stop seeing him altogether. go out wiv ur friends even if u don`t feel like it. the worst thing u could do is mope around feeling sorry for urself. i speak from experience. things will work out for u but it will just take time. try keep ur chin up. my thoughts are wiv u
2006-11-03 04:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by graham f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen hun,.... whats done is done and i know it feels like the hardest thing in the world to do but you have to completely stop having sex with him... it wont win him back. hes probaly in amsterdam paying for sex. By telling you he still wants sex is just so that he can come back weneva he wants....actually taking advantage of you.
Get up go and get ya nails and ya hair done. join the gym. Spend some time on yourself and make yourself feel gorgeous. Stop calling him or thinking of calling him. Go and enjoy ya self thats what life is about. Once he sees that you dont need him he will realise his mistakes and probably come crawling bak..by this time you will realise your better off without him and wont eva want him back.
Always someone else out ther!!!
2006-11-03 00:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by saz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, revenge only will be bad for you because all your energy will be focused on him...instead of doing different things.
1.Begin going out again
2.Call your friends
3.Don't get in another relationship to quick.
4.What is finis is finish
5.The age don't matter, don't put fences upon you!
6.Dye your hair, change your style, your looks, go to a gym, or begging a new hobbies! Take a course, join that club or go that place you always wanted!
7.Buy new sexy clothes for does dancing night with the girls
8/ If you want to cry, cry your heart out...and then go on!
Life is short, so don't lose that moments in bad things...there is a very big world outside
Enjoy!!!
2006-11-02 23:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by ogloriad 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like that he finished with you because of this boys weekend in Amsterdam,and as just wanting you for sex that is just selfish on his part, I know that you are feeling awful and rejected but you will get over it, i thought about revenge when i broke up with my bf of 4 years but then it was a stupid idea, i just moved on got on with my life and now i am getting married next year. so just forget him get on with your life, go out and enjoy yourself someone will come along to accept you for what you are and not just for sex. good luck with your life.
2006-11-03 00:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well time will heal a broken heart! Dont let him walk all over you by only coming round when he wants sex! Move on ad find Mr Right you will never move on if you still see him on the odd occasion!
2006-11-03 00:09:01 · answer #9 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please just walk away.
Be nice to yourself. Spend lots of time with friends. Give yourself time to get over it. You deserve better than a guy who wants to come round for a sh*g every once in a while.
Short of killing him in revenge (which is a bit extreme is it not?), any revenge you do inflict will only make you look really stupid and he'll just laugh at you with his friends. Be dignified around him.
2006-11-03 00:03:48 · answer #10 · answered by Katya-Zelen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him and dont have sex with him hes taken the piss out of u. Find someone who will love and respect u hes out there. And this guys going to amsterdam for a boys weekend, u know wot that means........
2006-11-03 00:03:22 · answer #11 · answered by happychappie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋