Lonely daughter!!?

Question

We are working couple and no support from family .I have one daughter who is 8 years old.I have got her so many indoor games but she bored with them all. She at times now feels emotionally about being on her own always though we try to spend quality time with her.We are in a job where no families stay near by thus she has no company of her own age.She is sick of cartoons and all indoor games.

I am really worried to cope up with the situation.

Please suggest some serious stuff!!!

We have company's house with in the office complex and she frequently meets both of us....even I go and keep a watch on her but this is her mind set that"I am lonely and bored...!!"

Answer 1

Maybe there is some afterschool program she can go to for a couple of hours each day until you are off work, just to socialize, get homework help, etc?

Answer 2

Hi, I feel for you I really do.

I have had similar problems with my daughter for a while now, It was reallly upsetting me to see her on her own, when all around her seem to be playing. It;s all well and good these people telling you to give up work etc etc but I dont work anyway and I struggle to have any idea how to help my 8yr old (yr 4 in sch) Finally one of her teachers mentioned something about a circle of friends type club where they could be together without realising it.

However, I have noticed my daughter beginning to mix a little. we went on holiday last week and for the first time my daughter made 3 friends, as opposed to normally talking to adults.

As your daughter if she is happy. Really happy. if she is then ask (if it's ok with you) if she would like to invite a friend around, maybe even to sleep over.

other than that, as I say I know where you're coming from, and let her know you are there for her.

Not in Tower Hamlets are you ?

Good Luck.

Answer 3

If this is all she is familiar with and grows up with she is basically no longer lonely - and you do no longer possibly understand what it relatively is going to do or the way it would impact her or her character or social skills, or relationships and so forth until eventually she is GROWN. yet while each and every thing is constructive, loving, supportive, exciting, energetic, busy and healthful on your loved ones existence then she will improve as much as be a nicely adjusted basically toddler who perhaps is largely somewhat spoiled..... must be a lot worse issues than that of direction. you have gotten make an extra attempt to make certain she has lots of social threat to examine a thank you to be a chum, proportion, and different 'relationship' skills which you study with a sibling interior the residing house.

Answer 4

She's lonely! as she's 8, there may be some school activities she can join? when i was 8, i loved drama clubs and ice skating. maybe your girl would love to try girl scouts or dancing classes. in girl scouts she could be with people her own age. she could take up a sport. im sure there'll be things like; jazz/ ballet/ tap dancing classes, football/soccer teams or anything else that might appeal to her. break the news to her gently so that she doesnt feel like she's being a burden you're trying to get away. at first, come with her to the classes just to make sure she copes well. who knows, you might end up making friends with some of the othr parents there! you might have to drive a while to get to a place as you said that you lived in a place without many families, but im sure you'll find something. good luck!

Answer 5

I don't know where you live- but in my City there are tons of stuff for kids to do- check with your child's school. The secretary will know some programs you are not aware of. Girl Scouts,Brownies are really fun at this age. The local boys and girls club or YMCA is a great source.
I know your career is extremely important to both you and your husband, you will be able to find a balance, I know I did and I am a single mom. Best of luck!

Answer 6

After school, may be she can go to a friend's house or a creche where there are other children to interact with. SHe may also join some extra curricular activity classes to pass the hours until you reach home. That should keep her busy and in company of other children too.

Answer 7

I'd seriously take a look at my lifestyle and try to live on one salary. Your daughter needs you more than you know.

Speaking from experience. I quit my job when our first child was 6 months old. At the time I was making more than my husband so it was a struggle. But 26 years later, I have absolutely no regrets that I stayed home and took care of my children.

We never had a big house, fancy car, membership to a club, etc. but my children never missed any of that just as I didn't when I was growing up.

What they did get was a parent who was always there for them, friends over to play or sleep over, and someone to take them to dance class, football...

Now you decide what is more important; lifestyle or your daughters well being. Choose wisely because you don't get a second chance.

Answer 8

I know this problem, as I am an "only child" - life won't get any better for her - she has to develop her independence - I suggest that you quit buying all these indoor games, etc, - she is 8 years old and probably going on 30! If she has any musical talent, talk to her about learning an instrument. The piano is great - I play - and I am never lonely - I can entertain myself - and I just love music - (i hope she does also) -As she develops her skills - so will she develop social interaction with her peers and others. I sincerely hope this helps you out. Only is Lonely.. fill her life with music.

Answer 9

Does she ever go to her friends houses or do they ever come to your house? Is there anyway to rearrange your schedules so that one of you is home with her more often? Is she by herself while you both are at work? Is it possible to enroll her in an after school program so that she at least has a little more interaction with children her own age? Maybe you can enroll her in dance or gymnastics or something that intrests her on the weekends or the days you have off.

Answer 10

If you're both working and reasonably secure and successful, think about foster care. You could bring a child into your home to raise, and do everyone a world of good. Your daughter would have a "sister"; some poor child would have a loving home, and you would have the satisfaction of making the world a better place for another child.

Answer 11

Get her involved in an activity she may be interested in where she will meet other girls her age. Even something like Girl Scouts, or a dance class. Something that she will enjoy doing, plus maybe make some friends doing it.