I want to have sex outside of my realationship is it a good idea?

Question

i have been in a relationship for 9 years but would love to have sex with other girls on the side, is there any girls out there that are in the same situation as me.(a confused 30 yr old guy)

Answer 1

your not confused your in heat
if you are in a relationship YOU ARE IN KEY WORD IN A RELATIONSHIP!

and trolling in here to find a girls is wrong ! ♠

Answer 2

The simple answer would be NO! If you love your girlfriend then maybe you just need to have a bit more fun in the relationship itself. Relationships can become a bit 'flat' after a long time but I don't think that means that you can go off with other girls.... especially behind her back. When was the last time you had spontaneous sex??? When was the last time you had a bath together??? When was the last time you did anything that made you feel the way you want to feel??? I think that first of all you need to talk to you girlfriend about what you are thinking etc and see if you can get anything from her that you crave. If not then I think you need to reconsider your relationship with her because surely if you were happy as your were and you loved her, then you wouldn't want to get it on with another girl. I hope this helps.
:-)

Answer 3

They say that after 4 years it becomes a habit to be with each other. It seems to me the love has not gone but the spark has. Everyone wishes that the novelty period as i call it never goes away but when your together so long it seems you know everything about each other and theres nothing really to do or talk about.

At the same time when you have something good why waste it. You only get out of a relationship what you put into it.

Dont cheat you need to decide if you want to be with her if not leave if you do then work it iout and try new things to spice it up

Answer 4

can you imagine how you would feel if your patner felt like sleeping around behind your back?
take a second to think?

Imagine her being pleasured by other men? could you live with that!!
Now imagine if your wife found out what you was thinking.
Dont go behind her back its the worst feeling ever. you wouldnt like it.

The best thing you can do is be happy with what youv got or break up and let your partner free from being betrayed by you. If your having these feelings its down to you theres no reason y your girl should suffer. tell her so she can forget you an move on...i mean if thats how u feel then shes already wasted 9years of her life on you. i mean come on i bet you wernt complaining about the sex in first few months. Poor woman. Giver her a break!

Answer 5

No! Why would you want to throw away all those years? With all the std's out there these days (and worse), why play around?

You say you're 30 - so should be mature enough to realize that 9 years is a pretty long-term committment.

So, you have a decision to make. You either choose to remain faithful and monogamous, or end it and move on.

Answer 6

You are pathetic! Even thinking about cheating is wrong----how would you feel if your girlfriend or wife would be considering the same thing?

9 years in a relationship long time for it to be just a relationship!!!

You're not a confused 30 yrs old----you're pathetic

Answer 7

Wouldn't think its a good idea, unless you have spoken to your missus and she is open minded and understands and is completely okay about it...and make sure she is, not just saying it to make you happy!
Does your missus feel the same, how about goin to sex club or get in touch wi some swingers. That way tit for tat, you both get to share the experience.
If your missus knows nothing of this then SHAME ON YOU!!! Go and sit in the corner of the room and think about what you have just said. Then either go to your missus and confess up, if it is really what you want to do and run the risk of losing her, or put it out of your mind, realise what you have and never think about it again!

Answer 8

So lets get this right you have been happily in a relationship for 9 years and NOW you want to have sex with other girls as well...............

You P*G... How would you like it if your girl turned round and said i Love You but i want to have no strings sex with whom i choose and i aint gonna tell you anything more about it.... firstly the trust is gone... secondly errrrrrrrrrrrrr your relationship would be over...

Surely if your seriously thinking about this you need to reevaluate if you actually want to be in this relationship.... to me it sounds like you want your cake and eat it!!!

Suggest you think long and hard about your relationship and if you still want other women... try approaching the 'swingers scene' to your girl... she will either give you a flat no.... or you get to have s*x with other women !!!

What have you got to loose.............. oh yeah your Girlfriend of 9 years....!!!!

And guys.... here is your perfect example why women have insecurites!!!!

Answer 9

I don't understand why do people want to cheat. Just leave her alone instead of cheating on her, or better yet propose a 3 way and she how she takes it. There are other options. Think about what you will lose if you do something so stupid. 9 years is a long time to just throw a way for some ***.

Answer 10

NO if you need to go have sex elsewhere then you are not in a relationship i honestly think you shoud seriously consider all sides before you stray, think of of your partner and their feelings maybe you should consider breaking up your relationship then you can have sex with as many women as you want.

Answer 11

If you love your girlfriend then you should want to only be with her. If you want to sleep with other girls end the relationship, you will only end up hurting her and then she will resent you. A further suggestion is to talk to her, suggest opening up the relationship (partners meeting who you are planning on sleeping with and then saying yes or no to them) or taking a break because you are feeling a little cramped.

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