problems with teeen moms?

Question

why do so many people have a problem with teenage mothers i was a mom at 16 i was very happy and still am i love my daugther and would not change my life for the world i am a qualified childcarer and i wil be startin a hairdressin course in april u al need 2 go get a life and start talking bout something else

well for starters ye are all going on bout ecucation i finish mine i did my leaving cert passed 6 out of 8 subjects i am 19 now i am not a baby i wish people wpuld stop responin 2 me as a baby.and tis thing with the goverment i wil admit i was geting loan parent 4 a while til i got my head straight but now i work ave been for the last year and a half i can support my daugther and she never goes wit out i am not with her dad because he was troublesome and i just didnt want that but i am wit someone and he is as good as her dad and he is building his own house i am renting at the moment but im happy ere i have not put in for a council house fair enough i was fortunate enuogh for everything to go so well for me but ye should just stop slaggin young moms it does my head in some of them lik myself didnt mean for it 2 happen mistakes can happen but im sure there is a lot of them that would not chance wat happened for the world

and as for u special is it u go by i am not ashamed of nothing ok

errie u are just an angery person i never said i recommended it i didnt even mean for it to happen to me it was a mistake i wil admit but i love my daugther to bits and i would not change her for da world u are just a sad person who needs to get a life u most ave no life to say u ave to diss other peoples lifes

helpful first of all at a stupid name and second wat ave i 2 be guilty of my child is healthy and loved and she never goes short of nothing i am probably a better mother then u wud b regarless of my age grow up

well black lab lover y dont u try shutting ur face and dont talk unless ur going to speak since

listen thrid times a charm first of all a stupid name second wat happened had nothing to do with my mother and third if thats you in the picture with your stupid name ur a scanky lookin thing so go get a life

third times a charm first of all who needs a car when ave legs second if u read wat i said properly i work i pay my own bills and third im not your hun so call me hun

Answer 1

Good for you, young mums can make fantastic mums, sounds like youre going somewhere with your life.
People just get annoyed cos there are *some* teen mothers who act irresponsibly, only have a kid to get a council place etc, live off benefits for the rest of their lives without trying to make anything better for themselves....
Not all teen mums are bad, sounds like you got your head screwed on and are making something of yourself. Nice one. And the only person who's opinion you should care about is your daughters, and when she's old enough to understand she will appreciatye what a good mum you are and how you got yourself out there and tried to make both your lives better.
You cant ask for more than that

Answer 2

I think that the people who have the problem with teenage Mums are more than likely the ones who read the Daily Mail and its ilk. You sound like a well-rounded, hard working person who has got on with her life despite what 'some' people would see as a major obstacle to have overcome.

What 'some' people object to is that teenage Mums appear to get handouts which mean they don't have to work. I'm not saying it's true in every case, because it's obviously not so in yours.

'Some' people also wonder whether a young person having a child is good in terms of that person's future, health and wellbeing.

And 'some' people wonder about the role of the father in the case of single teenage mothers - are they doing their bit to support the Mum and baby or are they just getting on with their lives without a backward glance?

At the end of the day, it's hard enough to bring a child up with two parents - I admire you for your hard work and wish you and your daughter every success and happiness in life.

Answer 3

Well in honesty, you are probably one of very few who have bothered to try and lead a good life. Most young girls, are just waiting for handouts, or have not experienced real love and feel insecure so they have a baby who will love them and need them, but its wrong. Babies are having babies, you will not see that for now as you are still a baby, with respect!! But so am i. I would never have a baby now, even though i would probably be like you, determined to prove them all wrong and make it work, but there are still things you do not know about, that you cant learn overnight, it takes years of living life to understand it, i listen to my mum and i realise how i think i know everything but i realy do not have a clue. NO one does in our generation. I am 19 years old nearly and i KNOW there are girls out there having babies for wrong reasons. Loads of them are doing it. So you should not get mad with people who think that. Becuase deep down you know its true. yeah fair enough, you might be an expception, there are probably a few exceptions, but the majority of young girls who have babies do it to feel needed as they havent expereinced it or enough of it whilst they were younger. And its not fair, as like i said, you are still young minded beleive it or chose not to believe it but you are. I have had a life you would never beleive and dream of. its been so hard and i have learnt so much, more than the average 30-40 year old. and yet, i still realise i am not capable of having a child. Its not right.

simple as that. it aint fair on the kids. I aint slaggin what you do yeah, really i am not, but wouldnt you rather be something abit more than a hairdresser, you can do better i bet but you got responsibilities init now so its easy for you to opt for the easy thing.

goodluck though. and i hope you have a good life.

Answer 4

People seem to have more of a problem with teenage mothers these days than with anything else, do all you people know there is a paedophile living in every estate, at least one, isn't that something more worth while moaning about?! I know it must be hard but don't listen to anyone else, YOU know you're an excellent mother & your little girl knows so who cares if these narrow minded people have nothing better to talk about. It's the young girls who get pregnant just so they don't have to work & get a council flat given to them, these are the ones who give you all a bad name.

Answer 5

Well that's really great for you. But you shouldnt assume that just because are doing well everyone can. I'm guessing someone will be watching your kid while you do your hairdressing course? Not everyone has parents or a partner to help them out. Some people have no options apart from living off the state, because even if they get a job, all the money from it will just pay for chilcare and there's no point. And are don't have qualifications because they have to leave school.

Answer 6

Most 'women' are still children at the age of 16, and still have many lessons to learn, and a lot of growing up to do. It's very difficult, as I'm sure you know, to complete schooling when you're a mother (regardless of how old you are), so it's harder to get a higher paying job that may ease the stress a little bit. A lot of people still believe in marriage before sex, as well, and there aren't very many people in the US that are married before they're 18. It's good to hear that you are making a successful goal of it - you should be very proud of yourself. Realistically though, you need to know you may be hearing negative things about becoming pregnant so young for the rest of your life. Rise above it and prove all of the naysayers wrong.

Answer 7

Well, your question would be easier to read if your spelling and wording was more coherant. There is the first problem. Second, i don't think children should have children. Your mother should have put you on birth control until you were 18 and old enough to make that choice. You have a curfew at 16 and also a kid? That seems, well, wrong??? So, these 15 year olds can choose to have sex, and choose to bring life into this world, but they can't even drive to the store to get formula???? huh. We can't keep you from having sex, but we should keep you from destroying your education and future. I'm sorry, but you can say you are "so responsible for a 16 year old, and yadda yadd, but honey, some things you learn with age and just being older.

And if you aren't on welfare and your parents or whoever is footing the bill, then maybe that's a little better. But i have a say in it when you kids get pregnant and then i have to pay your living expenses.

Answer 8

It sounds like you are doing well. I get sad about it more than anything because I feel that these kids have wasted some of the best times of their lives. Being a teen and a young adult is great and something they will never get back. I think that just because your are doing well you can't assume that most teen moms are. I think the sad truth is that they are not doing well and have to live of f others etc. Good luck to you.

Answer 9

I'd like to congradulate u for standin up for young mums they get a hard time from everyone. My cousin was 12 when she found out she was pregnant, she finished school, got a job and has always looked after her baby, who is now 17! and she is just as good as some of the older mums.

Answer 10

Ah, right, so you would recommend teenage pregnancy to all girls eh. Don't have a life and spend your young years bringing up kids. What! you had no financial problems,you just claimed your money from the benefit agency eh!
Oh and if you are qualified as a child carer, why are you going on another course(probably paid for by taxpayers) Seems the first course was a waste of money. Get it into your head woman. Children should not give birth to children. At 16 you're still a kid. what about 15 or 14, lets forget all about child abuse shall we. Grow up and wake up.