I love this guy so much, i dont know why.Hes my bf but only met him in the net. We never met before in personal.He lives million miles away from me.Im doing my best to work it out,.but it looks like im the only one inlove.Its easy 4 me to give advice to others buts really hard to apply it 2 my self.To give some details check my previous questions here in Y Answer.Please i really need a serious advice. I really cant say goodbye no matter how i tried. What is wrong with me, why cant he show his love to me? What do u think i must do so he will fall inlove with me.
2006-11-02 23:19:06 · 36 answers · asked by anne 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this happen to me too.
but is not real you don't know him all you know right now is what he wants you know you are in love with a fantasy.
try to meet a real person and cut this relationship if you can't cut out something it means you are addicted ! ♠
2006-11-02 23:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by 32606 3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really feel sorry for you, because you are in love with a guy you have never met, and you are so desperate for him to feel the same way as you do....you know in reality life just isn't like that, you cant make some one fall in love with you because you love them...for a start i believe it's the way they come across is what you are falling for, but ask yourself the question would they be the same in real life, i bet you wouldn't find them as half as attractive...do yourself a favor take the advice you would give to some one else in this situation, also you find it hard to say goodbye to him because you have fixated yourself/emotions, to this guy...the same way you attached yourself you can also learn to detach yourself if you try hard enough...you cannot ruin your life over this infatuation, I'm sure we have all fell for some one who was out of our reach, so no one can wrong you for that....but i think that for the most part it is our own ideas, and emotions that get the better of us...i hope you don't become lost in this, because your thoughts are irrational.
2006-11-03 23:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your love is unrequited, and I for one know that can be extremely painful. It sounds like you really love this guy. I read all of your other questions, and I'm going to give you some serious advise. You need to let him go. I can tell that you've probably realized that, and that it's going to be really difficult. There is a song that I think you need to hear. It's by "Death Cab for Cutie" and It's called "Some Day You Will Be Loved."
Now for my real advise. I think you should do this slowly. try talking to him less and less each day. If that's too severe then try doing it weekly. in other words cut down on him a little at a time instead of just trying to quit talking to him cold turkey. Try talking to guys that live in the same area as you. I have a story that's similar to yours and I recovered. Now the guy that I was in love with is one of my very best friends. I know how painful this can be and I really want to help you, so if you're interested in what I have to say then please e-mail me. I have loads to tell you if you want to hear. I can even try to e-mail you that song. I really think It will help in some way.
2006-11-02 23:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mickie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Umm dont want to sound heartless but your chances dont look good hon.
Maybe it one of those heartbreaks you go threw. With time perhaps you guys can remain freinds. If that too hard and hes not in it for love like you are maybe you should break it off. You cant make someone fall in love with you. I tried once, I just got more hurt than when I just let it go.
I dont think you need advice from us, but just a lttle time to except the situation as obviously it hurts.
I'm sorry. He is not the only man out there (cliche but true) You deserve one who loves you back and is there for you.
2006-11-02 23:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by nycgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wonderful aspect of your personality that won't allow you to let go needs to be fueled elsewhere first. Develope an activity that fulfills your need to help others (there are plenty) and then you'll be better able to move on. Loyal people are always needed and you sound terrific. Help those less fortunate around you, either people or an animal shelter. You've just started and I wish you the best.
2006-11-02 23:24:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can do nothing for a person to be inlove with you. as he does nothing for you to be inlove with him. just be yourself. it's not the end of the world yet, so there's always hope even he's miles away who knows someday you two might meet in person and prove what you're feeling right now, for now all you can do is to do your best (while you still got that feeling) to keep in touch and never let him go. enjoy the feeling of falling inlove instead of being sad or frustrated about it.
2006-11-02 23:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by guRl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok In your previous questions you spoke of his giving you mental abuse ...He did that from Australia but follows through with I love you hon ..Then you melt in his hands like putty ...From all the info I can gather you have been talking to him for a month and was willing to meet him on his birthday ..Find some one local ...You could travel there and never be seen again!! The relationship appears to be 1 sided
2006-11-03 23:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. Maybe he cant show his love for you because he isnt in love with you. It is very possible to be in love with someone who is not in love with you especially on the net. You cant even be sure the person you are in love with is who he says he is. Its not hard to "be someone else" on the net. I think you need to look for someone who is in your own town, someone who can love you and be with you at the same time. Just tell this guy you only want to be friends and be patient love will come your way.
2006-11-02 23:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's so hard that we women always see things differently to men, i just hope for your sake that he knows how much you are trying to put into your "relationship", and girl the sooner you decide to get over him the sooner you actually will, but ask all the relevant ques first like how he feels about your "friendship", because at the end of the day he is hte only human being that will be able to tell you what is in his mind. we may suggest all we want but all the true answers lie with him. so i dare you to confront him and ask him all about it!!!
2006-11-02 23:28:28 · answer #9 · answered by chev-poison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you 'be in love' with someone you have never met????
He could be a real sleazeball and married! Long distance relationships (especially internet ones) don't work......get yourself a real man - there are so many weirdos that you can't trust, on the net.
2006-11-05 07:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone fall in love with you- either they love you or they don't! You need to move on and get involved in new relationships. Either find someone closer to you or someone who is willing to find a way to be closer! Long distance relationships can be a waste of your time and energy! Good luck and try to get over this relationship!
2006-11-02 23:28:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋