Ok so here's the deal. I had a bit of an attitude yesterday, but I more or less got over it. Wasn't calling nonstop, infact he kept calling me. I was mad because I didn't believe where he said he was. I am very suspicious there was a cheating incident a few months back and he is still friends with her. He spends every night with me. I was actually surprised that he came over and then after me making and him eating dinner he got up and said he was going home. Made some lame excuse about not wanting me to have to get up at 5am as I usually do when he stays over. We fought a lot last night by phone. He says he left because he couldn't take the tension, which he knew would hurt me (the leaving part) We hung up on each other. I am just having trouble trusting him. I love him and I do believe he loves me. We have tried to work through things. Help?
2006-11-02 23:04:09 · 13 answers · asked by Hopey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you have trust issues in all of your relationships? If so, you need to work on that in counseling. If not, and you just can't trust him, do yourself a favor, and move on. A relationship must have a foundation of trust.
2006-11-02 23:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by ifyousaysooooooooooo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweet, if you don't have trust you don't have much of a relationship, he cheated once what's to stop him again. I've been there and done that and learned the hard way. You never mentioned your age, but i'll just say you can remain friends to some degree but without trust the relationship is doomed. And for the record no your not the idiot....Goodluck
2006-11-03 07:13:21 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe once that trust is going you can get it back but it will never be the same. I know you must love him but is it worth it all? I dont think so. I wouldn't live my life that way.. If you caught him cheating there were more times that you didnt. Dont be a door mat. He came by last night to eat and run. Good luck
2006-11-03 07:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not in love with this boyfriend...You're in love with the drama and negative attention! I don't blame him for leaving----it's better to leave than to continue being verbally abused. You shouldn't be spending the night with each other in the 1st place!!
Get your priorities in order. If your relationship is to survive you need to have trust----You have no trust or faith in this person because you're still holding on to the PAST of his cheating!!
Maybe your boyfriend is moving on and out of an abusive explosive situation with you because he just can't take the drama and the stress that you create each and everytime you are together.
You need to take a relationship time out and get your head on straight!
2006-11-03 07:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He walked out because you are have no confidence in your relationship and you have a low self esteem. Imagine trying to tell someone how much you love them and that you really mean it, but they dont believe it and they wont believe it. It's sort of the same thing. Try to trust the guy, he hasn't let you down yet. All these accusations is based on what you THINK, not know. Be smart and dont let your paranoia rule this relationship and cause unneccesary fights.
2006-11-03 07:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jade22 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all if you don't trust each other then there are going to be problems. if he stays with you every night when does he have time to be with another girl (assuming that he works) It sounds like he wants out so give him some time and see if you can work them trough
2006-11-03 07:10:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is still cheating. cos his excuse was really lame. i hate lame excuses. if a guy loves a girl and wants to be with her he wouldn't leave cos 2he worried that she will have to get up at 5 am" and making her actually sleepless all night because this argument and him leaving. i would tell him we re thru. but that's just me, im very impulsive
2006-11-03 07:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your subconsciously destroying the relationship over his cheating....which, by the way, Is pretty messed up if he is STILL FRIENDS WITH HER and going out with you. THAT'S THE ULTIMATE FORM OF DISRESPECT TO YOU. Give yourself a pat on the back for kicking his but to the curve.
2006-11-03 07:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well love if it aint wokin out it gonna because u said your self u think he don.,t love u so may be just go ur seperate ways maybe being friends would be much better
2006-11-03 07:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by stunning Moss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You of most people knows who you are and your feeling for him.
2006-11-03 07:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋