Why do girls give their number, but then dont make any effort afterwards?

Question

I meet allot girls when I go out, and they are always really fun and friendly in the clubs. we have a great time dancing, chatting, and towards the end of the night maybe even a kiss. But a few days later when I call or txt to arrange to meet for a drink or coffee they seem stand-offish. Dont seem to make much effort to want to meet, seems like I have to do all the work. Are all girls this flakey?

Answer 1

Well just p[ut up there number in the gents and after a few crank calls they will soon stop giving out there number unless they mean to be serious

Answer 2

Perhaps they are really busy people. Myself I have 4 courses in college, study time, my son, work, lots and lots of responsiblity. I don't have much time for friends let alone anything else. My friends feel jilted because I don't hang out as much as I used to. Ofcourse if this is the case the girls should atleast let you know that they had a good time and inform you of their busy lifes.

Some girls give their number out thinking that it is a good idea and then for some reason (which could be about anything) they decide maybe it wasn't a good idea to give their number out.

Some girls will give their number to you if you ask, but they really don't want to. They don't know how to say no. I am not sure what their thinking. It is much easier to say I had a good time danceing or whatever, but I don't give my number out or I don't want to give my number to you.

I have found that guys respect my feelings when I tell them I am not interested. They like that much better then the games. I had one guy tell me atleast your honest. He said he hates when girls give out fake numbers or their numbers and never answer.

The only other reason I think that a girl would be stand offish is if she has a boyfriend and didn't inform you of this. I know all these things happen because I see girls do it all the time.

I have seen some guys give the girls their phone number but doesn't get the girls number. Then it is up to the girl to call. I am assuming that the guys do this so if the girl really is interested she will call. Only problem I can see with this is if the girl loses the phone number and really wanted to get a hold of the guy.

I don't think girls are flakey, just confuseing. Ofcourse I can say the same thing about some of the guys that I have met.

Answer 3

How many girls are you asking for their number per week? Doesn't really make the effort very special does it? If you ask someone for their number, assuming the girl is single and doesn't have an excuse, after having a great chat/drink and maybe a kiss, what is she supposed to say, oh no thanks I'd rather not? It's a bit of a slap in the face after having a nice time isn't it? Everything is very different in a pub / club and people have the right to change their minds. Most often the cold light of day can do this. Maybe try to meet someone somewhere different and see how you go. At least they are getting back to you, it's not a nice feeling being dingyed, is it?

Answer 4

to be totaly honest iv done it before. but not becoz im a bad person. iv given a lad my number after talking to them and having a really good night but the next day ya realise nothing is gonna happen between yas so y start something ya know wont go far. Save the hertache for both of yas. Sometimes its nice just to go out have fun and meet nice people but at the end of the night thats it. Then i go home and think i had a really good night and met a really nice bloke. Unfortunatly hes not the bloke i wanna spend the rest of my life with but glad i had the opertunity to meet him. An except i had a gud night just being myself and meeting new people.

Answer 5

No, girls just like playing hard to get and most are rather pesimistic about men in general. Fo instence at clubs and pubs a large part of men are looking for one night stands and most women know this if they havent already been on the receiving end. So they are very cautious about meeting men in these surroundings when they dont know what your intentions are, try making them a bit clearer.

Answer 6

I can't believe guys don't know this! It's because alot of girls are taught not to take the lead in starting a relationship, thinking that the bloke will see them as either desperate or domineering. They don't want to appear too keen or they'll feel a failure if you reject them. So whereas you might be sending them a casual text for coffee, she'll probably be analysing it with her friends, debating with them how long she should leave it before she answers you (so you don't think she spends her whole time waiting by the phone for you to call) and the precise wording so if she was mistaken that you like her in that way, she won't have given away her feelings. It's sad i know but that's the way alot (not all) girls operate, we like to protect ourselves, it's not necessarily that she doesn't like you.

Answer 7

honey, why do u blame girls? maybe they re in relationships or they met someone else while u were playing this " 3 days waiting game". or sometimes a girl is tipsy at a night club and everything seems good, but after she starts thinking and u don't seem that good match for her. i know i would be pleasant and nice if a guy I LIKE calls me and be stand offish and cold if i don't want to continue

Answer 8

People say they 'find' love, as if it were an object hidden by a rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any man and woman. What people find then is a certain love.

Love, like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with a soaking joy. But sometimes, under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending to its roots, keeping itself alive.

Lost love is still love. It takes a different form, that's all. You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it.

Answer 9

That`s what drink does for You.They probably dont even remember what You look like.Perhaps they`re like alot of men and just are on an ego trip...and think they are something special,but never were interested.Perhaps the universe is telling You to look else where for what You need.

Answer 10

What they are doing is keeping the men's equivilent of a little red book of chaps to call on if at a loose end. They are also keeping the options open at the time and will wait for approval of their friends before allowing things to progress. If a friend thinks the chap is OK then she will follow you up.