So my story goes like this...I have been with this guy for 1 year and five...six months.We were the perfect couple.He was the best boyfriend. Things were perfect but then when I went for a holiday,the same weeken he cheated on me with his ex,this was 8 months into the relationship.He had slept with her more than once.She had told me that I should go to hell coz they together at that time I knew nothing that was going on.
He told me he was confused.......When I got back from my holiday he came running back saying he was sorry,he loves me and he wolud make it up to me. Loving him I took him back.
Things were normal for couple months.He went through some financial problems,when his friends didnt even help him,but I did.Stood by him till the end.I wolud sacrifice my nessities for his. Then he started to talk bad, to me,shouting,swearing me...He started talking to other girls,keeping pictures of them,he made me feel insignificant infront of everyone. (there is a continuation)
2006-11-02 22:36:17 · 9 answers · asked by sexyangel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi,
After carefully reading your summation of the problems with this guy, in my mind, the following is what happened.
I do not see his ex wife being the culprit in this whole problem.
He is the guilty one from the git go. Consider that when you left on holiday, he would have had to be the one to have contacted his ex wife, otherwise, how would she have known you would be gone?
Bottom line is if he were first of all smart enough to know what he had in you, he would never have contacted his ex wife in the first place. That is his wrong doing and weakness, and failure, certainly not yours, or even his ex wifes.
Temptation is going to happen, but a real man would stand by his woman no matter what.
Consider that had he cheated on you and you never found out about it, the real damage would have been done to himself, by himself, as he took his "Diamond" (You) and cheapened and disgraced the relationship the two of you knew, by destroying the special bond that once existed.
I like to solve problems and puzzles, but I must admit, after reading where he told you that he was not going to tell you what he wanted, and if he didn't get it, the relationship was over.
I have to think there is no logical explanation for a statement like that. Maybe that is a sample of some of the high level mind games his ex may have laid on him. Giving him an alternative with no possible solution.
Just so you do not start looking for what you did wrong or feeling guilty for something you did not do, please remember what a special person you really are, and do not let anyone or anything ever change that.
Darryl S.
2006-11-06 01:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM !
serves that good for nothing guy ! he doesnt deserve you ! yaa i noe some guys just cannot appreciate somethign good !!
hell realise your value once he loses you !
and whatever happens dont take him back ! from what you have written about him you should not take him back EVER !!
im sorry to say this but i think he's just using you as a financial support !
its bad enough that he cheated on you! you deserve someone wayyy better !!
trust me not all guys are like this
you find someone better
get rid of this guy
tc
all the best
bye
2006-11-02 22:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He did not apreaciate it because he is a jerk and you are a fool to let him take advantage. Sorry for the harsh words but these are brutal fact. Kick him in the butt and move on
2006-11-02 22:40:46 · answer #3 · answered by Pete 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has abused you in several ways. Tell me, which of the abuses will you miss the most when you kick this loser to the curb?
Peace.
2006-11-02 22:39:45 · answer #4 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the same reason some women don't appreciate what we do for them.
They are selfish.
2006-11-02 22:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't need to hear the continuation....he needs to sort out his ''confussion'' on his own without making you feel small and at fault.
2006-11-02 22:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by minitheminx65 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
easy answer: run like hell ASAP
this guy is a fool, using you, playing you, drop him, find a good stable man.
2006-11-02 22:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
that guys got problems
2006-11-02 22:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by chamilitarymayn 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he's a d i c khead?
2006-11-02 22:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋