Me and my boyfriend were together for about 11 months. We were at a high in our relationship, very happy, both in school, both working full time jobs. Busy people, we spent our weekends together. There really was no problem, what so ever. He text messages me, that he was going throgh some things and need time to think. It turns out to be more serious stuff, from what I can gather, mental (issues). Dealing with past, and things that have recently happened in his life (going to Iraq). This has stopped us from speaking every day, even to seeing each other. We talk berifely through text messages and that is about it. Usually I do most of the talking cause I want him to know that I am here for him. I am giving him the space he needs (I am not ya typical girl). With my question now with the background put before you...Should I continue to stand by his side at a distance, and be the good girlfriend I am being to him or should I just move on with my life?
2006-11-02 22:29:00 · 4 answers · asked by Jazzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him three months at least. That is a decent enough time for anyone to gather one's senses and wits back. Then, tell him that you are confused about his interest (or lack of) in you and think that it will be better for both of you to move on. If he agrees or doesn't improve by that time, its time to move.
2006-11-02 22:34:23 · answer #1 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though he is going through post traumatic stress. The question you need to ask yourself is "what's HE worth to ME?"
If you can't stand by him as a girlfriend now, you won't be able to do so as a wife when things go a little skew, which often happens. If you love him enough you'll stay. It's quite alright to not be the right one for him. Best he find it out sooner rather than later. Given what he is going through, though, if you do decide to leave him please be gentle and tell him that you just feel you should part ways whilst he is trying to resolve his issues to give him enough time and to give you a chance to catch your breath and decide if this is right for you. It is letting him down easy and when he is strong enough if he loves you he will come to you and you can then decide what to do.
It's all up to you, and how you feel about him. There is no right or wrong here. THere is a "painful" and a "less painful" for both you and him, but no right and wrong, so follow your heart.
2006-11-02 22:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sugar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no boundaries, it doesnt care about distance and it doesnt fear the times apart,but it savours every breath shared, every kind word and every touch you've shared. You still share the same sky at night, and look upon the same stars, and if you truely love him then the answer is already made for you, you just haven't noticed it yet.
Good luck.
xx
2006-11-02 22:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time to recover.
2006-11-02 22:32:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋