Girls-is this normal behaviour???It's confused me...serious answers only please?PART 2-A difference?

Question

From the consistency of answers to my previous question (previous info below):

Is moving\changing from a close friendship into a relationship a big step/difference? Can the girl really be that afraid? Would she tell you that is her main concern? If so, will you always just remain friends or will it gradually change over time?

When do you know if you’re ready for a relationship?(both in early twenties)What is the difference, if you technically act like a couple already? Is it only the physical aspect?(kissing/sex/holding hands).

Anything I can\should do? She DON’t like speaking about it….

Am really a dumbarse in this area!!

When I mention the topic of commitment\feelings and relationships with my close female friend she changes the topic and won't speak about it,even though I'm not referring to 'us'.I only ask for her views,she goes quiet.WHY won’t she talk about this with me???

Recently she thought that I started dating a girl and she practically ignored me for a week and contact is still on-off,not like it used to be.Was this jealousy or just a coincidence?My behaviour HAS NOT changed towards her and I'm not actually dating anyone.I was told she is happy for me, if so,why wouldn’t she ask about this girl,seeing she’s a good mate?

Also when I joked she had a new boyfriend she shouted down the phone "what f**king boyfriend! There’s no one, I wish I had one,f**king hell".Why'd she get so angry?

Am to meet her this wkn,she said no serious conversations(referring to relationships\commitment\feeli... I believe),I asked her why and she’s gone quiet on me since.WHY?

Have I done anything wrong?

OTHER INFO:Might be useful....

I keep going out with my close female friend,(in touch practically everyday) we go to dinner, lunch together and for drinks in the evening. We also take roadtrips together to the coast and to the country for walks, usually followed by dinner and its just the 2 of us. While we're out we flirt, tell each other everything, feel very comfortable with each other, sort of act as a couple....

I've noticed that she does not like it when I mention other girls that have caught my eye, she changes the subject ASAP. When I mention if she's interested in anyone, the answer is always no,she hasn't pulled anyone when out,etc...we kissed once after 1 night out(a few months bck,very passionate) but nothing since (wud remain only friends),we just keep meeting up,in constant touch etc

Answer 1

she's fallen for you. if you feel the same, tell her. sometimes people will not admit what they really feel. but actions speak louder than words. you're the guy, do the first move.

Answer 2

you poor lovesick puppy. the change from a friendship(which is technically a relationship of some kind) to a relationship is a big decision for some, especially if you have been friends forever. from what you have told us , I would guess that either she really only sees you as a friend, or she has considerd other feelings ,but is scared that you will lose the great friendship thing when the relationship gets more serious.

acting strangely about the other woman, seems as if she may have been hurt by the thought or just doesn't like the idea that you being with someone else, would ultimately change what is very cosy for her right now.

if she is not interested in other guys, I think it is possible that she is afraid ,concerned about what will happen next. has she had a relationship before? once bitten ,twice shy.

you are so ready for the relationship, but that does not mean that she is. if you act like a couple already then perhaps physical intimacy may be an issue with her for some reason.usually people who have a reason need time to trust you and open up about it.

you will need to chill a bit ,as you may be overwhelming her. tell her that you would like to express your feelings towards her , but then you will respect her and leave it alone as you still value your friendship and would not like to lose it. perhaps she can express whether she thinks there is a chance of a change or whether she knows for definite that there isn't one. she owes you at least a straight answer to the last question, which will tell you all you need to know.

good luck , and I truely hope she does not crush you.

Answer 3

I don't think you're a dumbarse, but I think she has done a good job of making you feel that way. It sounds like she is playing the standard head games that scared women play. She is afraid of commitment(or she doesn't see you as a suitable suitor). If it wasn't a head game she would be open and honest and wouldn't want to hide where you stand. She maybe an interesting girl but maybe you should investigate why you would want to hook up with a playa. This kind of women have always led to trouble in my experience. She's a heartbreak in the making. BTW, that friend of yours sounds like a better roll of the dice, amigo.

Answer 4

she is so in love with you it's crazy it sounds like to me that she is afraid of what she is feeling and she doesn't want to talk about it
and as far as being things changing i am here to tell you that when you are really close and you move into a relationship the only thing that dose change is the physical because when you are in a relationship you are best friends if you already have that it's the most important thing!

Answer 5

I think you should tell her exactly how you feel, just as it's written here - spill all.

If your worried it might come between you then you have to ask yourself can you carry on the way things are? Because that's only option if you don't say something.

I got married at 17, I was immature but I still loved him but we split a year later, my mother has been married for years yet they still argue like kids. I don't think age matters - it's if you get along, want to make things work, how mature you are (not how old).

Anyway good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 6

I think she wants to have you in a serious relationship. I expect she is waiting for you to broach the subject to her using "you" and "me",instead of "third party".I also think she is feeling the same way as you are, ( not wanting to openly say the actual words) in case the other dose not feel the same. I think you should tell her how you feel and that way you will find out if she feels the same.Good luck, let us know how you get on.

Answer 7

Oh for god`s sake get on with it...life`s too short.Be demonstrative.Talk l8r.She dont want to hear You talk You butt-head.How long`s she gonna wait??!!! Most other guys have a female friend whoose not interested when they desperately are.Dont let Her fall asleep.
Main difference between close friendship into more is obviously feelings/emotions.Dont be blind.

Answer 8

i think its that she either is scared of messing up your friendship,because lets face it after you go there if it doesn't work out you will most likely no longer be friends .she may just not be that into you sexualy .sometimes you can have a blast with someone and still not have those feelings for someone.it seems by telling you she doesn't wanna talk about it may mean she knows your feeling and doesn't wanna hurt you.but you know her better than us ,but if its something you have to know tell her .at least you can move on if you can.

Answer 9

You don't have to talk about it. Just do what comes naturally. For most women, if we are going to kiss you and/or make love, then we care deeply for you. I know that doesn't apply for all women, but, if you know this lady and you know she doesn't sleep around, then, you know the sex with her is meaningful. Good luck.

Answer 10

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