I was jus wunderin if there any young moms out there as I am 16 and planning to have my child when im 17 as me and boyfriend are saving before having our child, is it difficult being a young mom and how did you cope ????
2006-11-02 21:49:26 · 8 answers · asked by ??????? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I feel I have lived my life and done everything I wanted I crnt think of ne thing else I wnt 2 do me n my boyfriend have been 2gether a year and 4 months :o) I earn £131 a week and we feel prepared.
2006-11-02 22:09:02 · update #1
im going to be a young mum soon and i wish i was not if it had never happened i would want to get on with my life dont do it i want to turn the clock back and be a teenager again
2006-11-02 23:16:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
your only 16, how can you say you've lived your life?!? £131 a week is not much to live on i can tell you. im sure people live on far less a week, bt with a baby it will be much harder. your not even old enough to drink legally yet, how can you decide that you ready for a baby when your only just growin up yourself? how old is your boyf- i hate to ask but a year and a half aint that long together actually considering your ages, so are you sure he'd stick by you? i know a baby might seem like something to complete your world and you can love it but there is more to them than you could ever possible plan for. Do you know anybody with a young baby? why dont you ask if you could "borrow" him or her for a complete day and night, and see how it is. My cousin had a baby at 17, thought she'd seen the world and met the right man. the baby turned 7 months and she gave him up for adoption because she couldnt cope, it wasnt what she had wantd. And its not as if she had no support, well off parents, livin in a nice house, boyfriend of 3 years in middle management at a dpartment store, willing parents etc..... everyone tried to help, but it was so hard for her. If she could turn back the clock she says she would have gone to college or uni and got a decent job, and just left it for a few more years. now at 23 she has the most gorgeous little girl, and boy does she feel more ready. dont have a baby just because you think youve sen everything in life, and you feel as if theres nothing left to do except breed a new generation! my cousin thinks it would have been better if Harry hadnt been born, not for her sake, but for his, because she couldnt cope, and she feels she should have been able to. JUST PLEASE THINK
2006-11-03 00:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mom either young or old takes a LOT of patience. There will be a lot more difficult days than easy days, especially at first when you have to deal with so much sleeplessness. You cope by having as much support you can get either from friends or family. You learn way to early that you are not as prepared as you thought you were, but you get through it day by day. The baby smiles that will eventually come make it worth it.
I can't imagine having done everything I wanted by the time I was 16. I am thirty and there are still things I hope to do some day...things I never even thought about as a 16 year old. Just remember that just because you are going to be a mom that YOUR life and your dreams have to stop. Keep dreaming and setting goals. Good luck with your baby.
2006-11-02 23:56:50 · answer #3 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am 18 with a 1 year old. I was 16 when I got Pregnant and 17 when I had her. She is soo special but it is Hard when ur young trying to raise a kid at a young age. I learn how to cope with everything. And I had to grow up quick and be a mom and not a teen anymore!
2006-11-03 04:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by babigurl_1412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I had my son.got my GED and landed a full time management job. Was making killer money but his father was basically blowing through it and ended up in jail. So i moved out raised my son had my daughter when i was 20 and my last child when I was 23.Im now 28 .An have a mental illness but you know what,i worked hard everyday I read stories to them clothed them fed them and still kept a full time job. Sure its hard while all your friends are going to the senior prom your headed into the delivery room. An most of the time those same friends wont be around anymore. Good luck to you!
2006-11-02 22:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by redsnowykitten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN PLAN ALL YOU WANT YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ENOUGH MONEY.THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SITUATIONS ARISING AN SOME OUT OF YOUR CONTROL, BUT IF YOU THINK THAT YOU CAN HANDLE IT THEN THEN GO AHEAD.THE COPING IS ONGOING BECAUSE YOU WILLBE ALWAYS LEARNING. IT IS A BEAUTIFUL THING. I HAD MY FIRST BABY AT 17 IT WAS OKAY. I HAD TOOO STEP IT UP.JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU CANNOT GIVE THEMTHEM BACK.IF YOU THINK YOU CAN HANDLE IT THEN GO AHEAD,JUST PLASE BE PATIENT.BEING YOUNG AN WANTING TOO STILL GO OUT AN HANG OUT IS OUT OF THE QUESTION UNLESS YOU ARE OUT SOCIALLY WHERE THE BABY IS INVOLVED.I HAVE THREE NOW AND IM NOW 27 JUST HAD A BABY THREE DAYS AGO,I LOVE MY KIDS TOO DEATH..AN PLEASE DONT HAVE A BABY TOO KEEEP NO GUY,IT NEVER ENDS UP THAT WAY .YOU ARE YOUNG.BUT GOOOD LUCK
2006-11-02 22:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by ms.tina_howard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 is too young to have a kid. Live your life. Have you finished school? college? have a good job? your own place to stay? Would you be able to manage by yourself if your boyfriend left? Do you have reliable transportation? Answer these questions and then wait a few years and answer them again.
2006-11-04 15:24:33 · answer #7 · answered by Inquiring Mind 19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please learn how to spell before reproducing.
2006-11-03 02:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋