recently, I was at a party, and this guy was trying to get my phone number, and in the process, kept asking me intimate questions, such as where do I live, and how much money do I earn. I really didn't want to offend him, but could not think of a way of answering him without giving away any details, but still not seeming rude. Please guys, give me some proper techniques for avoiding giving out your number, answering intimate questions etc. Thankyou!!! xx.
2006-11-02 21:48:05 · 13 answers · asked by jemm4president 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm really sorry that you had to deal with this. The standard way that women have evolved to deal with this (i.e. guys who won't get a clue) is to develop a total ice-***** routine, where they just totally shut down the guy's questions. Even if you do this though, the guy might persist, so no strategy may be totally effective.
Anyhow, one effective thing you might try is to offhandedly mention your boyfriend (whether or not you really have one). This usually sends a pretty strong signal. Or really, you can just say outright that you're taken. Then turn away.
2006-11-02 21:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Yishan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, I do it all the time, especially in this forum.
Say something like, "It is a pleasure meeting you but I am sure you will understand that I do not wish to give such personal information to someone I have just met." And then re-direct questions to him, such as "What do you do for a living?" Or, take his phone number, even if you don't call, don't promise you will, just be non-committal as in, "Thanks for your number, perhaps you will be hearing from me."
And get over feeling "rude". There are a lot of women who went against their gut instinct to be rude who got seriously hurt. Any man who doesn't understand why a woman will not give out personal information is either up to something sinister or completely devoid of manners. Either way they deserve a rebuke.
Peace.
2006-11-02 21:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by -Tequila17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can respond with any of the following: 1) Why do you want to know? 2) How will it enrich your life to know this? 3) Are you writing a book? I realize you don't want to be rude...but you have to realize this person is being rude to you and not at all concerned. Never give your phone number or address to someone you don't know well...there is NO REASON for them to need or want this type of information. You have to protect yourself.. When asked the question About how much money you earn...I usually say "I earn enough to suit my lifestyle." or "I earn more than nothing and less than Bill Gates". People do NOT have a RIGHT to know personal details about you
2006-11-02 21:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answer a the question with a question he or she will get the message or change the subject. Lets hope they do any way's.
2006-11-02 22:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by cjett63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will suggest you simply smile and ask for a little time to come back to the question while you go on to discuss other things.
2006-11-02 21:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by Millionaire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
........wanting to know how much money you make and where you live should have your alarm bell's ringing at the max.....Tell him your'e gay or something and if he refuse's to stop, gulp a big mouthful of iced cola, then choke, and spray him with the lot, with an apology.......option 2. can be a plate of pork chop suey,...and option 3. can be a hot cup of coffee, if the 1st one does'nt work....
2006-11-02 22:20:29 · answer #6 · answered by peanut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got not prevented answering a query basically because of the fact I dont think of i'm going to get chosen because of the fact the BA. i've got observed specific human beings basically %. their fave touch or regardless of because of the fact the BA, even with what they have wrote and that i think of its somewhat immature. i've got in lots of cases chosen my contacts as BA, yet because of the fact I genuinly think of their answer is maximum suitable.
2016-10-15 08:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at him, smile at him, act as if you're the dominating person, and say "OK, i'll give you my number next week", and if he continues asking questions just say "i guess you're just going to have to find out yourself", and keep that smile on you're face (otherwise he'll think you're not friendly).
2006-11-02 21:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by hot_spah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give them tis phone # 248 262 6861 it is the # for the reject hotline that will give him the hint ;)
2006-11-02 21:52:44 · answer #9 · answered by insane illusions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you want to so soft to such guys...just refust upfront...let him know that you dont like his activity very clearly...you need not be good to all...Good luck...
2006-11-02 21:52:02 · answer #10 · answered by stallion 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋