i've been sexually assaulted?

Question

it happened about 2 years ago when i was 12. i think it has caused me phsycological and emotional damage. if i talked to a family member about it, would it be able to take the damage it caused me?

Answer 1

Well the first thing I'd like to point out is that you are still here and you are okay.... You must not dwell on what happened to you! I'm not suggesting that you bottle it up or pretend it didn't happen, that would be VERY unhealthy. If you feel you need to talk about it then You definately should! Some words of caution, Use careful judgement in deciding who to tell about these kinds of things.I have always been an unusually deep sleeper & It has been my own personal experience more times than I ever bothered to count that men would take advantage of me when I slept... I couldn't understand why it kept happening. What about me told them I could be victimized? I had always been very open about everything and I figured it was healthy to be able to talk about it all.... But, still I found myself in the same situations, being raped in my sleep by men whom I had thought were friends. Then my best friend asked me one day...
"Was it at all possible that I was somehow inviting them to do that to me without realizing it?"

I thought about it for about two weeks and then the answer suddenly came to me... Being so open and honest, sharing the details of all the times that I was raped in my sleep ESPECIALLY that I hadn't pressed charges.... I WAS telling them they could do that to me if they wanted AND get away with it... and that I would be more or less okay.

But the reason I am okay is that
I refuse to let them take that part of me...

Because then they win... And that is unacceptable!

So don't let anything or anyone tarnish your spirit! EVER!

Answer 2

Lots of things happen when family gets involved. I am not in any way saying that you should not tell your family, just be ready. Sometimes they can be loving, and supportive and understanding, sometimes they can be abusive and can cause more psychiatric damage. They may deny what happened to you because it is too painful for them to believe. Or they will have you bring it to the police, if it has never been reported, if you tell a person in the psychiatric field, they have to report it by law. Especially that you are underage, no matter what state you are in. You need to be in some kind of therapy, the damage that is done with sexual assault can be crippling in later years. Please, get help. I urge you to do so as soon as you can, I, along with millions and millions of other women have been through the same thing. I wish you a better life doll. Take good care.

Answer 3

Sweetie, tell your family right away. There is help and counciling for you for free out there for victims of violent crimes. This is a crime and regardless of who did this to you, you need to tell the authorities in your area and file charges. This person may already be hurting someone else or may do it to another person in the future. My daughter was molested by a man who dated my Ex wife at the age of 5. She has been to see a therapist, but now even at the age of 22 she still has nightmares. You really need the help . If I was there I would find this person and ,er, well, lets just say I was raised in an Italian household and nobody hurts one of our family members. A good shovel and a strong back are both assets. Put this person away regardless if they are family. They will do it again. You can stop them by doing something now. Do it, if not for you, then for the person who might be next.

Answer 4

Nothing can take that away fully, but you kind find things to help you cope with it. Like an art/music, sports, ect. I think talking with a family memeber can start the healing process though. And then therapy and some books. Honestly I wish the best for you. Its going to be a bumpy road, but it will be smooth someday, just hold on.

Answer 5

It will be a good start. It is important that the first person you tell is someone that you can trust to be loving and supportive of you. I hope that that person is one or both of your parents.

You will probably need to go to counseling also. I am so sorry that this happened to you. If you were my daughter I would do everything possible to help you.

Your parents will want to know who did this and that is a good thing. He should be reported to the police so that he doesn't do this to another girl. It was very cruel what he did.

Answer 6

its a real shame to hear that there are sickos out there that do this to people.

I have never had anything like that happen to me, but i think that the best way to get over it is to tell someone you trust with your life.

That way when you finally get the courage to buy a gun and shoot the perverted asshole in the face (and the balls), at least you won't be the only one in the courtroom telling your side of the story.

"If a man smite you in the cheek, SMASH him in the other. Kick him high and low, as self preservation is the highest law."
-1969 Dr. Anton Szandor LaVey

Answer 7

I am very sorry dear.
But don't do that. Talking to some onemight create more problems, if the other person is not matured enough and didn't understand you.

Try to be strong and have the attitude that you will not let yourself down with these thoughts bothering you.

Try to forgive the person, and that is the only way one can move ahead.

You are a goddess for me.

Feel good.

Answer 8

Definitely, the more you open up, the quicker you will heal. It's no good to keep these things buried away. Find someone you can talk to, go over every detail and cry as much as you like. Just let it all out.

Angel hugs

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Answer 9

yes it will. someone i know kept it in for 5 years. only after she started talking about it (when she was 16), she starting healing :)
only share it with people you trust. the more you talk about it, the less traumatizing you feel it to be, because you start to think of it as something you could not help it, and your flashbacks and negative feelings go away, since you will feel less guilt.

also, when you talk about it, you will be more aware of it yourself, and you will have more courage to think about it in a rational way, and then it will not be as painful to remember.

it also will be easier for you to talk about it the next time. you will cry less often, as you talk about it more.

you will be familiar with yourself, your feelings, your reaction to the event. you will learn ways to think about it in a les painful way.

family always helps :) you are young, so you need your family's support. they know best, since they are more experienced and probably have friends or other relatives who went through it too :)

<3

Answer 10

tell u'r family rite away,tell iyt cooly to whom you trust the most.....dont tell these kind of matters to any1 outside t family and friends whom u cant trust for more than 10yrs.they may change and even blackmail u.

Tell it to u'r family,your mom r elder sis.if they feel bad,tell them u told it not to make them feel bad but to help you out from coming out of this agony......

I'm sure u'r parents will help u.

Dont over imagine things here after and try to forget what has happened.Pl be alert and stay consious here after in investing a relationship

Especially dont tell this to any of yur boy friends,they may act as if they are gonna help you come out of this,but at the end of the day you'll find you've undergone the same again.....

Being a teenager enjoy life tothe fullest and do things which are correct.When u turn back and see u'r life after 10yrs u must be proud of yourself babes...

Peace be with you....Have fun,njoy life,trust the trust worthy