My boyfriend thinks i fancy his mate coz i "flirt" with him .i keep telling him that i love him lots but i dont think he thinks i do. HELP
2006-11-02 21:20:05 · 22 answers · asked by Angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Act lol that u angry that he dun belive u or try to cry hm if u dare to As this can score marks
2006-11-02 21:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm could this be another case of crossed wires and personal boundries being over stepped?
The problem could be, that what you see as harmless friendliness, he sees as flirting. If this is the case, when you talk to other men, just mentally imagine your boyfriend is standing next to you. Think about whether what you are doing and saying is entirely appropriate. This should give you a fair indicator of whether you are overstepping what is acceptable. You should have a nice long talk with him and discuss what exactly it is that each of you defines as "flirting" just so that you are both clear on it and then you will be able to avoid crossing over eachothers respective lines of propriety.
Alternatively, your behaviour may be little to do with this and it could, be a case of some insecurity on his part, you are going to get attention from other men, most women do- that is just the way that men's brains work, and he is going to have to deal with this somehow. The fact is though that you do not want any of these other men, so he should be able to rest easily in this knowledge. You could re assure him that that you have given him no reason not to be granted his trust, and that other men may have designs on you or they may not. This point is irrelevant because you do not have any interest in them.
perhaps you could ask him whether he has been hurt badly in his past, whether somebody as broken his trust and left him feeling unable to trust others now as a result, tread gently...his insecurity could be very deep rooted from unpleasant past experiences.
with time and patience you can overcome it, but you must talk to him above all else, do not let this little monster grow into a big one!
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2006-11-02 21:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to me it sounds like your boyfriend is a little insecure... although the fact your flirting with his best mate isn't helping matters... (Let me guess he is the best mate who gets all the girls and you feel like you have to be liked by!!)
Look Talk to him ... yes... be nice... but remember who your dating... you would hate this if your bloke was doing this with your prettier taller sexier mate wouldn't you!!!
Always try and look at it from both side hon... soon you will realise that relationships is all about give and take... even when sometimes you have to confront your insecurities to do it...
Good luck hon....
2006-11-02 23:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean no offence here, but you brought this on yourself, you're boyfriend now thinks you may leave him for his mate! It's best if you sit down with him and tell him how you actually feel about him, that way, your boyfriend will get the message that you still love him.
2006-11-02 21:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
why do you flirt when his around and with his mate? do u really want to keep your man? dont think so.. limit what you say to his friend.
2006-11-02 21:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by ice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easy thing to do, is STOP flirting with his mate. Would you like your boyf to flirt with your mate infront of you? answer, no you wouldnt. your boyf has every reason to think you dont care if you can do that to him. Sorry but its true. Mens minds work in different ways.
2006-11-02 21:34:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't make your bf uncomfortable by flirting with his friend. Although you may not be aware of it, it's possible that it is making him uncomfortable and putting a strain on his friendship. Otherwise, he may just be overprotective. If this is the case, tell him how you feel good luck!!! :)
2006-11-02 21:26:39 · answer #7 · answered by jemm4president 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you flirt with other males if that is a source of stress for him? Anyway this can be anything but love.
2006-11-02 21:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Politia 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just keep reassuring him that you do love him & flirt with your b/friend.Do you live with him?..if so then he has to remember that you go home with him at the end of the night not his m8!!!..try the flirting it may work!! good luck
2006-11-02 21:45:36 · answer #9 · answered by deborah_garrod 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop flirting with ihs mate, would you like it if he flirted with one of your mates???? eh?
2006-11-02 21:47:33 · answer #10 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋