Does your life look so uninteresting like mine? All friends married and not much in common anymore. Everyday after work, its straight home. Weekends its either you're at home or outdoors alone. When the mobile phone rings you know its your brother if not your sister. Yet you still think you're pretty enough to have a bf
2006-11-02 20:18:42 · 30 answers · asked by Sammy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, you've got to distinguish between being alone and being lonely. Which are you? It sounds like you are lonely, and it sounds like you lack a little bit of confidence. I say a little because you think you are pretty. You've got to take that "alone" time and make it fun. You have to be comfortable enough to enjoy the time that you spend with yourself alone. You can't be with anyone else until you are able to be with yourself. Go out to a club, or a museum, or take a walk, enjoy the sun, do some writing or reading or listen to music. You have to make your life interesting. No one can do that for you. You ARE pretty enough. You just have to believe it a little more. Things happen in a divine order and it just may not be your time yet for a boyfriend, especially if you don't LOVE yourself. It takes a lot from deep inside you. I know from experience. I will be 30 years old in 2 days and everyone always asks me why I don't have a boyfriend. They think something is wrong with me. Why do I have to have a boyfriend? He'll come, when it's my time. In the meantime, I can look at me and love me and be just fine, because I know when he does come, it's going to be beautiful. It's the same for you. Just be patient and take this time that you are being given and get to know you.
2006-11-02 20:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry had to laugh at this one! I was just thinking the same, at least about the phone ringing!! when i hear i have a text, I can guess who it is and even what they want, same too with the house phone, ha....things are going to have to change!! Apparantly loneliness is a state of mind! apparantly, even if there are only two people who live where you live, that's two people to talk to!!! I guess what i am trying to say is, life is there for the living, but we don't put the effort in we need to, to really live the life we want. I'm sure you are very pretty, and yes without a doubt could most certainly get a boyfriend, but hun he isn't going to come knocking on your door! Get out there and start knocking on some doors yourself.......what about a gym after work, dance classes, a hobby etc. Start having some fun...work to live, not live to work!!!! Go get em girl!!!!!!! x
2006-11-03 04:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by GalaxyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad that you feel that way. There is more to life than having a bf.... Why not enjoy your freedom and do things that you enjoy? Fill your time with things that make you happy instead of thinking about the fact that you have no bf! One will come along and you will both be a lot happier together if you are happy and have other interests rather than needy and unhappy when he's not there.
2006-11-03 04:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi love, please don't get down we all have to have the low times I've been there myself have you thought about joining a dance class i no that this may sound a bit sad but is a great way to meet new people, just try new things, where you can meet people also if you are looking for love stop looking and it will happen sure enough it happen to me go luck my love all the best of luck
2006-11-03 04:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame, I know how you feel. I just moved to a new town and don't know anyone. What do you do work wise? Is there no one from work you could go out to a bar with to get you out and socialising more? You should try phoning one of your married friends and ask them to go out for dinner and drinks, even if you have nothing in common anymore its a way for you to get out and hopefully meet new friends/men.
2006-11-03 04:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by vickicraig86@btinternet.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the first step make some new friends who you can hangout with and get to know. Then you can start having some fun and get out more with and meet more people with the help of your new friends. Internet is a good place to meet some new friends if you are restricted for time. There are lots of people who find it hard to meet people out in everyday situations.
2006-11-03 08:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by Graham D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take up a new hobby or sport, even an evening class in something you're interested in.
That way you can meet some new people who you already have something in common with, and unlike going to bars or restaurants, you won't feel silly going there on your own.
2006-11-03 04:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by le_coupe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I feel exactly like you, but for me is not that I can not get a BF is that I am scared of getting hurt. Just hang in there you will find someone to love I still have hope
2006-11-03 10:30:36 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a world of difference between being alone and being lonely. I'm always alone, even when I'm with my best friends. Everyone is. Being alone is great. Any two people who are happy alone can be alone together. But someone who's lonely is never happy.
2006-11-03 04:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow my life sounds pretty similar. Lets be Emo and cry..J/K
All my friends are married or in long term relationships and it's just not as fun going out with them anymore..Guess i need new friends..or at least pay people to pretend to be my friend ..lol
2006-11-03 04:25:46 · answer #10 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋