The only reason I say this is because I was 19 when pregnant, 20 when I had my daughter. Pregnancy went EXCELLENT. In fact I loved being pregnant! I feel it's easier on the body at that age. Biologically, we were meant to have babies under age 28, sad but true.
So then I have a baby again at 30, a decade later. Much harder on my body. I didn't have as excellent pregnancy. Definitely noticed an "aging" difference. I was more tired. I had anemia, and gestational diabetes. I have had low thyroid problems the whole year afterward. The LABOR was easier (if that is possible) again, without anesthetics (that's good). But I cannot imagine having kids after 40 like some women do. My energy levels have dropped significantly in ten years!
Is it just me or do you agree?
2006-11-02 20:14:03 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I agree w your assessment that younger women have smoother pregnancies than older women. However I think that younger women may not have the emotional stability or maturity to raise children. Of course this varies greatly depending on the individual.
The average lifespan of women used to be 40 and now women in their 40's are having children. Our bodies were not meant to have children after a certain age which is why fertility begins to decline at 27. But we're not meant to live as long as we do either - times have changed and people's idea of when to have children has too.
2006-11-02 21:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by reviewee 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I got pregnant at 37. I did have some problems with tachycardia in the first trimester, but I have had those problems since I was 25. Otherwise, my pregnancy was great. Never a day of morning sickness. Glucose was great. I also loved being pregnant. He got the hiccups every day. There is nothing like feeling a baby move inside you. Labor was a ****** but I had a healthy son. I craved steak and ice cream, I still crave them too. If we lived in a perfect world I would say that 30 would be the perfect age. You should not be tied down with a child in your early 20's. You should be having fun. If I had done it at 30, I would have definitely wanted another one.
2006-11-02 21:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I appreciate your opinion, but don't necessarily agree. There are just too many opportunities available for women now. I think it's more important to get a post-secondary education after high school, and train for some type of career. Then, working and living on your own provides you with a chance to deal with the reality of earning money, paying bills, etc.. These are important steps in the development of a woman to become a well-rounded, secure individual. It's much harder to go back to school in your thirties, if you had your babies earlier.
I also totally disagree with your statement that women were meant to have babies under age 28 - where did you find that research? The only stat. docs agree on is that after 35, there are more risks with pregnancy outcomes.
I had my first child at 30 - with energy at full blast! Sorry you didn't have a good experience, but really, most women do. My mom had her sixth at 45. Friends of mine are having babies at 40 or just over, and are full of vim and vigour and very healthy. Babies are totally fine. It all depends upon your health and how you take care of yourself, with great medical assistance.
So, I think we, as women, are very lucky to have these choices. Overall, I would say that it is best for children to have stable, educated parents who can provide them with a loving, caring family and home. That is not always possible when teens have babies - after all, their brains are not even fully developed and they are not fully matured until about age 25.
2006-11-02 23:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I disagree. It might be a little bit safer but, it puts off so many important things like education and career development. Starting a career at age 30 or going back to school is very difficult. Also, financial stability isn't there until later. Then again, I don't think most women should have babies at all. I certainly won't.
2006-11-02 21:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh, I agree. I had a child at 28, and a child at 38. The second one was/is soooooooo much harder. My body has gone thru some changes, and is so much harder. I am TOO old to be having a baby at this age. She is now 2, and she is the biggest challenge of my life. You are correct!
2006-11-02 20:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by evanlah 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes & no. I had my first son at the age of 18 and felt great! I had my second son at the age of 30 and my third son at 33. I felt crappy in the mornings for the first 3 months with my last 2 sons. And I had Chron's attacks with the last 2 also, but I didn't get Chron's till my first son was a year old.
2006-11-02 20:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will agree partially agree to you. Yes because doctors say children born to some women above 28 years have health problems. But in the meantime I feel 19,20,21 years are too early.
2006-11-02 20:56:57 · answer #7 · answered by Jayanthi S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I don't agree. I was 32 when I had my daughter, the pregnancy wen't quite well, in fact I was the healthiest I've ever been when I was pregnant. I quit smoking very easily, my blood pressure went DOWN, my asthma didn't rear it's ugly head. And once my daughter was born I was very relaxed. There was nothing that I'd freak out over. My motto was "if she gets hurt I'll take her to the ER" I of course would supervise her but I allowed her to explore the world and learn on her own. When she reached the "terrible twos" her trantrums got no reaction from me. She ran the gamut trying to get a reaction though. First she would bite herself, then she graduated to throwing herself onto the ground, when that prooved futile she tried banging her head, her last ploy was to hold her breath. Consequently she left "the terrible twos" before she was three, she was potty trained before her 2nd birthday, not because I forced her to do it but because she always followed me into the bathroom and finally one day she said she wanted to sit on the toilet. So I put her on it. Every time I went after that she would want to sit on it. Finally one day the timing was just right and she went pee in the toilet. Yippiee. But I kept her in diapers until there were no "accidents" and she was pooping on the toilet as well. I figured keeping her in diapers was no more of a hassle than having to clean shitty underwear.
Just becuase YOU ran into problems after 30 doesn't mean EVERY woman will. I have a friend who was 45 when she had her last child, and had the easiest labor and delivery as well as healthiest of all four of her children. She also had a great "parenthood" with the fourth because she had time with the fourth. She had retired from her fulltime job that she HAD to have with her older three because she was a single mom. I would assume that your energy levels have dropped because YOU have allowed them to. My energy levels picked up during my pregnancy and for years after my daughter was born. Of course it is all in how one looks at a situation. If you were to have children in your 40s I doubt very much you'd make it, because of your own mindset.
2006-11-02 21:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
In my opinion, women need to finish college and get a job so that they can support themselves if something goes wrong with the child or the father.
I know that not everybody has to have a college degree, but if you have it, it makes life much much easier.
So, I disagree.
2006-11-03 00:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by jimbell 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Speaking from experience, I have to agree. But lost youth can be regained yet even after 30.
2006-11-02 21:25:03 · answer #10 · answered by Doctor B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋