How do you prevent lonelyness when you live alone?

Question

ideas from people with experience please? its my first time living alone.

am living on a tight budget, not allowed pets, and i work 9 - 5 monday to friday. so its my evening in the week that i need to occupy myself with.

Answer 1

Occupy your time. Maybe get a cat !!

Answer 2

You can get a pet if you're home enough to care for it. Take up a hobby to occupy yourself. Use your time to work on some personal goal, like learning to play an instrument, picking up a new language, working out, etc--particularly things that would annoy roommates or that you'd be embarrassed to do in front of other people.

You can also do things to ensure that you're not spending your time at home alone: spend time with friends; date; volunteer; join a club, class, or other group; get to know your neighbors; invite people over for dinner etc.

Living alone can be great, but you do have to make a special effort to make sure you're not just sitting around by yourself all the time. On the positive side, once you've learned to be comfortable being with yourself, you're often a much better person to be with once you are partnered with someone else.

Answer 3

Enjoy it while you can. I have lived in the country with only my cat for company for the last twelve years and I would need a lot of persuasion to give up the peace of an empty house. I am out 3 -4 evenings per week and about 1/3 of weekends pursuing my pass time. To get in late and not have to make conversation or listen to somebody's problems is a great comfort.
A shame that you are not allowed pets.
Without knowing your interests, it is difficult to make specific suggestions but there are clubs to accommodate virtually any activity that appeals to you. Failing this, try evening classes as this should put you in touch with people with whom you have at least one thing in common.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

I live alone and love it, independent can do what you like,and have only yourself to blame if the place is a mess!

I presume you have a circle of friends that you could entertain invite your family for a meal.

It is important to occupy yourself discover the area and the facility's it might offer find out if there are places you could go to socialise, classes in the area eg salsa (all great fun and you meet other people) a gym or swimming pool, I am tea total so instead of finding out my local pub I checked out the local coffee bar.Check out the cinema as well.

I also found out what the surrounding areas have to offer and how to get there.

Find local hospital doctors surgery and dentist and do not forget to register at them just in case.

Most of all enjoy the experience of independence it is a ball!

Answer 5

well
you consider all the things that makes you happy and alive and do them at random moments

as it is your first time living alone (giving that you have not moved away a great disstance) call all the people you now and arrange a get to geather house / flat warming party

failing that go around the area you now are now living and find palces of entertianment to keep you occupied.

but i will say this you are never alone when your friends a phone call a way

Answer 6

first of all lonliness is a state of mind that you choose. make sure you keep busy. go to the cinema on your own and enjoy being with yourself. get on cheap call rate on your telephone eg www.1899.com keep in touch with people. write emails. do yahoo answers. it's tough if you are a people person and you can't have someone there 24/7 i'm a bit the same and really want to move in with my bf but i know this is an important time to be alone too. every thing is temporary..just do your best X M

Answer 7

To be honest, living alone was never a problem for me. I did it for 9 years before my son was born. I always had music. I would say what helped me the most when I felt lonely was my cat. Do you have a pet? They bring so much joy to us and they ask for so little. My Shadow lived to be 17. I had to put him down but I have his ashes.

Answer 8

if you are spending most of your day at work, i would advise you not to get a dog. you can get a dog if you have enough time to play with it, talk it for a walk, groom it, train it etc.

you can get a cat instead, who are more self sufficient than dogs.

you can also invite people around and throw parties more often.

you can start some social work / some volunteering to keep you busy and also that will give you immense satisfaction of doing something meaningful

take up a hobby - gardening, embroidery, arts, painting - do a few classes and get plenty of practice at home

offer your relatives or friends to baby sit if they have kids - they will appreciate it and kids are great to have around !

good luck, hope i have given you some ideas :)

Answer 9

join a yoga or pilates class. also get to know your neighbors, this might be helpful especially during emergencies. also having tivo would really help you pass the time when you are alone. you could also take up a hobby like crocheting, knitting, sewing, cooking or sleeping (haha). You could also try gardening. i'm not really sure about having a pet cause what if it suddenly dies you might even get lonelier if that happens.

Answer 10

I would suggest buying a pet, cats are easy to look after as they pretty much look after number one.

Saying that they like a lot of loving in the mornings and evenings.

If you can't have any pets i would suggest going out in the evenings to the gym or some activity or invite friends round for dinner etc

Answer 11

Loneliness is a state of mind.
So, keep your mind occupied. Reading books, watching videos of your choice, writing journals(could be a traditional one or a blog), and some activities like cooking new recipes or any art form like painting etc. could be good.
But a repeated routine would make you bored. So keep it a good mix of activities. Friends are a great part in reducing your loneliness. Seek good friends and include them in your activities.
Have fun...