I have been married 1 yr, and my mother-in-law lives with us. I love her to death, but at the same time, she drives me crazy! I don't think she believes in boundaries or minding her own business. I also think she's allergic to cleaning up after herself. When I get off of the phone, she asks me who it was and what they wanted. I've had to start taking my calls in another room. I'm not a clean freak, but I will not live in a dirty house.I came home from work to find her here alone(as she had been all day),with overflowing trash, spills and crumbs all over the counters and black grease marks on the carpet from her work shoes.(that she tried to blame on my cat).The carpet incident happened the day after I had shampooed the entire house.Then she acts as though she deserves a medal for doing one load of laundry(folding not included). My husband thinks i over-react.There are many other things she does that irritate me, but not enough room to type. Am I over reacting? How should I handle this?
2006-11-02 19:55:05 · 8 answers · asked by Hunnybunny00 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Happy friggen Honeymoon to you! Why the heck is your mother in law living with you newly married people for? That is absurd to me!!!What you wrote is clear to me dear, I can almost vision what is going on in your house!!! And that what you have wriiten is a bunch of BS!!!! Again, why the hell is she living with you. She doesn't sound elderly and unable to take care of herself. That's when sometimes children have their parents live with them, so not to put them in a nursing home. But sounds to me you have a buzy body, and a lazy person living with you, and on top of it, it's his "mommy", his "MOTHER", needs to live on her own, unless she is destitute, get her on her feet, and shove her out the door!!!! Hubby have siblings? Let her live there. I don't know HOW you are so newly married, and this is how you are starting out your life.....that is totally unfair to you!!!!
2006-11-02 20:40:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My pal, I will say this to you, in case your FIL is disowning his possess grandchildren, he undoubtedly has a crisis. However, the higher crisis you've got isn't him, however your husband. He has a brand new household to take care of now. Granted it could be distinguished if he might have a well dating along with his dad as good, nonetheless, if his father isn't accepting your followed kids, as fairly his grandchildren, your husband has a accountability to his new household first. My in-legislation didn't take delivery of our two followed kids in the beginning both, and generally I suppose they nonetheless do not to a specific volume despite the fact that they're 17 and 20 now. But whilst it used to be VERY seen that they didn't just like the thought that their son followed alternatively of passing on their "identify" my husband determined that our household used to be the essential. Your hubby demands to make that option- kids do come first.
2016-09-01 06:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by durfee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't work out. When a man marries, he is supposed to separate from his parents. If she's been with you two the whole year, it's time she started thinking of getting her own place. Talk to your husband. Suggest that you move one of your relatives in. Then maybe he'll see your point of view. He really needs to grow up and wise up and realize that it's about you. You are his family now. Mom will still be mom.
2006-11-02 20:01:44 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you're not over-reacting. If your husband thinks so...let him clean up after her...it's HIS mother!!! I'm not in favor of families living together long term. It's especially tough when you have no privacy.. If things don't change after forcing your husband to wake up...then consider giving an ultimatum...separate residences...or you're getting out
2006-11-02 20:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thunderdome!
2006-11-02 20:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
fact is as you grow older you really become like that. but you might be overreacting a bit. well she is now your mother too. so treat her that way. try to be more patient with her. won't hurt. have you thought about it that they also experienced before what you are going through right now and are just returning the favor? so be patient now and wait for your time to return the favor to your daughter-in-law
2006-11-02 20:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
my friend smith & wesson could solve your problem lickety split, and you seem to be a bit of a neat freak, so cleaning up the mess shouldn't be much of a problem
2006-11-02 19:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who changes your hubby's diapers, you or his mommy?
2006-11-02 20:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by MC 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋