i was seeing this guy for about a year on and off, he was never my boyfriend even thou i really wanted him to be. he met someone else about a year ago and that really broke my heart but they split up a few months ago. we ended up getting back into contact and things were looking like we were back together but then he turn all funny on me and a couple of weeks ago said he said to me he's young, free and single??? so in my eyes so was i!!!! recently i met someone else and when this guy found out he told me he loves me and said iv hurt him and we ended up having this massive argument!! is he just jealous??!! i don't know what to do, im really confused if he saw him self as single then why is he upset with me, its not as if im cheating on him if we're not together??!!??...why does he always mess with my head????!!!!
2006-11-02 19:46:54 · 23 answers · asked by Charlie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry to say this but this guy doesn't really want you in the sense of wanting you as a girlfriend or lover. What he wants is somebody to fall back on when there is nobody else on the horizon. My advice would be to lick your wounds, pick up your pride and walk away. If somebody wants you, you know; they don't mess with your head and they certainly don't tell you they are young free and single. Stick with the new guy and forget about this other one and you will see in a couple of months time that you don't need the hassle.
2006-11-02 19:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've read in a women's magazine about a year ago... the article was about the modern MU or mutual understanding... i think ur case is just one of those stories in the article. u are saying that u and this guy meets on and off... maybe, somehow u have that connection while having a communication with him... probably he's being jealous since again uve been together for atleast a year even if it was on and off.... u might be confused but the thing is u have a relation but u dont have the commitment because again you are just blinded by the fact that ur just meeting and dating and nothing more...
2006-11-02 19:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by dzidzan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one answer to this - because he's a man. They mess with our heads because they can. I'm in a similar situation and it's starting to hurt me so much but I really love him so I keep going back for more. I wish I could find someone else because then I'd stand a chance of maybe realising that this guy isn't good for my health and getting out but it's hard to meet new guys and when I do get chatted up I don't trust what they are saying because I have lost faith in men and I see them all as liars and cheats. I hope you can get get your situation sorted out but it seems to me that he doesn't know what he wants and he only says he loves you when he thinks there's someone else on the scene. I hope there's a man out there who can prove all men are not full of c**p but I doubt it. Good luck.
2006-11-02 19:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by Misha-non-penguin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think its the typicall I don't want you... to be with anybody else.
It has happened to everybody I think, you "have" someone for sure, even when it's not a formal relation and then, when they go and find someone to go formal, you get jelaous... of course! I think he will keep on messing with your feelings, and maybe before he carries on doing that, you should talk to him and make him understand how you felt, not what he did, i.e. tell him something like "I thought you didn't want anything with me, cause you said you were single and free" and, you might want to give yourself a chance with this new guy...
**** luck!
2006-11-02 20:00:10 · answer #4 · answered by karlita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He messes with your head because he see's that he can do it because you keep letting him and he only wants the chase of trying to see if he can have you... No matter how bad it might hurt just tell him too little too late and move on without him. Don't put yourself down that low and let him have that power over you, you are better then that and he needs to know that and so do you...
2006-11-02 19:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, communication is the game. go out on a picnic, a relativly secluded area, and sit and disscus it, cuz u care and cuz if u really want it 2 turn into a relationship (if it's ever possible) u'd have 2 always speak things over with each other. just don't get mooshy on him. they HATE it.
2006-11-02 19:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds a bit as if he's using you. only now you've met someone else he's claiming undying love.
i dont think he wants to be with you but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either - this is fairly common.
move on as everyone deserves happiness and leave him to his games.
2006-11-02 20:01:55 · answer #7 · answered by weizy_26 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He messes with your head because you allow it.It also sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too. Find someone else that will give you respect.Have fun!
2006-11-02 19:52:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he confused or what, deep down he really likes you, but maybe he is scared he will ruin the friendship he has with you if he takes it further.... Sit him down and be direct
2006-11-02 19:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by bty53404242 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you but, i'm sure you know what i;m gonna say. move on from him and enjoy your life he is sooo messing with your head.
this is a classic case of ...
got it got it, don't want it
want it want it can't get it
2006-11-02 19:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋