i have had a long distance gf for 3 yrs and i was seeing her for 5 days about once every 10 - 12 weeks, i would go see her, but always stayed in a hotel, even though i funded her rented house but she claimed a friend also lived there but never met, we have never had sex even though i have raised the subject, she wants to wait till i move permanently to her, but i found out from an ex that she was a rabbitt, but i think they lived in the same city, am i being unreasonable in wanting it
2006-11-02 19:22:51 · 32 answers · asked by mikealedmonds 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
UV been conned
shes using u , stringing u along taking ur money, probably sleeping with someone else
dump her and get someone else
2006-11-02 19:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by john v 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you are being used as a Sugar daddy without getting the perks...
If you pay the rent, just turn up on her doorstep unexpectedly and you'll find out one way or the other for certain... I wouldn't normally condone this action but in this scenario, it seems appropriate.
I can understand her wanting to wait, even if in the past she has been erm, very giving. Maybe she felt used herself, however, even if that were the case, after 3 years, she should know you are serious about her and be willing to share her bed with you.. There are plenty of pleasentries you can both enjoy without full intercourse.
You sound like a generous, trusting kinda fella, I hope things work out well for you.
2006-11-02 19:44:18 · answer #2 · answered by KJA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...... u have more patience than any guy that I've ever met.... well done for putting up with the situation for so long ! i think she is being pretty unreasonable though...... and it's not that i think that she should be sleeping with u coz I've spent so much money on her, but because it's been 3 years.... after 3 years, a lot of couples have already moved in together, got married and had a kid..... i think u need to sit her down and ask her where this relationship is going.... i think asking a guy to wait longer after he's already waited 3 years is asking too much of him... but i guess that's my opinion. if she's not willing to change or compromise, then i would seriously have to think about whether or not all this hassle is worth it, if i were u. good luck !
2006-11-02 19:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope all of these answers are like a wake up call to you mate, sorry to say this (hopefully even women will agree with this) but some nasty ladies have a way of pulling the wool over a mans eyes, while we are to busy trying to get laid.
she has someone in her house you have never met? i am willing to bet it is her real boyfriend and you are paying for their easy life. After 3 years it is silly for you not to have had sex if she is promiscuous in other relationships!
if you still are not sure, go down there one night and suprise her at her house - see if there are mens clothes everywhere etc, then get rid and find someone close by.
you dont want to waste another 3 years do you?
2006-11-02 19:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Gravy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If your are paying for her rented house...why are you staying at a hotel? Sounds like a lame excuse to me...the real reason she may not want you over is because this roommate is actually a boyfriend and she's just using you...move on and find yourself someone better...sorry to have to say that but that's how it sounds.
2006-11-02 19:35:45 · answer #5 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are being taken for a ride !!!
You pay for the rent and you end up in a hotel !!!
You don't get sex for 3 years but yet she has been known to have had sex in other relationships !!!
You have never seen the person she shares the house with that YOU are paying for !!!
IS THE ALARM BELLS NOT RINGING YET ??????
Get rid of her !!!! She is using you !!!!
2006-11-02 19:28:55 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what relation are you talking of ? just meeting once every 10 -12 weeks , paying for her rented house , and then you staying in a hotel during your VISIT ..... does that emit any love signals ? and on top of it raising the subject of sex...are you asking for the price! look at yourself and leave her alone
2006-11-02 19:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy all you are to this girl is free rent ..I'm sorry it's taken so long for someone to tell you this.. and hey if you find another girl thats going to take your money.. at least get your moneys worth out of her..
2006-11-02 19:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unbelievable!
I would never stop any of my friends from staying at my home...even if I had no beds, I would make up a bed on the sofa or find something soft for them to sleep on on the floor....and she is supposed to be your girlfriend?!
She is using you to pay her rent. There is no doubt about it.
2006-11-02 19:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Copper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are really being taken for ride dude, id stop the rent, and kick her out, why should you pay for her to be there and get nothing in return, seems to me she is out for what she can get, and if you let her do that then your a fool too, use your spare key and let yourself, after all you atre that landlord,
2006-11-02 19:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by little_lea_06 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seriously think this girl is using you. If you rented her a house and she won't let you come there that is bull. I would cut her lose and find someone who is going to appreciate you and won't take advantage of you.
2006-11-02 19:27:42 · answer #11 · answered by kitten 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋