well i dont like to have a boyfriend and i dont even want to get married, because im afraid that my boyfriend or my husband would always compare me too better looking women,how could i change this mind set
i mean i have many suitors but i dont want to have or enter any relationship,because i am always thinking that they will fall for better women,i am thinking that all men just look at the physical aspect and that i think men are shallow prove me wrong please
2006-11-02 19:17:16 · 22 answers · asked by haringmarumo 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop dating jerks, date better people.
2006-11-02 19:19:52 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do think a lot of men SEEM shallow. Before you reach the final verdict read John Gray's "Men Are From Mars, Women From Venus". It will help you understand men better and it should improve both your romantic relationships and your business relationships. Whether you like it or not, men are very important in this world. You need to be able to communicate with them. As far as having a boyfriend or getting married goes, you don't have to if you don't want to. I am a healthy, heterosexual female and I've lived alone since 1979. I love my life and my friends. I wouldn't want to change it for anyone. You do say "fall for better women" though. Forget about men and relationships for now. I believe that the most important thing you can do for yourself right now is work on your self esteem, read that book and if you haven't already -- start a good exercise program. My best wishes to you.
2006-11-02 19:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by ckperin0682 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the problem you face is about relationships, men are not that shallow. Even though you are with someone, looking at others is not a reflection, and women do it to (I call it window shopping), and seriously looking isn't a problem, as long as you don't buy the goods.
Your problem sounds like you need to build a relationship with yourself first. By this I mean you need to work on your self esteem and confidence. You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else, and I know when you have no self esteem you think this is crap...but seriously having worked through it myself...it isn't. Once you feel good about you, will you feel ok about a relationship with guys. If you feel good about yourself then when in a relationship you won't wonder about them falling for better women, because you will realise all women are queens.
2006-11-02 19:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by chelles_insanity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think men can be shallow. Some men are more shallow then others. There are two things you need to realize though. One, men have different ideas of what is good looking. Not all men are attracted to sticks with big boobs. For some guys, you might be just their type. Two, a guy isn't going to stick around unless he's also attracted to the woman's personality. Jealousy and insecurity are not attractive personality traits. Smile and think of yourself as gorgeous. You will become a man magnet.
2006-11-02 19:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you think guys feel about women just looking at physical aspects?????? It works both ways sister, just remember when you do find that someone he won't even notice other women, but then of course then you will feel smothered and then end up blowing him off, so maybe it isn't always the man that is the problem. You also have to realize that people will always judge one another no matter what; its just in our nature its not to be mean or anything it sometimes just comes out even when you least expect it. Happy Hunting!!!
2006-11-02 19:25:07 · answer #5 · answered by devildog75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man, and I am not shallow. Guys who judge based on appearance are jerks. Find a guy who's not in it for the sex.
And in my experience (no offence to anyone intended) girls who believe that all men are shallow are often shallow themselves. I don't think there are any more shallow guys than there are shallow girls. (Assumes Dr. Phil texas drawl:) Maybe y'all haven't realized, but boys and girls are DIFFERENT in many ways. Guys express themselves in different ways, and tend not to be quite so extroverted when it comes to emotions. This does not denote shallowness.
2006-11-02 19:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by Luke T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are shallow. just wait til u meet one who's not as shallow as most and u'll make believe he's the ocean and ur the sand and live happily ever after. Trust me it'll happen. Remember me when ur married and wondering how u ever got urself into the mess.
2006-11-02 19:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All men doesn't look for physical aspect of women. beuuty lies in the heart of a person. If u r good human u will definately get good human to match u, please wait n watch u will prove urself wrong one day.
2006-11-02 19:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by g_hnst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on one level you're right - men need a physical attraction, and it can be easy for them to remain at that level, without going much deeper. but many of us do want to go much deeper, and they're just looking for the right woman to do it with...a tip, don't attract guys with your body alone. look for a guy who doesn't need to sleep with you within the first 3 dates, and, when dating, don't wear clothes which will attract guys to your body first last and only, and then hope that a deep relationship will develope. be attractive without being too sexy, at least at the beginning. that will get a guy who's looking for a relationship, although he needs a woman he's attracted to, just like everyone else.
2006-11-02 19:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by sam I am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know two adult men who seem sturdy in crimson. They placed on crimson nicely and a few stupid ties at situations, too. I agree which incorporate your estimation of crimson and lavender looking large on a guy. i'm a real female and that i like very almost all colours. i don't experience sturdy in dwindled colours so i do no longer placed on them.
2016-10-21 04:41:51 · answer #10 · answered by casaliggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could prove you wrong but that is impossible on this forum.
There are men who are not shallow and who would love you, care for you and be faithful to you...Take that for what it is worth...
2006-11-02 19:22:44 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋