Is there a disorder linked to disobeying authority?

Question

My son will not.. Do his homework when I tell him to only on his own or take shower or brush his teeth when I tell him but if I don't tell him he will do it eventually.. If anyone tells him what to do he will not do it is there a disorder he may have? So we can get this fixed.

Answer 1

Sounds like a hard headed kid to me. Discipline!

Answer 2

There are disorders..oppositional, ADD, ADHD, ...things like that. Just Google "Behavior Disorders and you can find alot of info. But you don't say what his age is and you haven't said how many other things you are telling him to do during perhaps an 8 hour period...and you haven't said what you have tried. If you talk to him alot, get quiet. He has learned to tune you out. If you keep threatening but never carry through with consequences, then he has learned not to care. The best thing that I have found to do with expectaion issues is to remove everything from the child's bedroom, and limiting his access to his little pleasures based on his completion of tasks tha are expected of him. Not eerything is a disorder. Alot of kid problems are them having way too much wiggle room, and too many entertainment escapes. If he isn't paying rent to live in your home, then he earns his pleasures while he lives there. It is just that simple.

If he is under the age of say....5, it could be that his maturation has not reached the level that you exepct. If you have interference from other males in the house that undermines your authority with your son, assuming you are the female parent here. Then those fellows need to move out, leave, stay away...or you need to leave them with their son...assuming the interfering male is the biological parent, and go build a wondefful life on your own. That kind of interference teachines a male to desregard and disrepect not only you, but other women...and there is no excuse for standing by and allowing that to happen.

IF he listens to the tv full blast and he doesn't react to other noises he might have a hearing problem.

Answer 3

Are you a single mom by any chance? THey have linked sociopaths with single mom upbringings. Of corse if he one, they very rarley get the help they need becasue they think they are fine and everyone else is messed up. How about not telling him, but asking him. Maybe he isnt anti anything but doesn't agree with how it is brought to him. How old is he? there are certain ages that children are aquiring their identity and the not responding to orders goes right along with it. It's like they need to find out what it means to them to disagree, what is the outcome, sort of thing. Obvoiusly, if he eventually does things on his own, he agrees with the need to do them, so maybe he does not agree that they need to be done at that moment or as often as someone else. If I were you, I would try talking to him objectively. I wouldn't continue to feel like I had to tell him to do certain things, because, then if they don't get done in the future, he can blame you for not telling him to do it, or, whats more, in your telling him to do something, and if it has a less attractive outcome, he can blame you for making him do it. Let him learn being resposible for his actions, or non action. That is of corse if he is old enough. If he doesn't take a shower and starts to look messy, his piers will let him know how they feel about that. He can decide what that means to him whether it is important what they think or not. What is your son doing most of the tie otherwise?

Answer 4

I don't think it a disorder. It's a stage: adolescence. Maybe you should hold back and see how he does on his own. As he does things he needs to do in a timely way, praise him. You may both be happier with this approach. It's better for him to do his own stuff and better for both of you if you are happy when he gets it done on his own.

Let him make some mistakes and try saying, "Oh, gee, that's too bad you didn't get that done on time. Should I remind you next time?"

This worked with my two, once I caught on, and I saved getting a lot of gray hair. They were happier and we were all less stressed.

Your son is the one who needs to learn responsibilty. You may have to back off and let him make a few mistakes (homework not in on time) and take his lumps himself to help him grow up.

Answer 5

Yes, it is called PATRIOTISM.
This country was founded on disobeying authority.
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You want to get him fixed, like a cat or dog?
That sounds pretty extreme, but it will do the job.
( HINT: That may be related to the answer to your question )

Answer 6

Oppositional Defiant Disorder or ADHD- you can't fix it, but you can get him therapy or medication

Answer 7

for children- oppositional deffiant dissorder
in adults it's an axis ii personality disorder diagnosis

Answer 8

called antisocial, or sociopathic.

Answer 9

all rebeliousness is fear based....find out his fears

Answer 10

WAIT TILL HE'S INTO GIRLS. IT'LL CHANGE.