I have known a man for 10 years. 5 years ago, I let my irish temper get the best of me and I called it off between us. I rushed into a marriage I later found out was abusive, and he was there for me. Everything is planned out now, but I have some questions. What does it really mean when a man says "No matter who you marry, you'll always belong to me?" What does it mean, upon seeing your children and spoiling them rotten, when he says, in a good sort of sad way and not a bad one "They should have been from me. But you dumped me". What does it mean when you are talking, and the man says he wants more children in the future? Especially when you have to work hard most of the time to get his feelings out in the first place? What does it mean when he says he never thinks anything badly of you and that just a look from you "drives him nuts" and he can't resist kissing you? Is this just talk, or is it real since he didn't try anything in the beginning?
2006-11-02 19:14:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
After he said dumped, he immediately apologized and said he was wrong for saying it. We also have a history. I miscarried a baby 5 years ago.
2006-11-02 19:14:59 · update #1
Deja Vu........it still means nothing. If he said it he meant it he had to say sorry. You want to see if he's for real? Next time you see him tell him you can't have anymore children. Now let's see what he says. Stay clear from this guy.
2006-11-02 19:23:55 · answer #1 · answered by txdude 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Daysleeper,
I don't think its wise to ask other men to interpret what this particular means when he says what he says. People in general sometimes say things they don't mean while others are rather sincere- it depends on the individual.
Considering what an important decision it is for your life- i would first suggest that you try to fix your current marriage (otherwise you'd be committing adultery) and that's just not something God will bless. Moreover, you'll end up hurting someone including yourself. If your current husband is abusive you want to make sure you take care of that situation and put yourself in a safe place.
In terms of this other man-- until you ressolve your marriage situation first. It's obvious after this amount of time that this man loves you- but love isn't the answer to everything. You've to be sure that you love him and are ready to be in a committed relationship with him- you should take care of your situation first... you can't whole-heartedly commit to another man while you are still married... After that i would seek some counseling because it sounds like you have some issues to ressolve and work through before getting married again...
hope this helps. Kindly,
Nickster
2006-11-03 04:14:50 · answer #2 · answered by Nickster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing the guy the next bit I will say is just a guess. I think that he does love you, but is still hurt that the relationship was called off years ago. The main reason that he might be avoiding taking to you about being hurt is fear that you two will get into a fight over this topic. He does want children. he means that. Few men mince words about having children. Usually they keep there mouth shut (the smart ones anyway) or mean it when they say, "I want kids". I think on the whole he is confused, in love and hurt at the same time. Then again I might know nothing, my track record with women hasn't been stellar.
2006-11-03 03:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your building the case-I suggest 3 things-first you stay friends with him if your divorced and your x has had sex with another-it makes you free to remarry-
second -get counseling-if your honest with yourself and you had anger issues with you x husband
third -and most important let Jesus into your heart to forgive even one lie-and save you and be your best friend-John chapter 3 and Revelation 3vs19&20
4th relax-enjoy life and make sure-its not just rebound and your covering up why you got upset with him the last time. enjoy life and anyone can be anything till 6 months into a relationship that is when the real Jesus in us or the other god's we would serve will come out. peace up in Jesus amazing grace :D
2006-11-03 03:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
He still wants you but you have seen him as a friend. Pray and ask God about it. It may be that God has planned this man for you.
2006-11-03 03:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Godb4me 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YOU ASK THIS QUESTION LAST WEEK.
WHAT ARE YOU UP TO.
HOPING SOME ONE WILL SAY ITS OK TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER MAN?
IF YOU HUSBAND IS HITTING YOU CALL 911
GO TO A WOMANS SHELTER.
STAY AWAY FROM MEN TILL YOU GROW UP.
2006-11-03 03:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by funnana 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋