I have been with my boyfriend for two years. Everything has been great. I truly believe that he is my soulmate. I have a three year old by another guy. My son has never been a problem in our relationship until recently. We were thinking about moving in together but he doesn't feel comftorable because of my son. He is a great guy and I want to spent the rest of my life with him but I also want him to be part of my sons life and to accept the whole package I come with. I'm beginning to think he is never going to accept my son. I guess I should also mention my son still has a father in the picture but we are not together. I am really considering ending the relationship but I really love him and I wish there was a way I could make him understand that if he is going to be in a relationship with me, my son is always going to be in the picture. I'm so confused, what should I do?
2006-11-02 19:13:59 · 8 answers · asked by eve25_18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he truly loves you, he'll accept you and the whole package that comes with you. i think it's better to talk about it before moving in. because you son may become a problem in your relationship. tell him that if he really can't accept you son then it's better to go separate ways with him. you deserve someone who will accept for who you are.
2006-11-02 19:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by twenty_four 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So this guy has known about your son since the baby was 1 year old. And now all of a sudden he can't handle it? Then have him move on and find someone that can. If he hasn't accepted the whole package yet, it will just get worse and cause you alot of problems and heartache. Because of the fighting over your son. And your son will feel it and eventually see it. So you don't want that kind of tension in his life. Find someone that loves your son and you.
2006-11-03 03:20:23 · answer #2 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you mentioned, you and your son are 'A PACKAGE'. if he really loves you, he would accept you as you are, baggage and all. you are not going to dump your son for him so most likely he'll get the boot in the end if this carries on. he must understand, it's either you and your son or nothing. get this into his head. he shouldnt have anything against a three-year-old.
2006-11-03 03:22:23 · answer #3 · answered by blossomjade 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you, like what you say, he will and he should accept the whole package that comes with you. if he don't then you know the answer.. yes you love him but how about your son? are you willing to leave him just for a man? i hope you make a good decision..
2006-11-03 03:20:16 · answer #4 · answered by kezongputi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your heart and life to Jesus Christ!! Have you heard of Him? I know he get a lot of rap, but if you really look into it, you will find that he's the one your searching for. He will help you to face each problem.
By the way, most people who live together without a real commitment to marriage, only find that they are setting themselves up for major heart break... DON'T DO THAT TO YOURSELF! You are worth more than that!
2006-11-03 03:23:19 · answer #5 · answered by martha_828 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really does love you,he will love you for who you are,and who you are means you together with your son,talk to him sincerely as early as now,and ask him what he really feels, if he will promise to make it work together with your son,give him a chance to prove his promise,if he does not even consider moving together with your child,,its time to say goodbye ,he does not really love you if that would be the case
2006-11-03 03:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to accept you and your son as one package.
he's being unfair to you because your son is part of your lfe. what does he expect from you?
2006-11-03 03:18:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him the space he needs, but if he can't deal with your son, then that's your answer, isn't it?
2006-11-03 03:18:16 · answer #8 · answered by sam I am 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋