Dating problems?

Question

Okay, I am in a real emotional quandry. This guy likes me, he is a co worker. Well we kind of fooled around a bit, well I found out he had this big emotional attachment to me. I was shocked. I really like him but not like that. I never was interested in a relationship. I dont have the time right now because I am a full time college student and I am working two jobs just to make enough money to pay bills. What do I do, he also buys food for me and it makes me want to cry. I accept the food because I have money troubles and I need what I can get. Please dont make me seem like the bad guy, I never asked for this. What should I do? I dont want to hurt his feelings, im just not able to devote the emotional time for a relationship. PLEASE HELP ME :.(

Answer 1

just tell him you are not ready for a commitment and hopes he understands you. you have other priorities like your studies and financial problems and can't have time to get into a relationship and say sorry for being like that. if he really likes you he'll continue what he's doing.

Answer 2

He's going back to the caveman days. literally! providing food for the woman he percieves to be his--you! you're gonna have to break it to him and stop accepting the food. and make it on your own. it's part of being an adult. you'll have to break it to him gently if you don't want to hurt his feelings. but yes he is DEFINITLY into you. If you are into him and simply dont' have the time, still refuse the food and tell him you can pick up the relationship at a time when you are out of college since the two jobs are keeping you busy. it's a BAD idea to try to get married in your situation. I think you figured out fooling around was a bad idea. I'd advise you to fill up your free time with your studies. you may have to get a THIRD job to pay for food. or get a job at a pizza place or shop in the damaged food bin at the grocery store if you have to. there ARE ways to make ends meet. try learning to manage money. try making your lunches and dinners for the week and sticking them in the freezer and taking them with you and you won't spend money on fast food. (my borther is doing this. every week he has to cook and fill up his container but it's worth it to get through the week.) as for the guy suggest he sign up for a dating service because he sounds like a gem! he should finmd himself another girl really soon.

Answer 3

um...maybe I'm going out on a limb here, but just be honest with him? either he'll accept things as they are, or not. if you don't feel comfortable iwth that, knowing his feelings for you, then you have to make a choice between your current situation, a regular relationship (which, if he's someone worthwhile, could end up giving you more emotional time/energy) or, indeed, giving up the financial help and making a cleam break.

Answer 4

all you can do is tell him what you just wrote. Tell em' that you didn't mean to give him hope by taking the food, but also you couldn't refuse it either. Trust me I did the same thing at one point. It wasn't easy, and I will tell you that if you don't want to hurt his feelings, well it's already too late. All you can do is stop him from getting even more emotionally attatched. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 5

I think reality doesnt break any relationships. Explain your prpoblem to him and as a human being he will understand. dont delay too long because it might give him the impression that you like him too or mabye playing hard to get. GOOD LUCK DEAR

Answer 6

make time once a guy moves on its not likely to come back ecspically if he is buying u food if guys lose $ we get pissed

Answer 7

you 'fooled around' and then take food from him,what kind of a person are you?