im 16 and my girlfriend and i are quite ready to have sex. i like her a lot and weve been together for 5 months now. im a virgin though, and im a little worried about how im gonna perform. For example, im worried that the first time i penetrate is gonna feel so good that im gnna come instantly. i masturbate and i dont come too quickly there, but i dont know if how long i last will be shorter or not. also, im not sure if my penis will satisfy her. i need some help! what should i expect for first time! and anyone making any sarcastic comments, please save them.
2006-11-02 18:16:04 · 8 answers · asked by yungjaf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and yes, i do like her a lot. we are both quite ready and will use protection. The question is about my insecurities and how i should handle them
2006-11-02 18:19:59 · update #1
First it is ok to be feeling a bit 'worried'. I know men in their fourties and fifties that sometimes have felt the same worry.
If she is a virgin also, then she may have some worries too yeah know. In any case just go with it, don't expect anything. Of yourself or her. Just enjoy the experience to the fullest no matter how it turns out. Relax. Lol "not sure my penis will satisfy her" Its not the size that matters, it's what you do with it. I have heard guys over and over wonder about the size of their dick vs a ladies satisfaction and really that topic in allot of women's opinion is irrelevant. Chances are very good as soon as you two connect physically you will be blowing your load pretty much momentarily so don't sweat it. I recall when I first started having sex and orgasms were always pretty much instantaneous.
A secret to prolong your performance? When you urinate, stop in mid flight, start and stop. Practise this and you will be able to go longer I have heard. Have fun!
2006-11-02 18:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by opinionative_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to sex, there are two very important things to remember: one, that you are ultimately the person in charge of your own happiness and your own body; and two, you have a lot of time to wait until you're totally sure about it. If you decide to put off sex, it's OK — no matter what anyone says. Being a virgin is one of the things that proves you are in charge, and it shows that you are powerful enough to make your own decisions about your mind and body.
If you find yourself feeling confused about decisions related to sex, you may be able to talk to an adult (like a parent, doctor, older sibling, aunt, or uncle) for advice. Keep in mind, though, that everyone's opinion about sex is different. Even though another person may be able to share useful advice, in the end, the decision is up to you.
2006-11-02 18:29:26 · answer #2 · answered by i_lyn_tek_i 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, give yourself time to Fall in Love with her. Give her at least that much. Don't do it just because of the pressures of everybody else is having sex and what not. Make sure you are willing to be in that relationship for the long haul. Remember, condoms are not always 100%. You are not just going to have sex, you will be making love. Sex is supposed to be a symbol of how much love you have for one person. Having said that all guys are insecure about their first time. If you are so afraid of cumming too early try masturbating before she arrives. It helps you go on longer. As for the size, well at times it all has to do with technique, and not always about size. You have to know how to use it. If you let her know it's your first time I am sure she will understand. You never know, it might even be her first time.
2006-11-02 18:31:02 · answer #3 · answered by laranita82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay a virgin till you're married.
God intended it to be that way.
But many, MANY people abuse that.
And God looks down on those people.
Sex makes many things complicated in an unmarried relationship.
It takes two very mature people.
You do not want to get yourself lost in everything that comes with sex.
Most people nowadays tend to just BASE their relationship on sex.
And you're too young. Anything can happen.
2006-11-02 18:20:26 · answer #4 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practice makes perfect...See, you actually masturbate and don't come too quickly...That's good! So yea, try to pace yourself.
Pretty sure when you're doing it..you'd be able to control it... Good luck there, bud!
2006-11-02 18:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Dastfreadsv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You LIKE her alot??? Dont have sex with someone you dont love. thats why diseases spread.
2006-11-02 18:18:14 · answer #6 · answered by Molly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be cool at that time.
even if u *** premature, don't worry.
soon u would have another erection to satisfy her.
2006-11-02 18:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by Kumar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you arent old enough for sex and neither is she.
2006-11-02 18:19:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋