21 years old and so lost?

Question

So I'm 21 yrs old, I have a GED and some college. My mother has completely lost all touch with reality, my father lives on the other side of the country and is in poor health. I have no money, no car, a shitty paying job and live with my sister. My sister wants me out of the house becuase I' always depressed and never want to spend time with her. I need to leave by the end of this month... any suggestions on where I should go? what I should try? Moving is not an issue with me becuase I adjust well in new enviorments.... no matter where I go I will survive... but I just dont know whwere to go....... I was thinking somewhere south?

Please no lectures of any kind, I am in fact not a loser. I have little but was born into nothing. I'm just looking for some ideas and tips on how to decide my next move.

Yea I tried the military when I turned 18, they wont take me becuase I broke my foot when I was 14 and its ******... I can walk, run and jump, but they didnt care, I'm useless to them.

The depression is more or less becuase of my current situation... colllege requires money, I was doing great 3.8 gpa, then my mom just went of the egde, So i had to move in with my sister.. my grades slipped becuase I cant really deal with my mom..... This has all happened in the past 4 months, I dont even know where my mother is at this point.

Answer 1

first take a deep breath and think about what you want to do and where you want to be and figure out what is missing in your life and find it good luck

Answer 2

I am the same as you. I am also 21, engaged and have a baby. My friends just don't seem to want to grow up for the most part and drink every weekend. They aren't really baby people so sometimes it's hard to find a middle ground. I would call them or email them and see if they want to hang out sometime because they probably think you're too busy to do things (which someitmes you are) but if you make plans then they will see that you're still you. get a sitter if you can and go have some fun. I love staying home with my baby, but sometimes you just have to do something for yourself. It's hard when you live an hour away from your family though, but the weekends are always great lol

Answer 3

If you think you're strong and smart enough, you should try New York City or Los Angeles, maybe even Las Vegas. Your still young and need to learn about life, the three cities that I've listed will give you such training, IF you are able to survive such training without being sucked into organized crimes and drugs.

Anyhow, at 21, you can sleep on the street and beg for food, you will still live for another day and become something as long as there is a goal and will. You don't need anything or anyone, at the moment, BUT and this is a BIG BUT, you need to get yourself an EDUCATION. You can loose it all and still make it back if you are educated.

Answer 4

I think you should stay close to family. Be independent but live close to a friend or a family relation. It can get lonely out there. For someone prone to depression, you'll crave a friendly face once in awhile.

Or if you are up for an adventure maybe some traveling would be good for you. Look into teaching English abroad. Some pay room and board and you get to go out and see the world.

Answer 5

Sounds like an ideal situation for a rebirth of some kind. If you were indeed, born into nothing, than this should be looked at as an opportunity. Follow your heart. I know that sounds gay, but, it's true. Try everything, without judgment. Find out what works for you, and, what doesn't. Live my man! This is your life. You can do as little with it as you want. But, you know what, you can also do the opposite. Go, be bold. Dream big....

Answer 6

my heart goes to you. i really feel for you. you are in a situation were you have nothing. but i will help you. listen carefully. we have all been there. what you have to do is take all your emotions and put it deep in your heart and lock it. sometimes we dont like to smile but we have to. life is like that. firstly talk to your sis. tell her how much she means to you and try work out a scedule where you two can spend some time together. secondly, dont quit your job. as sucky it is, at least it pays. keep the job and be on the look out for a better one. thirdly, apply for a night school. pick up your studies where you left off. work hard. study hard. think of your mom. maybe if you study you cold get her pretty things and she will be happy. dont you want that for her? life sucks but dont give up. stop running and face the facts. you have to work and you have to be someone in this world.look at the bright side, atleat you can have a home if you patch up with your sis. suck up to your sis. give her whatever she wants,dont let her throw you out on the streets, dont be a hobo.i personally stayed with my 15 inlaws under one roof for 6 years because we had no money. we sufferred a lot. so i know how it is. and when you feel depressed, pray to god. he will help you.

Answer 7

Well ive lived in alot of different places....Texas, Jersey, Kentucky, Indiana, Georgia...and w/o a doubt the south is by far the best. Its easier to be put in a good mood when the weather is fair all the time and the ppl in the south are genuinely nicer (IMO). I dont know about you but im not a big city guy either, you know a place w/ 50 - 100 K ppl does it for me, but thats just preference...........somewhere or TX or even the Carolinas would be my preference...

Answer 8

The best thing I can say to do is look in the paper and see about live in jobs, such as a nanny or people looking for a room mate or there's always friends. I was in a very simular situation as your in now except, I was in a place where I had no one and knew no one and being a live in nanny saved me from being homeless. I feel for you and understand.

Answer 9

Perhaps you could look into websites that have roomate listings. If you are depressed, you probably don't want to live alone and maybe you could use someone to help you get out of the house and meet new people. Maybe you could go back to college to have some fun.

Answer 10

Move to california and take Gracie Jiu Jitsu and then train to fight in the UFC, or move to Dallas, TX and train in Machado Jiu Jitsu and then fight in the UFC.
If you are not a fighter type of person, then you should move somewhere that is sunny and warm and get a job and finish college.

Answer 11

accept jesus as lord and repent from your sins so you can be right with god and be saved eterally. without god life means nothing. there is a place called garyjob corps. #1-800-600-5075. they give you a place to stay and 100 different careers to choose from and its all free. just like collage. or tell your sister you love her and spend time with her and find a christain church.