I gave her a promise ring?

Question

I know that she is the one and I can not lose her so I gave her a promise ring on her birthday because I want her to know that I want to be with her and only her and that I am commited to our relaionship. I do want to marry this girl someday but right now we are both too young for marriage. I gave her the ring and all was well she accepted and she was happy. The next day some stuff went down with her moms boy friend that really scared her and it was a problem that we had in the past which has not happened in two years. So the next day I come go to her house she explains all that happened and then told me couldnt be with me for fear that we would have the same problem again. Instead of making sure that our relationship would go on she broke up with me. We had been together for 2 1/2 years so i didnt rush things. Now we arent even together at all. Im really upset about itand i still want to be with her. Should i pursue this it has been two months already.

I love her with all of my heart and I know she is the one and I dont want to just let her go.

Answer 1

Sounds like her problems at home are putting a big strain on your relationship. Talk to her once she calms down, let her know how you feel. Otherwise, let things cool off a bit, then when the time is right get back together.

If she's really being difficult and seems to have lost all interest in the relationship, then I'm sorry to say it, but it may be time to move on.

Good luck.

Answer 2

To be honest with you, I feel that its just a copout on her part, there is no logical reason why she would use something that happened a while ago to break up with you just because another cpl faced the same situation. HOw this cpl handled it is irrelevant to your situation simply because you two are different ppl all together.
I understand how very much it hurts to realize that the one you love doesn't reciprocate but you must come to terms with this fact. However, I am the kind of guy that likes to make sure everything that could be done was done so talk to her in person and tell her exactly how you feel, no games, no guilt trips, just facts. If she doesn't understand that or belives what your heart is telling her then honestly you are better off without her.
Hope it helps and im me if you want to talk more.

Answer 3

If you haven't been stalking her for the last two months til she's beyond wanting to talk to you, try approaching her in a friendly manner. Tell her that you still think about her and feel very strongly about her and would like to see things work out. Explain that you think she is able to overcome the problems of her family and make a better life for herself. Tell her that you would like to go to counseling to see if your relationship can be saved. Tell her that she would be doing a favor to you if she went because you can't seem to just let it go because you still have so much hope for the future with her. Then actually find a therapist and go. Ask around for recommendations in your area because there are good ones and bad ones out there and you don't want to waste your time/money or make things worse. Then go and hope for the best but don't push things too fast. If she doesn't change her mind, go on with your life.

Answer 4

It's a promise to be in combination. That in the future you are going to get married. The cause you do not get an engagement ring is considering the fact that that is a signal to begin making plans and he is not capable for that but. But a promise ring is announcing he does not desire to be with any individual else and he needs you to understand that too. And it would be a colossal deal relying on what form of man your with.

Answer 5

How young is too young I would like to know. She sounds like she is your first love. And those hurt the worst. But its been 2 months now and though you love her, give her time. If she, "truly" loved you she will find you. But if you have not heard anything within this amount of time, you need to start moving forward. If the problem was with her Mom's bf, what will the next reason be to break up if you do decide to get back together. I know you say you love her, but you need to think about you now.

Answer 6

Wow, together for 2 1/2 years. that is great. You should get her back. I can't believe she let you go. Just because something has happened with her mom doesn't mean it will happen between you and if it did then you could possible work it out differently. Everybody is different. She needs you back. You can't give something like this up. 2 1/2 yrs and you're still in love. She is crazy!!

Answer 7

Follow your heart. Explain to her that love is always a risk. It needs to be worked on daily. It's not always sunshine and butterflies. Try to persuade her from your side, gently. Tell her you understand. If she still doesn't want to get together, give her some time. Wait for her as long as you can, but when you know that she has given up on you, then move on. Good luck and I wish you all the best. I know it hurts ;(

Answer 8

If you know she's the one then you'll end up together...so let it go, relax, live your life. If she's your soulmate...then you shouldn't have to force the relationship back, it will just work out that way :) I'm sorry this happened.

Answer 9

make her sign a contract so u can get it back trust me i lost about 450$ on a promise ring its a stupid idea when u lose ur investment

Answer 10

hmmm, well it depends do u know 100% for sure that she loves u the way u love her? u can never be to sure. because what may seem like love for u can seem like clingy-ness for her. so u might wanna watch out. this is just coming from a girls perspective.