i love this girl very much.i told her that i love her. she said she cares bout me as a friend. she already have a boyfriend. am i wrong if i try to make her love me? do i have a change? am i a selfish person?
2006-11-02 17:33:19 · 12 answers · asked by M - pet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You can't make someone love you. They'll have to naturally love you on their own.
She currently has a bf. How would you feel if you had a gf, and some guy was trying to make her fall in love with him?
2006-11-02 17:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by JenGen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing we can hope for is for our love to be reciprocated even if not equally.
BUT love is something that cannot be forced on anyone. No matter how hard you try to love someone, you cannot beg him/her to love you back as well.
You love because you love period.
And sometimes love also serves as a motivating factor for someone to change but there will ALWAY be something that will go with it:
What if the other person cannot give the amount of love you expected of him/her? What then?
Should this lead you to go back to your old ways?
Or give up changing for the better because it was not worth it?
Think of it this way: You want to change because you want to change -- not for the other but for your own good.
2006-11-03 01:50:10 · answer #2 · answered by Alias G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't believe you can make someone love you. She has already told you that she sees you as a friend. You're probably better off to move on man, find someone else. Not easy, I know, but if you continue down this path, you might, at a later time begin to resent her for not feeling what you want her to feel. Just graciously accept her friendship and get on with your life. Who knows? She might have a change of heart at a later date. Good luck. :)
2006-11-02 17:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by Rich B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is a bad idea to try and sleep with her if she has a boyfriend. Besides, if she doesn't feel the same way, then it's not "making love" right? Don't do it. Let her be with the other guy and move on.
2006-11-02 17:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG MISTAKE.................!!! YOUR asking for trouble from her and her boyfriend...... you cant make some one love you sorry if this were true bradd pitt, antonio banderasm ben affleck, and josh hartnet ,jude law would all be mine lol!!! just to name a few !! the best thing to do is accept her friendship and not tick her off to the point where she doesnt want to be your firend and she loese all respect for you!! learn this now and you will be ahead of the game of love!!! and you wont end up in the hospital either due to her boyfriend!!! im sure you dont want that!!! maybe things will chage , maybe they wont either way find some one whose interested in you!!! good luck!!
2006-11-02 17:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by southernspring2010 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is good that you have told her that you love her, eventhough you're rejected. but you will not blame yourself in the future for not telling her and having that "what if's feeling" if you didn't give yourself a chance of telling the one you love that you love her.
though it will be wrong to make her love you coz you know that he has another man...you dont want someone do that you...just be content that you have releade your feeling by telling her yu love her...life is too short to be wasted on worrying....
2006-11-02 20:00:54 · answer #6 · answered by amit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is very wrong and is also not going to work. You cant force her she will have a restraining order out on you. There are many more girls than just that one.
2006-11-02 17:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by dsgg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give up cos by now you should know that she doesn't love you back no matter how hard you try to win her heart.
2006-11-02 18:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doesn't like you and she's in a relationship so give up.. you will only get hurt i know its hard but you cant make someone love you its impossible...
2006-11-02 17:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE anyone love you...and if she already has a boyfriend, back off, bucko!
2006-11-02 17:35:28 · answer #10 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋