I'm a freshman in college and there's this guy that I've been hanging around with some since about the beginning of this semester. I feel like we've gotten to know each other pretty well. He's taken me out to eat a few times. He pays for me and holds open doors and all. Every time we do anything, he pays for it. I sent him a message on Facebook telling him I liked him as more than a friend at one point (I'm shy). He said that he was focusing on school and didn't want a relationship right now. He's still hung up on this girl from high school. He said that he doesn't think he can ever love anyone as much as he loved her...it seems like he's into me sometimes, but I can't tell really. I don't know if he likes me and just doesn't want to date, or if he only likes me as a friend. We're going to do something tommorow night. I'm making it a point to stay here for a weekend day finally, he's always tried to get me to. I just find it hard to just be friends with him...anyone have any advice?
2006-11-02 17:22:54 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Interesting situation....it occurs often. Sounds like he likes you but does not want to either "jump into another serious relationship" on the other hand, he might be the right guy for you, and by pushing the issue you will only make matters worse. It sounds to me like your starting to fall for this guy, but you need to realize you need to prioritize (sp) your life.... if your a freshman in college you should be concentrating on your future, and not so much on falling in love. Get your head straight! Since you obviously enjoy being around him, it sounds like you have plenty of time for something more to develop. Let it happen on its own, or not at all. Dont throw away a perfectly good friend because of your feelings. Remember this....Feelings Change!
2006-11-02 17:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by John P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmmmm that's hard. I'd tell him to his face, how you feel. There's no point in doing it over the internet cause he can't see your reaction and how you really feel even though its hard. Gotta step up girl.
you need to ask him why he's doing all this stuff for you (paying+taking you out)....holding the door is just courtesy. he might not even realize what he's doing. just tell him he's being misleading. he needs to tell you whether he wants a friendship or a girlfriend. but it sounds like maybe he just needs a girl - friend right now, not a girlfriend. break ups are hard especially with the ones you used to love so give it time and let him get a chance to trust you.
2006-11-02 17:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by wreckless_angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get too anxious. If he's not ready, cause he's not ready. just be there for him and always remain as his friend. If you've already gave him the hint, then he knows about it. Usually college is about getting that degree and its very important. Maybe, he wants to focus on accomplishing his success by earning his degree. Just be patient and never give up on each other.
2006-11-02 17:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might unload him asap. If he likes yet another female and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? genuine love would not play video games or have wandering eyes, it incredibly is dedicated and not common artwork. you are able to desire to be sure this as a pink flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your youthful, i'm guessing, you shouldn't additionally be pondering a severe dating that is going to reason you lack of self belief. have exciting, do no longer develop into overly invested in this, WHAT? you are able to no longer flirt? circulate on, the writing is on the wall and it spells hardship. Do your self a want and minimize the guy loose, no remember if it incredibly is destined to be, it is going to run it incredibly is course and he would be returned. yet why you will possibly take him returned in basic terms you are able to answer.
2016-10-21 04:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by casaliggi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wake up.He is using you.Such people just make you jealous by doing such things,keep you hanging ,enjoy and then leave you in the end like nothing.Look for someone else in your college.Thats happened with a friend of mine.So be careful.
2006-11-02 17:27:38 · answer #5 · answered by tej 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he likes you, thats it, he likes your company and enjoys going out with you, he doesnt want any ties now and hes right. either enjoy what you have and dont put this i love you junk in his way, or give up on him and find another guy., you are there to go to school you know, not rope a man, why not enjoy the company of someone nice and stop trying to put a rope on him.
2006-11-02 17:27:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about finishing school first your are very young and you need to enjoy yourself right now and just relax. your time will come after school and when you establish yourself. take it from experiece. enjoy his friendship and try not to make something of it let it happen on its own. but for now as yourng as you are try to stay single for a while and enjoy dating
2006-11-02 17:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by feeling hopeless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just watch you heart and your emotions..
many men have been stuck on a woman from their past, went on to start lives with others, only to meet up with the 1st mentioned girl and ruin more than one family and life..
untill he gets over her for good and is ready to move on, keep him as only a friend, not a romance or relationship...
2006-11-02 17:27:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep after him for a couple of more months. If by then he doesn't see you as his girlfriend, give up on him and look for someone new. Your life is finite.
2006-11-02 17:29:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
all hes interested in is getting into your pants. if u are frisky, go for it. but beware, the door opening ect are sure signs of him being gay. who knows where that peckers been before you get to it.
2006-11-02 17:29:22 · answer #10 · answered by a_bike_guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋