I am going crazy. What should I do??? Need wedding help?????

Question

this is what's up. I am getting married in about 4 months and nothing is coming together. I want a small wedding, but my fiance's family is so big that we small is out of the picture. I feel frantic and very irrational. Nothing is done and we have very little time or money to pull all of this together. No dress, no place, no photographer, no cake. We only have hopes. I can't change my wedding date. What would you do?

"I guess I should add this" We had more than enough time to plan this wedding. We've had the date since maybe March of 06. I just kept procrastinating when I started planning because it is so stressful ,especialy the part when I have to make the guest list and family members total more than triple of what I want the whole wedding to be, I am the one to blame for this big delima

Answer 1

first of all write down your budget and talk to both of your parents. explain to them that a larger wedding just is not financially feasible for you right now. there are many places to get married on the cheap...galleries, museums, beaches and parks, just to name a few. as for the dress...if you are not getting married in a church, then go less formal...i got a beatiful simple white gown at jessica mcclintock for 214.00 and it only needed to be hemmed. as for jewery, borrow it. there are many grocery stores who will make your cake for under 200.00 keep your reception simple...maybe just cake and champagne. be firm with your parents about the budget and what you two want. if all else fails...then run away to cvegas or one of the islands that will marry you just for staying there, like sandals....dont forget whose day this is and good luck

Answer 2

What are you fiance's ideas, since he has a large family?

Borrow a dress. Check with the local VFW hall or church for possible place.

consider a unique memorble wedding, instead of the conventional

A service at the place you met. etc.
A picnic cookout in a beautiful place. Request on the invitation that everyone bring a camera. Include the address of a web site created for everyone to load their pictures. There are sites that do printing for you that could supply this. Have a professional engagement or wedding photo sitting and have a print made and framed as a wedding gift to each other.
If you can't get a dress, buy the nicest white, classy silk undergarments to wear under your fiances favorite outfit on you.
Sometimes ladies groups in your town or local church can make appitizers for a modest fee.

for our wedding we set up a stereo and had all our freinds bring the music we all shared together.
I found a dress on a discount rack a Pennys that there were a lot of various sizes. My brides maids were very happy, they all got a dress cheap, off the rack that looked great. If the shoes are all the same color it makes it come together.
Each girl carried a long stem rose and it was just lovely.
My little sister paid over $10,000 on her wedding. I had a great time at my wedding and I was broke. Money doesn't mean its nicer or less stressful.


I planned a wedding for two hundred with no money while working two jobs and going to school.

Your making your memories, not everyone elses.

Good luck,

Answer 3

Don't stress!!! Okay this is a sticky situation but you will get through this... .you need to start out slow... so you need a place for the ceemony... are you getting married in a church? Go find a place to have the wedding the stuff after is a piece of cake.
If money is tight, you NEED to have a smaller wedding. Let your fiance know that since money is tight you have to limit the guest list, he will understand unfortunetly men don't realize how expensive everything is. Now try looking into a local golf course, they usualy have a banquet room and their prices aren't extremely high, because they are not often used as a reception hall..... once you have done that eveything else will follow. You do need to get your dress already, they often talke months to be made depending on where you get it. DON"T Stress its all going to work out.

Answer 4

Well, let's move past the blame game. It's time to get with your fiance (or his mother) and have him prepare his side of the guest list, and you take care of yours. Either get really creative and design and make your own ivitations or, head to Walmart and choose the kind you print yourself and stuff and address the envelopes. I guess I got a little ahead of myself, you'll need to call around and find out who has a place available, because you'll need to choose your venue before you can move on to anything else. I sugguest a church, especially if you're a member of one. They're usually cheaper than most other places, they provide all the seating you'll need and they usually have a reception hall and you will not have to move around, or hire another place. Take a good look at the church and decide what decorations are most needed, or most important. For my wedding I rented an arch and candle aubras and decorated the pews, but just decorating the pews would usually make all the difference. Look for a dress off the rack, or even just go and try on dresses somewhere like David's bridal, and decided what style you need, and have your measurements taken, then look for a dress on ebay that meets your needs. I spent $125 on my dress and it was gorgeous and was my measurements, I only had to have the length taken up. It is possible to find a photographer to work for cheap, if you're near Dallas, Texas I know someone. Otherwise look around and if you dont find someone, consider asking a friend, or even two friends to take pictures, with a nice camera, not a disposable camera lol. Look for a family friend, or try cakecentra.com to see if there is a baker in your area to make your cake, they're usually more reasonably priced than a huge bakery with a lot of overhead.

Answer 5

Well it sounds like if you're short on money and time that you might have to make some sacrifices and maybe find a photographer and cake maker that aren't exactly professional. How's your grandma at making cakes? If you don't have money for the big white dress, go to a nice boutique and buy one there for around $100. If it's possible to have the wedding outside in someone's backyard, that would nice too. You have to put your mind to this if you want to get it done. Just take it one step at a time.

Answer 6

Here is a suggestion: Never be afraid to ask for help. Anyways, it never hurts to ask your relatives or have him ask his relatives if they could help you buy something for the wedding. In my wedding I had different aunts and uncles purchase my wedding dress, cake, chapagne, the band, dance hall, ect. If you do decide to ask them to help you like that you can always give them a dinner, or invite all of them to the rehearsal dinner. My parents new how helpful all my aunts and uncles were when I got married and they served them all a brisket dinner, which included rice, beans, potatoe salad, and jalapenos on the side.... It was a great way to get everyone together as well. And everyone had a great time at the dance we had after our ceremony.

Answer 7

Take it from someone who orchestrated her wedding around EVERYONE else but herself and I'm still living to regret it. Bottom line is this, once the day is over, you are stuck with a huge bill from a wedding that you really didn't want in the first place, or you being happy and certain members being displeased with you. Take it in stride. Even if you please them this go around, they will try and pin you in a corner the rest of your life............."Oh you should have thanksgiving at YOUR house",,,,,,,or "When are you going to have kids, you're not getting any younger".................they will always have something to say, so you might as well put your foot down now so they know who they are messing with and you enjoy YOUR day!! Congrats

Answer 8

First, BREATHE.

Now, repeat after me. ...It's MY wedding. It's MY wedding.

Do it again. It's MY wedding. It's MY wedding.


Now, do the smart thing and take yourself, and your fiance, and your parents, siblings, and his to the church. QUIETLY. Get Married. When you are ready, have a reception at home in the backyard.

Remember, this is the one day in your whole life that is about YOU.

Answer 9

elope - very, very cheap - on the other hand, if nothing is done, why bother? It would be better to cut your loses now than afterwards. (Its really cheaper doing that BEFORE the wedding).

Answer 10

Borrow money from the bank or anyone!