So I dated a guy in the military and he was stationed far away and I met him for the first time when he was on leave. We met through the internet. He was home for a month and the first several weeks we spent every second together. I met his whole family and they would always invite me over, take me to dinner, and take pictures with me and him. He always paid for things, bought me a present for no reason and always told me that he loved me. 2 days before he left I never heard from him again. The last time we hung out he told me he loved me, the next day we talked on the phone and made plans for that night. I called later and he didnt answer. I found out he met another girl and spent those last 2 days with her. I emailed her and he had pretended to call me and break up with me and told her I said I was gonna kick her ***. But I never talked to him, I never said that. Isn't that weird, what happened? Why did he do that? What was it all about? Please shed some light, he wont talk to me.
2006-11-02 16:57:00 · 17 answers · asked by just me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You met him over the Internet. Enough said! He met this other girl over the Internet as well! Get it? He came home for a visit and made the best out of it. He took what he could get and than he went back to do his duty.
2006-11-02 17:02:27 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it alone.. he is obviously not man enough to explain to you what happend. If you haven't figured out that he has used you, than i'm not sure what else to tell you. If you have met his family and such, think nothing of it. This may be a pattern for him, and his family is just used to it. If he has told the other girl lies about you, why would you think he would tell you the truth if he spoke to you? Forget talking to him.. It's just a waste of time. Quit using his nonexplanatory ways as a reason to keep calling him. Keep your dignity, and just move on. He's not worth all that attention after what he has done to you!
2006-11-03 01:07:17 · answer #2 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is inmature, and playing the field. If you care about him. Back off on the love stuff. He doesn't know what that means. Try knowing each other as freinds. Don't talk about other people, don't make commitments to not see other people. (He obviously isn't ready for a relationship). When he grows up, if your still freinds, the relationship will naturally come.
I had the the same problem, with a guy I was nuts about. He became my best freind for six years, until we got married. We just celebrated 25years, and he's still my best freind.
2006-11-03 01:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Pat B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are puzzled and confused, but do you really think total strangers, who don't know either of you, can tell you why he behaved as he did? It's just not possible...we can merely speculate...
What goes around, comes around...he'll get it back...but as for reasons all I can say is he knew he was leaving and there was no point in committment...he'd spent time and had fun with you, but then met someone else who caught his eye and he figured, why not check her out to? He felt no obligation to you and the desire to be with her...
Not a kewl guy, but then he came home for only a month and you two supposedly declared love for one another...that's moving pretty quick...that may be his m.o. with women...who knows...
2006-11-03 01:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be a lot of reasons for that..maybe he is a womanizer and loves flirting and enjoys having affairs. Secondly, he might know that girl from somewhere, Thirdly, he feels so embarrassed for what he has done and he feels regretful now. The best way is to confront him and if you cannot, you would ask his other girlfriend about the seriousness of their affairs and whether it is a one night stand or not. I wish you talked to him and learn everything from him as he is the only one who knows the reasons and motives for the things.
Good luck to you..
2006-11-03 01:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Fleur de lis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me you were the other woman he always intended on being with her and if he liked her more than you are nothing to him as an ex soldier I assure you I have seen a lot what I have learned is you much accept the things you cannot change hope you have the courage to change the things you can and hope you have the wisdom to know the difference good luck in your journey I do hope I have helped you
2006-11-03 01:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by simplehoneylove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he didn't want to hurt your feelings and break up and he told the other girl the lies because he didn't want her to talk to you for any reason so both of you wouldn't find out that he is a snake in the grass.
2006-11-03 01:01:02 · answer #7 · answered by blueberry_coconut_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know that you dont want to hear this but your better off. The guy might make 15 grand a year making him poor and eligable for food stamps. But to really answer your question maybe he just got bored of one girl???
2006-11-03 01:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by alexmojo2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is not uncommon for the circumstances..
this happens day after day , during times of war..
do yourself a favor, move on..
he was looking for soe good times and memories before he left so he could have the experiences incase he never returns..
remember the good times, use them to enrich future relationships..
2006-11-03 01:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by The Chesire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You forgot to mention what you did to push him away. How did you find out who she is anyway?????? LIES
If that is all true, they he just got bored of you and found someone else and didnt have the respect to even tell you he was breaking up with you.
2006-11-03 01:00:25 · answer #10 · answered by Thumper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋